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Minister Kirk Humphrey and Theresa Castro

First it was the Queen Elizabeth Hospital, and now some heartless Barbadians have found a new dumping facility for their elderly relatives at the Harrison Point COVID-19 Isolation Facility in St Lucy. They are dropping off the senior citizens infected with COVID-19 but are not returning for them after they have recovered…

Emblazoned on the front page of the recent Sunday Sun was the embarrassing news some Barbadians are abandoning elderly family members at healthcare facilities. The latest being the newly outfitted Harrison’s Point. What caught the blogmaster’s attention was the cookie cutter quote attributed to Minister of Elder Affairs Kirk Humphrey – he described the development as concerning, pointing out that the situation was indicative of the work that was needed at the level of the family and government to ensure greater provisions for the elderly within a context of an ageing population …blah blah blah. Is this the same Humphrey who was to lead the new Blue Economy? 

Minister Kirk Humphrey this is a message for you. Have you ever been in the area of Top Rock gas station or Dover, and spotted an old lady with short grey hair, a slight stoop, and seeming confused wandering around talking to herself? If you have, then you would have seen Theresa Castro. 

It was brought to the blogmaster’s attention the elderly lady spends most of the day by Top Rock gas station. From reports, she sleeps in the gallery of her former home (where her daughter currently lives). There is a good Barbadian giving her food and has been trying to source assistance from several if not all of the social services for her. To no avail. It seems she has a mental challenge and is showing signs of dementia. It was reported to the blogmaster the plight of the elderly lady was reported to Minister Kirk Humphrey’s secretary. Up to the time of posting this blog there was no intervention from a single government agency to assist Theresa Castro.

Do you know Minister Kirk Humphrey was quoted in the 19 June 2022 edition of the Nation newspaper he has engaged the Barbados Police Service to assist with those who continue to abuse the elderly? …Blah Blah Blah
Is there any surprise Barbadians have become cynical and apathetic towards politicians?

The blogmaster further understands the plight of Theresa Castro was brought to the attention of the Nation and Barbados Today newspapers, Psychiatric hospital, George Griffith, family members et al- so far there has been no assistance forthcoming for Theresa Castro.

Have we become a soulless a society to ignore a senior citizen in her twilight years in need of assistance? What does it say about the society? What does it say about the good use of tax dollars funding Minister Humphrey’s Elder Affairs ministry?

347 responses to “Minister Kirk Humphrey and Theresa Castro”

  1. David Avatar
    David

    With the inclement weather being experienced this morning spare a thought for the vulnerable in society who without support from family, society (including government) are left to fight their fight. A reflection who we are as people?

  2. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    David

    Yes, I notice that..

  3. angela cox Avatar
    angela cox

    Lisa
    Govt have social services but it is also up to.family members to get involved and seek help for the individual
    One of your comments pinpoints the various reasons why the mother is still loitering the street
    The daughter engagement with officials seems to be lacking or missing and maybe with or for good reasons

  4. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    David

    To your earlier post.

    Carrington has a moral duty to pay the old guy, but it isn’t going to happen.
    Lawyers here are a law unto themselves.

    One took all my interest from the money she had in her client account on a property I was purchasing. This thing dragged on and the judge made an order for the money to be released, but my interest wasn’t paid. I asked her to send my money and it never came. I went to the BAR association and they played the various games they play. It went as far as coming up to a deadline, I got an email from their email account and an attempted hack was made to my email account. When the checks were made it was from an Internet cafe in Surrey. I no longer wanted anything to do with them, and I didn’t think I would receive justice here, so she keeps the money.

    On my own investigation I found out what company someone else fronts for her, and clients interest goes towards the purchase of properties. This lady has about 8 high end properties about this place. Only in Bim.

  5. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Angela

    All what you say is well and good, but as harsh as it may seem to some, you can’t make family take responsibility if they don’t want it. Everyone has their motives, and in this case, unfortunately, social services need to step up once notified.

  6. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Theresa is at risk of all types of abuse while walking around confused at night.
    Unfortunately she is not the only one. Women either homeless, with mental health conditions or sleeping rough should be of a concern to the public. We have a mens shelter, but no female shelter other than those for domestic violence. We have no safe places or supported living settings to help individuals. Our mental health and social care services are in need of overhauls. The stigma attached to people in need of services in general is viewed very poorly in terms of the very attitude of staff who work in some of these areas toward people in need. Theresa wouldn’t be seen as anyone of importance, but they would run and help a retuning national faster because their pension makes up a lot more. How many of you are ready to speak truth to this place?

