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The issue of declining morals in our societies is one which BU remains very concerned.  We have recorded our view in previous blogs; the issue of homosexuality is one of a moral flavour and not the rights issue in which the gay movement has been able to escalate this issue. The recent same sex marriage which occurred in Latin America and  the arrest of a gay couple in Malawi has given renewed currency to the gay debate. There is no doubt the movement is beginning to probe the  Caribbean space in a more aggressive manner. Our hoppa-long leaders will have to declare a position soon. The next two years will make for interesting politics in the Caribbean region.

Tomorrow at 2PM Bajan time, the BBC World Service will broadcast its popular program World Have Your Say. A BU blog, A Step Too Far Or Fairness And Equality: Same Sex Partner’s Legal Rights posted by family member Yardbroom has been featured on the BBC blog which promotes tomorrow’s radio show. Unfortunately BU (David) had to decline the BBC invitation to be on the show tomorrow; a challenge which BU will have to overcome at some point.

The gay debate has reached an interesting point in the US and the UK especially. There is a willingness to accept gay relationships but hesitancy when taking the normal next step to marriage. This current state of affairs is being described as duplicitous to say the least.

For those who are not able to listen live we hope to post a link to the Podcast to the program for the BU family.

Happy New Year Everyone!


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172 responses to “BBC’s World Have Your Say Asks: Is Marriage A Step Too Far For Gay Rights?”


  1. Hi Anonymous
    Forgive the lateness of my response I was otherwise engaged.
    My comments were addressing the bloger who wrote:
    “Tell me how long would a Bajan marriage last if the husband withdrew all financial, practical and social privilidges? can any Bajan marriage last a year if the husband decided to stop being “useful?”
    Can any Bajan marriage last if the husband decided to stop being “useful?” (unquote)

    A wife could easily be inserted in place of husband in the above comment; I therefore failed to see the logic of it.

    My statement highlighted that in a union as in marriage, partners bring different benefits to the union and in good marriages partners give what they are “capable” of giving, in that sense they are “useful” to that particular marriage.

    Re position:
    My position has not changed as you seem to suggest; what is now more “evident” is that I do not believe what I think is the only way – my reasoning in putting forward submissions – I am not that dogmatic. I have no intention of being a brick wall.

    I believe that homosexuals should be protected by Law, they should be accorded the rights and privileges civilised society has to offer. Not only because they are homosexuals but because they are human beings.

    If I am asked is their “marriage” the same as a male female marriage, then I say to my way of thinking it is not and I am yet to be persuaded it is. That is my position, it is with no antagonism or hate towards homosexuals.

    I have not been able to make the mental adjustment for such an accommodation…I am yet to be persuaded.

    Ps: Are you the same anonymous who told me what “I” should submit for discussion on Barbados Underground? since then I have not written another one; to give you space for yours but I have not seen yours on the topics you suggested, are you still “thinking” about them?


  2. No yardbroom not the same anon.


  3. @hants
    I have used tolerance when dealing with most of the gay issues but at this point I am using logic to understand same sex marriage and so far the whole idea does not make sense.
    I am not one to go along just to get along , my mind has to premit to thoroughly understand the facts before I make a decision.


  4. Homosexuality among males is something that seems to be a born trait. Male homosexuals are indeed the third gender. Homosexuality among females is different. A woman can be induced into a same sex relationship; even though she may have very been a heterosexual. This for me is where the real problem/threat lies…!


  5. m….this story serves what purpose…thius thread is not about domestic violence ….

    Gay marriage is based solely on equality. There is nothing more to it. Gay men and women having been living together in committed relationships throughout time. The issue of promiscuity among gay is another matter ( similar to promiscuity among west indian men) and it does not take away from the right to get married. If we halted marriage for ALL promiscuous people LOL they would be few marriages in BIM.
    Marriage has very little to do with religion. Marriage is more about law and tradition.
    ‘Marriage’ is also just a term. If the gays are given all the rights of all married couplesas they should be to withhold the title ‘marriage’ would be to say that they are not equal.