  7. angela cox Avatar
    angela cox

    Lisa not all well and good when the harshness of this case lies within the reality of the daughter not giving govt officials the necessary permission legal and other wise to intervene
    Until such happens the lady situation would remain the same attracting all kinds of assumptions

  8. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Angela,
    NAB doesn’t need permission from the daughter. They carryout investigations and assessments and follow through based on their findings. I think you would find that social services drop the ball here. I know about this case so assume nothing.

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    Abuse of the elderly ORIGINATED in the parliament…that is where it needs EXPOSURE THE MOST…

    followed by the neglectful family members, many of whom lack the resources to deal adequately with senior members in failing mental and physical health..

    .maybe if the frauds of parliament…the SCAMMERS and LIARS would stop ripping off the NIS, the ELDERLY and their beneficiaries INDIVIDUALLY…there would be less such cases…each generation…

  10. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Wura

    I could understand from the point in which we need to create new legislation to protect the elderly, but I don’t see how it originates in parliament. Care you expand on that a little? The thing I’ve found living back here is that it acts like a plantation. When I tell people that Bim feels like living on a plantation they becomes very offended, but I am at the stage where I don’t care to make any apologies for my interpretation of experiences I live.

  11. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Wura

    I think we can cast a lot of blame on the cultural attitudes we now have here. There is no respect for the elderly and people are measured based on where they live and what jobs they have. Our problems are societal by nature for the most part. The laid back nature means that a lot gets done later, or when the public has had enough. We can’t have legislation unless people do the work to make them a reality.

  12. angela cox Avatar
    angela cox

    LisaJune 28, 2022 7:24 AM

    Angela,
    NAB doesn’t need permission from the daughter. They carryout investigations and assessments and follow through based on their findings. I think you would find that social services drop the ball here. I know about this case so assume nothing.
    Xxxxxx
    So if u know so much
    But iam yet to read in your comments that the daughter has taken any such involvement in seeing that social services intervene in helping the mother
    I will continue to stand ground as to asking why has the daughter engagement on behalf of the mother well being lacking if as u say social services engagement has not giving relevance to the case
    Until that question is answered assumptions would continue
    If you are closely involved in the case there are missing answers to questions absent which can clarify the truthfulness of the case
    Maybe u should be more transparent after all taxpayers money would become involved
    I also asked who are in charge of this mother govt financial benefits which u have not answered
    There are many missing links some of which u might not want to answer for whatever reason

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    ” think we can cast a lot of blame on the cultural attitudes we now have here. There is no respect for the elderly and people are measured based on where they live and what jobs they have. Our problems are societal by nature for the most part. ”

    there is definitely NO RESPECT SHOWN TO AFRIKAN DESCENDED PEOPLE IN BARBADOS….and it’s your dangerous deceitful lying vote begging politicians who have always led that gang of traitors..

    ..the people, as some of us have said on her for YEARS…have to STAND UP AND DEMAND RESPECT from those leeches in the cabinet….THEN THEY WILL HAVE TO RESPECT EVERY AFRIKAN PERSON on the island including the elderly and children…

  14. John2 Avatar
    John2

    What are the functions of the NAB? From my limited knowledge I thought they were the equivalent to “ home help” we have here. If the woman is homeless and mobile then I would think the is not much they can do. But again – my knowledge is very limited

    If the lady need “mental” help and cannot admit herself i think it will require the sign off of one / two / doctors ( I cannot remember the exact).