    Single owmne raise children without fathers around … two men cant do much worse in my opinion. I know of one married gay couple that have emplyed a female nanny to help with the raising of their daughter so as to include a female figure…. not sure if this is necessary bu we have many single mothers that have no men around AT ALL!
    so far so good the child is doing well.


  6. This thread is indeed a distraction, ma’am, but seriously, what is the alternative… engaging the BU Trinity..?


  7. Johnny postle
    Like the Boweavel- Ya gotta have a home.You and ya whole dam family made the farmer’s life a mess!Trust me you don’t srike a new chord. You can never be sure by the way of people’s dealings.I like the choice of words-‘extensive bullering’.There is a connotation there doa. I am quite comfortable in my skin and fa what it is worth stay a johnny postle not a possible Johnny! Bless ya! Good Sunday to you and de Family. Enjoy de sun and fire a rum fa me!


  8. Bonny peppa
    De cap is optional and I sleep quite well! Especially knowing that you are so concerned about me being touchous.Ever hear de joke bout ‘at first?


  9. Man + Women = Child
    Man + Man, or Woman + Woman
    =Disease and early death!

    Gay Agenda: “We are coming for your
    children!”


  10. It is quite clear that there is an agenda.


  11. Again, homosexuality is not a civil or human right issue. Homosexuality and all of its appendage issues is about the right of people to have sex with someone within the same gender group to which they were naturallky born into. It is an issue about sex. Take away sex, and the issue would not exist.

    If the debate is conducted within a false paradigm established by sympathisers of the movement, it will inevitably deviate from the core of the issue and languish in the eternal question of whether “Happy” people should have the right to marry. My position is since people have no problem in the creation of new genders in this world, then they should create institutions akin to marriage that are specific to those genders.

    The insitution of marriage is specific to heteorosexual union. It was created by Heteorosexuals, for heteorosexuals, and intended for heteorosexual cotious. If homosexuals feel that they are deserving of a system to make sacrosanct their coming together, then by all means let them take the initiative and institute one

    We are one peg and jump away from a demand by pedophiles for the right to have sex with and marry their under aged love interests. Because their issue, like that of gays, is also one of sex. It is also one of sexual connection in areas that were once unlawful, unethical and immoral.


  12. @ this point, I feel compelled to jump in here in defense of BU’s outrage, but it is more about a sense of perspective on the matter.

    Simple Simon made a powerful statement as follows:
    Man + Women = Child
    Man + Man, or Woman + Woman =Disease and early death!

    Like the professor in an earlier posted video said, we either choose it or nature will choose it for us.

    What we are experiencing is certainly a population problem and when we apply the exponential function, we see that in a very short time the human population will explode. It is about that time when we either manage ourselves or nature will take care of it.

    Maybe homosexuality is one of those corrective measures but inclusive are war, murders, diseases, etc.


  13. There are some who say the issues surrounding homosexuals and marriage are not worthy of discussion. I beg to differ.

    As we sit at ease and discuss this subject. The first gay couple to marry in Malawi, Africa, Tiwonge Chimbalanga (20 years) and Steven Monjeza (26 years) could be sentenced to 14 years in prison if found guilty of unnatural practices between males.

    They have been arrested, the couple deny consummating their relationship. The state prosecutor has applied for them to be sent to hospital to prove thay had had sex together.

    It is through discussion we know of the plight of others, it does not matter what our position is on the matter…we must think of fellow human beings.

    If a Blogg is to have any relevance and be current…it must be prepared to tackle difficult issues, but with fairness.
    …………………………………….
    @ Anonymous thanks.
    @ Bonny Peppa, I saw ROK’s handsome visage on the BBC Blogg, keep you man near, he can be taken away from you!


  14. What is so wrong with an Agenda… more specifically an agenda to RIGHTa WRONG

    I have an agenda for 2010…i intend to continue to be successful this year!