    Thanks to the person who is providing the food
    IMO the daughter seem to have some mental blockage/no heart

  15. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Angela

    Everyone wants to know everyone else business but keep their own firmly hidden.
    I am the type of person who never seek to make anything about myself. It is my belief that if your intentions are good your works need no recognition from anyone. A lot of assumptions have been made in the comments, and I would be amused if I didn’t find some of the thinking devoid of depth and sad. I moved back to Barbados over a year ago (and have questioned it since this year began), and went to the Top Rock gas station and meet Theresa for the very first time. Like most of the public who will feel sorry for her, I purchased a drink and a bread for her to eat. Not being satisfied by the lack of nutritional value in that meal, I went home and cooked some food and took it back down there for her. It took me a little bit to build the type of trust needed, so that even on her bad days, she would know that I was a safe person to interact with. When people are out there and being taken advantage of they don’t trust anyone not to hurt them. People, I am a human being who cannot see suffering and not try and do something about it. I made it my business to get to know about Theresa, because she is a fellow human. You know who has failed Theresa? Her family who can see her and do nothing to help. People from her neighbourhood who knows and told me she needs help but never picked up a phone on her behalf. The social worker who I took over there myself and didn’t follow through with the help. The organisations who told me they have been aware of her for years and done nothing. The news papers who I have contacted and for whatever reason have not got back to me about Theresa’s story. The people in society who see her and look own on her, without a thought that she could very well be one of them in the future. The Ministry of Elder Affairs, who without proper legislation, has been instrumental in the continuation of abuse going unchecked here in this country. I am sick of people wanting to know information and making assumptions, while missing the big picture.

  16. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    John 2

    The NAB comes under the Elder Affairs ministry and is responsible for placement into geriatric hospitals or homes as well. They have social workers who are assigned to cover areas of Barbados and function as a advocate for the elderly if needed.

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    “The Ministry of Elder Affairs, who without proper legislation, has been instrumental in the continuation of abuse going unchecked here in this country. I am sick of people wanting to know information and making assumptions, while missing the big picture.”

    Frauds….all they like is photo ops.

    ..they have watched the elderly get robbed of their inheritances and estates……their beneficiaries robbed of EVERYTHING and having no future….and never lifted a finger to help protect them from criminal politicians and lawyers who committed these crimes against them for 90 years…..one just retired and was only famous for photo ops and hairstyles,…Minister of Hairstyles…..worthless…sucking on taxpayers monthly…and doing nothing to change the condition of the elderly..

  18. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Angela

    You said I should be more transparent knowing tax payer dollars would be going towards Theresa’s care. That kind of thinking right there is part of the problem. Has the elderly not paid contributions that can now be put towards their care if they need it? I am sure you would expect the same after working your adult life and paying taxes.

  19. Artax Avatar
    Artax

    NAB’s Welfare Officers conduct investigations based on referrals.
    In other words, someone would’ve had to brought the lady’s plight to the attention of the Board, thereby initiating the appropriate response.

    Obviously, a Welfare Officer would have to gather all the necessary information as possible, before making an assessment and subsequent recommendations.
    This process may include, determining where the lady lives; who is her ‘next of kin,’ if it’s her daughter, then she is interviewed; if she receives a pension; ailments etc.

    The lady may be further referred to the QEH, district or psychiatric hospital for medical evaluation.
    Since she is roaming the streets, it is useless to recommend ‘home care service.’
    The only other option may be renting a unit at NAB’s Vauxhall Senior Citizens’ Village, where she can be taken care of by Wardens.

    However, I don’t believe social services agencies can act without authorization from her next of kin, which, in this case, is probably her daughter.

    Without knowing what transpired between the social service agencies and the lady’s daughter, we are only left to make uninformed assumptions.

  20. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Artax

    You missed where I mentioned that I took the social worker over there myself. No follow through, so no discussions happened with anyone but myself.

  21. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Artax

    As far as I know the last thing that happened since a year ago was that of checking on her pension with the NIS. Just last week I asked for an update and no one got back to me, which means nothing was being done.

  22. angela cox Avatar
    angela cox

    @lisa
    You mention in the above comment family members doing nothing to help her
    That is as close to truthfulness and a truth which requires there involvement in this case
    A truth begging for answers from the family
    As stated the old lady is in a detroriating mental state and as much as a called for govt intervention be necessary
    The family support is also necessary for govt follow-ups as questions would be asked by the family members detailing personnel info about the lady
    Getting her help is necessary but also family engagement with govt official is also of great importance
    Final comment

  23. John2 Avatar
    John2

    Lisa

    Can NAB has the authority place someone in a “home” without consent ?
    Again I only familiar about the home help care part through them assisting two elders I knew

    Ps. Keep up the good work

  24. David Avatar
    David

    @Lisa

    Thanks for your interest in the matter. There is a big difference between talking the talk and walking the walk.