    Clearly the anti.homosexuals also have an agenda which is to conitune to victimize and discriminate against a group of humans beings… how new is that ???

    Ruel eddie and SImple very simple Simon clearly are not deep thinkers and continue to spout the usual bigotted hyperbolic statements that do not help the discussion.

    prey tell what scares yo so much about two adult same sex people having sex…


  15. @Yardbroom

    Why do you continue to rob the world of your opinions honed on the back of a rich lifelong experience because of a lone ranger? Albeit that lone ranger is entitled to voice his or her opinion.


  16. Yardbroom
    I am reassured daily of his undying love for me, so I need not worry. BBC, CBC nor CNN makes no difference. It’s me n only me, he tells me. But tanks fa de concern. I kno I could always count pun you. My dawlink Yardie.

    Raymond
    Just doan be ‘touchous’ wid me n all will be fine cause my ROK doan play when it come ta me. OK? Touchous me n ya dead to he.
    Anyway tell ma de joke ’bout at first. You attemp a joke at JOkes Corner and all like now, I doan know if ta laff, cry or pout. Tink I betta cryyyy.

    huh
    ya mek ma cry when ya attak ‘m’. I did tryin ta undastan wah it got ta do wid same-sex marriage too but ya know we like ta stray evry now n den. is one a dem times fa ‘m’. Gih he/she a brake.

    enuff
    as ya reddy ta start de comprahenshun klasses gimme a ‘holla’. I likes Ingalish rale bad and I rites it well as you kin saw.
    But enuff, de Trinis rale vialance man.rale vialance. ef i mighten sa so maselfes. (can you decipher? or I will give you in standard) doan mek sports.
    Doan faget ta sen de comprahenshun time-tayBULL.(all dis bullin tawk, i gone boe).

    Simon
    wowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww, you in all dah simple afta’ rall. Ya tricksta.
    Work pun dis equation fa ma.
    Me+ ROK=.
    I kno de ansa but i just tessin you.
    Aaightttttttttttt?


  17. huh
    I don’t think that anyone is trying to victimize or discriminate against any particular group of humans as stated by you. A question was posed and we’re all giving it our two-cents worth.
    Don’t be so petty n thin-skinned man.C’mon. You can do better than that. This same-sex marriage thing is just too much of a bitter pill to swallow for some of us. It’s a mouth-full for me and I don’t usually complain when my mouth is ‘full’.
    Tek um easy pardner.


  18. Huhh???

    The tenor of your remarks exposes who are the ones being bigoted and intolerable.

    Wherever they are, the “gay” movement always tend to cry “discrimination”. This is as near to the truth as east is to west.

    The agenda is to use what ever means to legalise and gain respectability for their lifestyle This is outright deception.

    And by the way, Huh??, contrary to what the majority says, two people of the same gender CANNOT have sex; this can only be performed by 2 of the opposite sex.

    You may ask what it is they are performing. My answer to you is…..”I don’t know!” – but it certainly ain’t sex!


  19. it is bulling; it is wickking-thats what it is. it is also…..

    sad very sad !


  20. question : who or what is ac ??


  21. @sad very sad

    Answer;Ask no question hear no lie. Think about that .
    Nosey ! Nosey very Nosey


  22. @Raymond

    Ray Ray. My My My ain’t you sensitive to the touch. Hope you are not too sore from your exploits now are ya? Now I am not here to stage a war of words with you. No sir we! But you and the many here who are trying to intellectualize the rights of bullers to marry under your twisted perverted logic is quite sickening. The very notion of same sex marriage for what ever given reasons holds no moral sway. There is no justification under the sun that can substantiate this so call perverted “right” towards the elevation of an accepted norm. So I prefer my Postleship anytime towards my position of top Johnny. But we have no issues with rights so something have to be wrong if you bullers have to fight so hard for yours.


  23. Ayeeeeeeee were did my name go. How the heck did I get anonymous. I am JOHNNY POSTLE OF A LONG LINE OF POSTLES. THAT POSTING BELONG TO THIS JOHNNY. Please do not get tie up with the name problem. The Postle who is a Johnny wrote that post for Raymond, the Ray Rear Mon


  24. Johnny Postle
    Ya got ma cryinnnnnnnn. Ya hilarious. I luv um. Can’ help but giggleeeeeee.
    Johnny, ya is real comadeeee. Murthaaa.

    sad very sad
    Murthaaaaaaaaaaa. Is dat what it are? Bullin n wikkin? Heh heyyyyyyyyyyyyy.

    Simon
    ya in dah simple afta’rall. a cryinnnnnn.But wait Simon, bullin n wikkin in sexin? You doan feel dem does get orgasms / organisms whicheva um is? Well dat is sexin man. Murdahh.


  25. Apostle
    or you mean the Rare Rear Mon?
    I is a instigata, hear.


  26. Bonny Peppa,
    What it is? Again: ” I don’t know!”

    But I think the act is too degrading to be placed in the same league as “sex”

    And to think these men want legal rights to adopt babies and raise a family?
    Raising children is a serious matter; even for heterosexuals.

    What values will the homos instill in children?
    What norms and values will they teach them that will prepare and enable them to make respectable contributions to society.

    I don’t think that the movement has given questions like those any serious thought; or have they?

    I’m out, before I am accused of being intolerable!


  27. I have no negative feelings about gays who want to live like heterosexuals. I would prefer that they (gays) be monogamous among themselves instead of being bisexual; in some cases to camouflage their true identity by dating and/or marrying the opposite sex and later causing harm to the other person.

    Having said that, I just think the act of:
    2 women making love is foolishness AND
    2 men are an awful offense.

    On a serious note, homosexuals should be treated fairly like any other human. I truly don’t see what the fuss is all about if they want to marry, which could be for other reasons other than pledging their love to each other.

    I think with the way laws are written in some jurisdictions, although these 2 people may have lived together for many years, if something is to happen to one of them, a next of kin could take some/all from that remaining partner regardless of contribution.

    If they are not allowed to marry, then a Civil Union law should be established for those who may want to go down that road.


  28. Eye Spy,

    How can a homosexual/lesbian relationship be based on “love?”

    When a grown man entices and seduces a young boy, where is the” love”
    in that?

    Love seeks the other peron’s well being; love is kind; love takes time to develop.

    Same-sex relationships based on love?
    It is certainly based on something; but do you think it is love?


  29. Simple Simon // January 3, 2010 at 11:40 PM “When a grown man entices and seduces a young boy, where is the” love” in that?

    Let me ask this… When a grown man entices and seduces a young GIRL, where is the” love” in that?

    I wrote, “…which could be for OTHER REASONS other than pledging their love to each other.”

    There are heterosexuals that marry for security, benefits, etc. In other words, not all marriages are or doesn’t have to be about LUV.


  30. @ Ruel

    “We are one peg and jump away from a demand by pedophiles for the right to have sex with and marry their under aged love interests.”

    Rubbish!!! Two consenting ADULTS are in no way similar to sex between an adult and a MINOR, who according to the law is under the legal age of responsibility.

    @ Simple Simon

    What about when a grown man entices a young girl? If we are so virtuous, how come there have been so many underage pregnancies caused by ADULTS yet not one single man has been jailed for statutory rape?

    Your name is simply fitting.