  25. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    John 2

    Thank you.
    I am not familiar with the mental health and cares act here, but you usually look at mental capacity to determine outcomes based on that assessment. As a starter she can be placed in the psychiatric hospital because of a history of mental health issues and with follow up go from there. I contacted the hospital in Blk Rk and was told to take her to the nearest policlinic for assessment, but I asked them how they expected me to do that when they know under the law I could be charged with kidnapping, because I am not a family member. They could have got the community mental health nurse to come out and that didn’t happen. Many people here don’t like doing their jobs and I’m frustrated. You have to chase behind people to do their jobs and it isn’t right. Our attitudes towards work is very poor in the public service.

  26. Artax Avatar
    Artax

    Lisa

    I join John 2 and David on thanking you for your interest in this matter.

    David is correct that “there is a big difference between talking the talk and walking the walk.”

  27. Donna Avatar
    Donna

    Lisa,

    I think you misunderstood something I wrote where I wondered who could let her mother sleep outside unless the mother had done such to her.

    I was suggesting what could be, the only EXCUSE not assuming that this is what actually happened.

    Read the rest of my submission and you will see that we more or less agree. I have advocated for what was my home church to organise a simple meals on wheels programme for the needy elderly in our parish and my suggestion was put down with a sneering, “That will not work!”

    Based on past behaviour, I believe that the speaker did not want it to work because she did not like me.

    We had ONE beautiful lady who did most of the running around for the elderly in our parish. I volunteered to help her but she never availed herself of the offer. She was used to working alone, I think. And I have found myself that, quite often, that is the best way. Last thing I heard, her only daughter had died, she herself was failing, and her half sister had moved in, taken control and cut off access to her by friends and neighbours who wished to visit but I comforted myself with the believe the priest would have reacted if such had happened to him. In this case, there substantial property and only overseas relatives to contend with, including a slightly younger sister.

    I never even heard of this half sister until the woman started to deteriorate.

    I must admit I did nothing because I did not wish to be labelled a nosy parker or a gold digger. There is a big pension, relatively speaking and substantial property in the mix. I know how the tongues tend to wag.

    I must admit that I have given up on church and most other organisations because I find it is usually about doing the least and showing off the most. And making sure the ideas of people you don’t like are dead in the water.

    This is why I speak of needing to regain my energy to rejoin the fight. I simply got tired of the unnecessary hurdles. At one meeting I was brought to tears as I was attacked for a suggestion that we do not do enough.

    I agree with you that the attitude can truly suck around here. I hope it does not wear you down.

    We must do better. Including me. If there is any assistance I can offer you, the blogmaster has my contact information and my permission to release it to you.

  28. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Artax

    Thanks for the acknowledgement.

    However, my interest has never been about anyone recognising me, because it is very important to me that they see Theresa. To look at her and feel the need to do something because it could happen to anyone. A family member of hers, who has a very big govt position told me that “mental health issues run in the family and everyone’s main interest is to keep their own heads above water and not have to acknowledge what she is dealing with as a likely outcome for one of them”.

    That type of bollocks out his mouth was real.

    She also has a brother who is on the streets in the daytime, but lives at another brother of theirs. She has a sister who when I last inquired worked at QEH and she also lives in the house where Theresa sleeps outside. Theresa knows, where her home is and that is why she stays in the area and sleeps in the gallery at night. They used to put two cushions out for her, but the other morning I noticed her just being on a sheet flat on the concrete. Sometimes I go and check on her when it is still dark outside, and it is dangerous for me driving the distance and leaving the car to be on foot, but if I don’t look out for her no one else does.

    I told David about her so that someone might be motivated to help, because right now, her physical health needs attention. My guess is that she hasn’t been to the doctor in years. Outside of all this she is very clean and has a wash at the gas station or over by Dover beach. The girls at the gas station also give her soap and tea some mornings. One of the girls especially look out for her and is responsible for giving her soap. Sometimes she wouldn’t eat anything until she is clean before she sits down to eat. I see her personality, and I wish people would see her as worthy enough of help because she is a human being.

  29. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Donna

    The one thing I’ve come to realise is that people will talk about you regardless. If you feel the need to do something for someone, just do it. Money and the love for possessions brings out the monster in people, but you look beyond that and just do what you know is right.

  30. Bush Tea Avatar
    Bush Tea

    WTH…
    Lisa did not have to say that she only returned to Barbados last year… IT IS OBVIOUS THAT SHE IS NOT FROM BOUT HERE.