  31. lol

    The BU anti-hmosexaul troops have been rounded up.. I expect the bible thumpers to appear next!

    a pedophile Wiki:::::Pedophilia (or paedophilia) is a psychological disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a sexual preference for prepubescent children.[1][2][3] According to the World Health Organization, 16 and 17-year-old adolescents qualify if they have a persistent or predominant sexual preference for prepubescent children at least five years younger than them.[4] According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), pedophilia is specified as a form of paraphilia in which a person either has acted on intense sexual urges towards children, or experiences recurrent sexual urges towards and fantasies about children that cause distress or interpersonal difficulty.[5] The disorder is common among people who commit child sexual abuse;[6][7][8] however, some offenders do not meet the clinical diagnosis standards for pedophilia.[9] In strictly behavioral contexts, the word “pedophilia” has been used to refer to child sexual abuse itself, also called “pedophilic behavior”.[7][10][11][12][13]

    In law enforcement, the term “pedophile” is loosely used without formal definition to describe those convicted of child sexual abuse or the sexual abuse of a minor, including both prepubescent children and pubescent or post-pubescent adolescents.[14][15] An example of this use can be seen in various forensic training manuals. Researchers recommend that this imprecise use be avoided.[14] In common usage, the term refers to any adult who is sexually attracted to young children[16] or who sexually abuses a child or adolescent minor.[13][17

    Referencing pedophlia in any serious discussion about homosexuality is an attempt to demonise homosexuals.

    Wikipedia is there for anyone to research the wide range of human sexual activity.

    I dont think we need to delve into what consenting adults do in the privacy of their bedrooms do we??? if we were flies on the wall of many Bajan bedrooms I am sure that we would be surprised at the range of sexual activity even amongst supposed heterosexual people. That is not my concern in this discussion!

    So please counter with something of substance as to why taxpaying, law abiding, consenting adult, community involved and respected same sex couples should not have the same rights as everyone else????


  32. I suggest everyone on here watch the movie ‘Precious’ which addresses issues of child abuse, parenting, victimization, ignorance, and so many other issues that could be applicable to this discussion.

    When does a person stop being human and deserving or equality and respect??? And who determines this?


  33. When does a person stop being seen as human and deserving of equality and respect?? And who determines this? How can we make judgements in ignorance of a situation?


  34. Love:Love is any of a number of emotions related to a sense of strong affection[1] and attachment. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure (“I loved that meal”) to intense interpersonal attraction (“I love my husband”). This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.

    Just so you know Simple ton…simon

    although you may have a patent on the definition!


  35. As any heterosexual couples posting on BU ever tried to adopt a child? It ain’t easy!! I do not believe that because two people (even of different genders) are married that adoption of children will be automatically allowed.

    I have always felt that the only reason for marriage was to facilitate the establishment of a family. That is, to clearly delineate property rights and determine who had primary responsibility for the raising of children. Unfortunately the historically indiscriminate and irresponsible behaviour of many people (coupled with advances in medical technology) has rendered this traditional idea of marriage pointless and actually emboldens gays in their quest for legitimacy.

    As a traditionalist I can, at best, accept the “civil union but not marriage” idea but given that the contemporary concept of marriage really now means little more than a public expression of affection between two people it becomes hard to deny gays their wish for marriage.


  36. Simple Simon wrote “And to think these men want legal rights to adopt babies and raise a family? Raising children is a serious matter; even for heterosexuals.What values will the homos instill in children? What norms and values will they teach them that will prepare and enable them to make respectable contributions to society.”

    I trust that Simple Simon understands that every homosexual in Barbados was raised by a heterosexual parent or parents.

    I rest my case.


  37. http://www.nytimes.com/2010/01/04/world/africa/04uganda.html?ref=global-home

    So do the Evangelical Christians have an agenda too?

  38. DR. POOPERTALLIAN Avatar
    DR. POOPERTALLIAN

    I heard that bulling is sweet and that is the reason men bull-a cataclysmic orgasmic collapsois guaranteedo. I dont care how sweet um is , I aint billing nobody ;nobody aint billing me (with apologies to Red Plastic Bag). Trunking is what it was called in the 1990s and the young girls were said to be doing and liking it as a birth control method. People say that if a man bill a woman , he would bill a man , that chocolate is chocolate and the chocolate channel is the same. Some men say no. Billing a woman is not the same as billing a man. Billing a man is just plain BULLING. Billing a woman is anal sex —go figure !