    As a majority Black Country, this BB place is more albino-centric than the albinos themselves.
    EVERY shiite is about money, who paying, who getting paid, who stands to benefit etc…
    NO DAMN BODY CARES…. for CARING SAKE….

    Even though we all know that the damn government is incompetent, misguided and under the control of the greedy materialistic mafia, through bribes, we continue to harp about what they SHOULD be doing for us.

    We have now reached the stage where even within FAMILIES there is ROUTINE cut-throat materialistic greed.
    And this is not only in cases such as this… one can only wonder how many ‘insurance payouts’ and property transfers have been orchestrated by greedy family who could not be bothered to wait a few more months or years….

    This is not a problem that can be solved by any government.
    This is the WAGES of doing shiite for YEARS.
    In the old days, dirt poor Bajans looked after relatives, to the best of their limited abilities and government tried, with limited resources, to create ‘alms houses’, hospital and clinics to assist.

    Today we are a multi-Billion dollar economy, and the only ones who benefit are the albino shadows who are known to pay attractive bribes….. What else can be expected?

    Note that it is the VERY SAME shiite BBs (like ac who glorify the bribe-taking politicians) who have us in this jobby.
    When offered Caswell, Atherley and Grenville who CLEARLY DEMONSTRATED UNSELFISH intents, we collectively said “NO! Give us the Queen of Four Seasons and her clan instead”….. just like some ancient BBs rejected a bushman for Barnabas….

    We are just reaping what we have sown in following the ways of our former slave-masters…. It will get MUCH worse.
    Karma is a SPIRITUAL law that has to be fulfilled.

  31. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Donna

    Three months ago my mother died, and two weeks before she did, I couldn’t get access to her. I made arrangements for her doctors appointment and had to also make arrangements for a ride for her because something was wrong with my radiator. My mother made it to her appointment because a sister of mine must had called my mother and found out who was taking her to her appointment and called the person who took my mother to her house. I never saw my mother alive again and the police couldn’t get involved because they say she was at a family member, and none of the agencies could help me to get my mother back. All the police could do was call my sister and ask why my mother wasn’t taken to her appointment. They were told by my sister that she was taken to a doctor and nothing else could be done by it. They didn’t even call me to say my mother way dying and I got that call from a stranger. Since my mother has died I heard some rumour of my mother signing house and land over to my sisters daughter. They know none of that could have happened if my mother was still at home with me taking care of her. Before I came back to Barbados they were in control of my mothers money, and I told my money to handle things herself because she has capacity to do so. My sister and her children had such coercive control over my mother, so would tell them everything down to what I gave her to eat and drink on a daily, and she would question why I gave it to her based on if they thought she should have it or not. Behind my back she still found a way to give them her money, because of the level of control they had. Abuse of the elderly is real in Bim, and I couldn’t even help my own mother because of the lack of legislation to offer her protection. Donna, I have become tired. being back here because it seems everyone has an agenda and a selfish undercurrent is ever present. I then had a fight for my mothers body and not even my lawyer wanted to do anything about it and spent the time talking me away from the idea. People, in Barbados everything is hard because it is. I am tired and still recovering from this year and the death of my mother. I need someone to help Theresa because I can’t do it on my own.

  32. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Donna

    I meant to say my mother never made it to her appointment.

  33. BAJE Avatar
    BAJE

    Everyone keeps talking about moral duty as if everyone has them. Theresa is walking about day into night, but somewhere a pension is sent. Who benefits from that pension if Theresa goes into care? Everyone should know by now that with Theresa in any govt facility, her pensions stops. Financial abuse and neglect is alive a real in Barbados and is top of the list in terms of abuse committed here.

    I moved back to Barbados over a year ago (and have questioned it since this year began

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    LISA

    KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.

    WELCOME TO THE SHITHOLE CESSPOOL OF THE 2 X 3 ISLAND

    WAY WAY TOO MANY LOCALS BLACKS ARE SICK IN THEIR HEAD AND BLINDED BY THEIR SELFISHNESS AND LACK OF EMPATHY.

    THEY WILL SCORN OTHERS AND SEEK TO PUT THEM IN A BOX WHILE DELIRIOUSLY WALKING AROUND IN SHIT FOR 2 YEARS.

    THIS ARTICLE HIGHLIGHTS 1000 PERCENT THE AGENCIES, POLITICIANS AND BLACKS WITH MENTAL HANGUPS.

    YOU HAVE SURVIVED A YEAR IT WILL NOT GET BETTER.

    TRUST ME

  34. BAJE Avatar
    BAJE

    Since my mother has died I heard some rumour of my mother signing house and land over to my sisters daughter. They know none of that could have happened if my mother was still at home with me taking care of her. Before I came back to Barbados they were in control of my mothers money, and I told my money to handle things herself because she has capacity to do so.

    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

    HAD AN OLDER SISTER WHO DID THE SAME SHIT WITH A GRANDMOTHER WHO HAD RETURNED FROM THE US BEHIND EVERYONE BACK.

    LOCALS DON’T WANT TO WORK AND EARN FOR THE MOST PART THEY RATHER WANT TO SEE RELATIVES DIE TOTAKE OVER PROPERTY.

    THIS IS A WIDE SPREAD PRACTICE.

    I RETURNED TO THE ISLAND AFTER MANY YEARS AND MANY OF THE THINGS YOU OUTLINED I HAVE SEEN HOWEVER LEFT AGAIN BECUASE I CANNOT LIVE AMONG IGNORANT PEOPLE WHO CANNOT LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND DEAL WITH THEIR BACKWARD AND DESTRUCTIVE THINKING.

    HENCE IT WILL NOT GET BETTER IT WILL GET WORSE AND WHEN ADDING CROOKED LAWYERS YOU ARE FACING A LONG HARD ROAD.

  35. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    BAJE

    Lol..
    Don’t worry, since my mother has died I’ve been thinking about taking my exit. Things here are just too hard, and simple things become difficult. I don’t know how much more I can tolerate before my own mental health comes into question.

  36. BAJE Avatar
    BAJE

    BAJE

    Lol..
    Don’t worry, since my mother has died I’ve been thinking about taking my exit. Things here are just too hard, and simple things become difficult. I don’t know how much more I can tolerate before my own mental health comes into question.

    Xxxxxxxx

    I STUCK IT OUT FOR AROUND 15 YEARS HOWEVER WAS IN BUSINESS MOST OF THE TIME SO TRAVELED FREQUENTLY. DID A SHORT STINT TEACHING AT UWI.

    HOWEVER WAS MY FREQUENT TRAVELS ON BUSINESS THAT ALLOWED ME TO KEEP MY SANITY.

    SINCE I LEFT LIKE LIVING IN THE REAL WORLD WHERE MOST PEOPLE LIVE IN A REALITY THAT IS MOSTLY DEVOID ON THE 2 X 3 ISLAND.

    AGAIN I SALUTE YOU FOR ASSISTANTING THIS ELDERLY WOMAN UNSELFISHLY THE ISLAND NEEDS MORE HEROES LIKE YOU.

  37. BAJE Avatar
    BAJE

    Correction

    ASSISTING

  38. Donna Avatar
    Donna

    Lisa,

    So sorry to hear of your mum’s death and your experience with your family.

    As I said, if there is any assistance I can offer, just let me know. You know the woman and her situation and she knows you. And so I would need to work through you.

    Take heart! We are not all waiting for our parents to die. When my house phone rings at odd times, I get a chill imagining things. They are getting on in age and I cannot imagine waking up one morning to realise they are no more. The world would feel rather strange. You must be feeling a bit disoriented.

    I had a old cousin who would make it her business, among other things, to collect money and items for anyone in the parish who had lost their home in a house fire.

    Her first question to anyone she had not seen for a while was always, “So what are you up to now- just taking up space on the earth?”

    I never forgot those words.

    We must all seek to justify our presence on the earth and not just take up space.

    P.S. I don’t mind the usual talk. I would mind being called a gold digger. That one would really hurt.

  39. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Donna

    I live life knowing that once I hear something about myself and it isn’t true, it doesn’t matter. You alone know what you can tolerate, but fear keeps us from becoming the persons we were meant to be sometimes.

  40. TheOGazerts Avatar
    TheOGazerts

    @BT
    “We have now reached the stage where even within FAMILIES there is ROUTINE cut-throat materialistic greed.
    And this is not only in cases such as this… one can only wonder how many ‘insurance payouts’ and property transfers have been orchestrated by greedy family who could not be bothered to wait a few more months or years….”