  39. @DR. POOPERTALLIAN

    Gaw Blimah. I in total agreement with you Poopurts. I ain’t doing know back cracks when the front ones too sweet. So to you bullerish loyalists and bull rights activist – continue with your bull but keep the shit to yourself.


  40. Bonny Peppa
    Bring Rok.De more de merrier.When I got ya back I got ya back but when I aint got ya back de dog dead! I din say I want ta mount ya back cause you ain da sort ta person.I believe doah dat ya would still watch women wicking after all Rhiana say she is thinking bout wick ing seriously so someting in de music musse sweet!.AnywayNo offense but ya see all dis bulling and same sex marraige ting…well long after me, you,johnny postle and rok plus de whole BU family gone wicking and bulleristics will continue so I must have a ring side seat.I ain’t pretending.By de way would’nt it be nice to say reaming instead of bulling old chap? Or instead of wicking say rubbing?Anyway ya see you- you doan like a war but you does start a riot!


  41. I just expressing my right towards a wrong that people like wunna want to make right. If you think that is a riot well then let us go to war. Trust me you do not want to start one with this Johnny.


  42. Johnny postle! Raymond real loyal.If I tell you dat I never bull anybody yet you would believe me? and nabody kan write fa me hear?I enjoying myself cause you and your cohorts gotta a good ting gine!I ain da soft hear?


  43. Annonymous
    I wish I cudda tell you to ga in long gap a night and ask fa a certain buller an she wife husband whatever dat does put on shows but I kan do dat. I wish some body cud try converting dem.The woud get the rass wash in licks.Anyway da by de way.Talk ta simple simon cause he ain’t na simple.He deaf?


  44. Simple Simon
    Can you tell me why three men would ne in a tub? You remember rub-a-dub-dub!


  45. David
    Yo check de size o dat lilip toungue dat Tiger Woods had to contend wid? Well dat is why some women deos help out one another. I hear so!


  46. Pick sense
    I pickin you. how you see de size a dah lilip tongue? I wanna see um ta. Direc me. Ya devil but I luv um.

    Raymond
    my dawlinks. i would like ta see men n women ‘gettin down’ too. Wah I in na sundee skool teacha ya kno? I curious just like you. Watchin in na crime de las time i check. I would even like ta watch a menage a trois or wahevva de shyte um name. Curiousity kill de cat, i reddy ta dead. Keep sweet baby.

    Dr. Poop
    ya mek ma fart. ya sick.
    But a rose by any udda name is still a rose hear? billin is billin regardless…….

    Apostle
    ya still got ma cryinnnnnn. ya hopeless but ya swoiteeeeeeee como sucre.


  47. The 3 men are in a tub probably the same why Elton John sings “Daniel, you’re a star, in in the face of the skyyyyy !


  48. @ Raymond

    My man, woman, buller, it, what ever you believe you self to be, I doan give two wuk-ups, a fart and a squeeze pooch rather or not you straight. You surely ain’t convincing me and I certainly do not want any convincing. My only advice to you is to step back and review your defense of bullers. My comment to all of this is: There can be no justification for bullers to take the next step after pooch-shit exploration. But they want to marry and you come on here telling me, you and a few other crack pots, that you see nothing wrong with it. Chuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuupse


  49. Well this topic has surfaced again and again on this blog. Towards what end my friend-(the moderator). Pray tell me why this topic has surfaced again. To what end my friend ? To what end ?

    Peter 7 -no relation to Philip 7


  50. JohnnyPostle
    wuhlosssssss, ya like ‘acid-rain’. ya on pun Raymond like a vice grip man. easy up pun he fa now, cuh dear. he is wah he is jus like we is wah we is. I is a bonny peppa n you is a johnny.
    I is a instigata too.

    Peter7
    No need to attack the ‘moderator’. Even though this topic has surfaced again, you realize that it is still getting many comments. Persons still want to vent their feelings on this matter. So don’t stress my dearest.
    Take it easy.
    A blessed New Year to you n yours from me n mine.

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