    @BAJE (modified)
    “I CANNOT LIVE AMONG PEOPLE WHO CANNOT LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND DEAL WITH THEIR BACKWARD AND DESTRUCTIVE THINKING.

    HENCE IT WILL NOT GET BETTER IT WILL GET WORSE AND WHEN ADDING CROOKED LAWYERS YOU ARE FACING A LONG HARD ROAD.”

    Much has been said, but those two posts describe the situation.

    The government/legislation cannot solve all of the problems and the GoB does not have the money to take care of all those who fall on hard times for one reason or another. The problems that can be fixed (e.g. crooked LAWYERS) are ignored or explained away.

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    “We are just reaping what we have sown in following the ways of our former slave-masters…. It will get MUCH worse.
    Karma is a SPIRITUAL law that has to be fulfilled.”

    and they are surrounded by both Karma and Retribution for their EVIL TREACHEROUS WAYS…they have no ancestral respect and are unable to respect each other…

  42. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    BAJE
    I was of that opinion too, where leaving often would break that crazy feeling, but I think I need a few months a way each time. I liked the idea of working here until I realised the standards are too low for me and I would just become stressed out. Was setting up a business, but months wait for the type of insurance I needed, and being told that I would have to be known to the people at some insurance companies to get it was a turnoff.

    The interview process was mad, and it really did make me pack it all in. I just couldn’t have people working for me that would cause my reputation to suffer. I’ve reached the point where I can’t stay here full-time, it is just too hard.

    The same type of insurance I needed here, I got in one day with a broker in UK. However, I had to wait a few months for anyone to get back to me about it, and I can’t work like that.

    People might think that returning nationals or ex pats are just picky, but when you see how things can work so easily, and here they make it so hard, you do moan about it because you are disappointed no one wants to do things any better.

    I still find it shocking that people argue on here about political parties and such, when there is no difference between the parties other than colours. They fool the people who are faithful to them and make the same types of promises. I’ve also encountered here that voting is important if you want to get anything done. If they realise you didn’t vote you can shout until your mouth is dry, you will not be helped.

    So where does that leave the poor people who believe promises and wait for the politicians to give them little picks? They are all at the mercy of the political class who only help themselves and all who they care about, and that is never the public. So I am tired because this place has the ability to suck life out of you.

  43. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    TheOGazerts

    How do we fix the problems lawyers cause when most politicians are lawyers?

    I’ve had runnings with them, and you get nowhere because you can’t even trust the next lawyer to have your back.
    A friend of mine told me that she never came across lawyers like the ones she had to deal with here. Says something when people can recognise that these people are not right.

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    African Online Publishing Copyright ⓒ 2022. All Rights Reserved

    William….this lady has no clue how much more she has to go through….

    I published that tribute to George Lamming today, it’s in Kush Quarterly Magazine July-September issue.

    Lisa…try as hard as you can to minimize your interactions with them….it will save your sanity….but make sure there are always eyes behind your back…for when they start coming after you….tons of thieves and saboteurs…

    “I still find it shocking that people argue on here about political parties and such, when there is no difference between the parties other than colours. They fool the people who are faithful to them and make the same types of promises. I’ve also encountered here that voting is important if you want to get anything done. If they realise you didn’t vote you can shout until your mouth is dry, you will not be helped.”

    don’t fall into their notorious political pimp parade…..they embarrass themselves on this blog daily being common breed fowls…

    and stay AS FAR AWAY FROM THEIR SLAVE SYSTEM as you can…they use it as a weapon as often as they can against Afrikan descended people..

  45. BAJE Avatar
    BAJE

    People might think that returning nationals or ex pats are just picky, but when you see how things can work so easily, and here they make it so hard, you do moan about it because you are disappointed no one wants to do things any better.

    Xxxxxx.

    TOO MANY SMALL MINDED

    WHEN ONE HAS EXPERIENCED THE DEVELOPED WORLD ONE KNOWS THE DIFFERENCE AND THE EXCUSE FOR BULLSHIT.

    YOU HAVE DESCRIBED ALL TOO WELL IN YOUR SUBMISSIONS THE REALITY OF THE 2 x 3 ISLAND.

  46. Lisa Avatar
    Lisa

    Wura

    No chance of me falling for all the tricks and gimmicks out there.

    Being aware of self and your surroundings is a big plus. I have been seeking to limit my interactions as much as possible already. Like you, I believe the more people are aware of who they’re and where they come from, light shines forth from life and you are better able to navigate just being yourself.

    Being here has allowed me to realise how self hate plays a role in determining how people are treated still. One guy told me I was not black but brown, and it was nothing more shocking for me to hear. It started because I told him I am a proud black woman, and he pointed out that my looks say otherwise and I am refusing to accept the white part of my bloodline. Many amusing conversations could be had, but I rather my sanity at this point.

    I’m sure no pale skin person I’ve ever worked with and patients who call me a black bitch and not to touch them, would agree with his breakdown of my looks. My teen daughter is very uncomfortable here, because she believes she has pale skin privilege and she doesn’t take it well. It has the ability to break you mentally if you are not careful with it. So you try to do good and soak up as much of the negative around you to throw it into the wind and nothing.

    Christmas morning my daughter and I went into Bridgetown early to share some food with a few homeless people, and at the top of Broad St we gave a guy tea and one of the little food packages we put together. We walked all around and ended up on lower Broad St because we were walking around without a clue just giving out food, and ran into this guy again. We asked him if he need some more tea and food, to which he said ” I had already and my belly full, go over by the Bridge and you’ll find more people who want food”. He gave us directions and went on his way.

    I turned to my daughter and asked her what lesson she just learnt from that man. What we saw was a perfect example of contentment and selflessness, he could have taken more food for when he got hungry later, but thought of others before himself. If all Bajans had the heart of this guy, who I’m sure they see walking in town and look down upon, we would be a better place.

    We need some radical change in the way we think and do things here, I no longer believe it has to be gentle, we need to rip it up and start over.

  47. BAJE Avatar
    BAJE

    How do we fix the problems lawyers cause when most politicians are lawyers?

    I’ve had runnings with them, and you get nowhere because you can’t even trust the next lawyer to have your back.
    A friend of mine told me that she never came across lawyers like the ones she had to deal with here. Says something when people can recognise that these people are not right.

    Xxxxxxxx

    I HAVE HAD MY OWN ISSUES WITH LAWYERS THERE DEALING WITH A CIVIL MATTER OF AROUND $300,000 WHERE I GOT A DEFAULT JUDGMENT AGAINST THE OTHER PARTY.

    MY LAWYER WHO HAD BEEN GIVING ME THE RUNAROUND I WENT TO HIS OFFICE AND HIS SECRETARY TOLD ME THAT HE WAS NOT IN.

    I CALLED HIM AND HE TOLD ME HAD SUBMITTED ALL RELEVANT PAPERWORK TO THE REGISTRAR.

    I CALLED THE REGISTRAR FROM HIS OFFICE PHONE AND A CLERK AFTER CHECKING SAID PAPERWORK HE SAID WAS SUBMITTED WAS NOT.

    I WAITED IN HIS OFFICE UNTIL HE CAME AND CONFRONTED HIM AND HE KEPT LYING.

    I CALLED BACK THE SAME CLERK AND HANDED THE PHONE TO THE LAWYER.

    WHEN HE HANGED UP I BLISTERED HIM IN CUSSING IN FRONT OF HIS SECRETARY.

    HE WORKS IN ONE OF THE CHAMBERS WHERE HIS SENIOR IS A MINISTER IN CABINET.

    THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY DEVIOUS AND POISONOUS MINDS AMONG THE LAWYER SYNDICATE GROUP OF CRIMINALS ON THE 2X3 ISLAND.

    ANOTHER REASON WHY THE ISLAND IS A CESSPOOL.

  48. Vincent Codrington Avatar
    Vincent Codrington

    The systems are in place but no one is applying them.I wonder why.

  49. David Avatar
    David

    @Vincent

    Because there are not systems to enforce the systems?

  50. Bush Tea Avatar
    Bush Tea

    @ David
    Vincent knows that the ‘systems’ are a FARCE.
    These are just there to deflect…..
    Courts that don’t work…
    Ministry PS (managers) who are CLEARLY just somebody’s mouth-pieces…
    Officials who are just clueless messengers and title holders…

    Even the damn PAC…… steupsssss

    His pretense otherwise is a key part of the problem…

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