Minister Kirk Humphrey and Theresa Castro

First it was the Queen Elizabeth Hospital, and now some heartless Barbadians have found a new dumping facility for their elderly relatives at the Harrison Point COVID-19 Isolation Facility in St Lucy. They are dropping off the senior citizens infected with COVID-19 but are not returning for them after they have recovered…

Emblazoned on the front page of the recent Sunday Sun was the embarrassing news some Barbadians are abandoning elderly family members at healthcare facilities. The latest being the newly outfitted Harrison’s Point. What caught the blogmaster’s attention was the cookie cutter quote attributed to Minister of Elder Affairs Kirk Humphrey – he described the development as concerning, pointing out that the situation was indicative of the work that was needed at the level of the family and government to ensure greater provisions for the elderly within a context of an ageing population …blah blah blah. Is this the same Humphrey who was to lead the new Blue Economy? 

Minister Kirk Humphrey this is a message for you. Have you ever been in the area of Top Rock gas station or Dover, and spotted an old lady with short grey hair, a slight stoop, and seeming confused wandering around talking to herself? If you have, then you would have seen Theresa Castro. 

It was brought to the blogmaster’s attention the elderly lady spends most of the day by Top Rock gas station. From reports, she sleeps in the gallery of her former home (where her daughter currently lives). There is a good Barbadian giving her food and has been trying to source assistance from several if not all of the social services for her. To no avail. It seems she has a mental challenge and is showing signs of dementia. It was reported to the blogmaster the plight of the elderly lady was reported to Minister Kirk Humphrey’s secretary. Up to the time of posting this blog there was no intervention from a single government agency to assist Theresa Castro.

Do you know Minister Kirk Humphrey was quoted in the 19 June 2022 edition of the Nation newspaper he has engaged the Barbados Police Service to assist with those who continue to abuse the elderly? …Blah Blah Blah
Is there any surprise Barbadians have become cynical and apathetic towards politicians?

The blogmaster further understands the plight of Theresa Castro was brought to the attention of the Nation and Barbados Today newspapers, Psychiatric hospital, George Griffith, family members et al- so far there has been no assistance forthcoming for Theresa Castro.

Have we become a soulless a society to ignore a senior citizen in her twilight years in need of assistance? What does it say about the society? What does it say about the good use of tax dollars funding Minister Humphrey’s Elder Affairs ministry?

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  • Blah blah
    First you blast some .bajans as being heartless
    Then you blast Humphrey for putting his two sense worth of concern abought the plight of the elderly and govt necessity for more involvement
    Then the article takes the reader down a long winding path about an elderly woman in need of help
    Yet the article points out that this old lady has a home which is occupied by a daughter
    As if the article ramblings was not enough the concerns for the lady border on a point of ridiculous if one should belive that the opening Salvo started out as calling some barbadians heartless when in fact a heartless situation was being done to a mother by a daughter who occupied the mothers home while the mother was left to become a beggar on the street

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  • The solution is to put the daughter out of the old lady’s home, if she refuses to take on the responsibity of her mother. But if she is willing but not able then give her support and monitor her performance.

    But we cannot have the situation continue. If it has been brought to the attention of the minister and his agencies and no action has been taken, then it is blah blah blah indeed!

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  • We assume a lot as human beings and it just makes us look like fools.

    The article didn’t mention who owned the house, and no parent should expect that a child is obligated to look after them. We cannot expect that any child birthed will be given a moral compass or conscience.

    What we need is for full investigation of the situation and the relevant agencies getting involved to find a solution. Has it occurred to anyone that the lack of legislation to protect the elderly is the main problem that causes abuse to go unchecked on this rock? This is a failure of both administrations unable to produce anything to stop abuse of the elderly here.

    David, thank you for highlighting the plight of this lady.

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  • Yes given the story as detailed in the article individuals can only assume
    The article sends out differing messages about the old plight
    However the concern that caught attention was that of the daughter
    If the writer of the article did not do a full investigation then the article should not have been published until a full investigation was done
    Needless to say perceptions can lead to assumptions as well as suspicions
    The article as written gives all a reason to assume

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  • David

    I find it amusing that some subjects seem very uncomfortable for people to address. The collective Bajan conscience for social injustices seems at an all time low.

    This article you have written doesn’t seem able to generate the type of response that abortion rights in another country does.

    What does it say about Barbadian society and its respect for the plight of the elderly, and the failure of govt to protect them?

    Are some of us guilty of turning a blind eye and being part of this heartless society you mentioned?

    Interesting times indeed.

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  • AC

    I understand where you are coming from, but it doesn’t take a way from the fact that a lady is in need of help.

    David has only highlighted the story, but it is the job of the agencies to investigate.

    The long and short is the failure of govt and society to protect the elderly.

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  • I was in the island a few weeks ago and I saw the lady several times wondering around the area but didn’t now the back story, I’m no fan of the Minister but why heap the blame on him? There is surely a societal disconnect when action is taken only when the plight of the elderly, homeless, mentally ill etc. reaches the front page.

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  • William Skinner

    A certain collective amnesia seems to have infected the society.
    What is the new story here. Abandoning senior citizens is a national past time of the past three decades.
    We have a ruthless, insensitive group of peoples, who have been in the seat of power for decades and they now pretend that these problems all popped up in something they gleefully call the lost decade. We have at least five lost decades now galloping toward six!
    The plight of the abandoned citizens, the homeless and indiscriminate dumping of garbage are nothing new.
    State agencies such as the welfare department have now collapsed because of political savagery. State funds and other benefits for the poor have been managed by party/ political hacks.
    All COVID has done is exposed the system for what it is. Millions squandered on the altar of political expediency and vote catching by the Barbados Labour Party and the Democratic Labour Party.
    It’s going to take a Herculean effort to destroy this political skullduggery and culture.

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  • It is really silly to accuse Bajans of turning a blind eye, where some kind Bajan soul ensures that the old lady is fed and also makes an effort to nudge the social care agencies into action. The suggestion that a mother’s daughter occupying the family house, whether owned or rented is irrelevant, owes no obligation to support her mother comes from a monstrously evil place and leads to the dumping of family members in government institutions, because in the view of this evil, it is the government’s responsibility. Let us be candid, dementia is tough on the patient and the caregivers. But the suggestion that only legislation will resolve this is idiotic. Who is going to raise the alarm? Well I guess that will also fall to some government employee who comes in at 11.00 and leaves at 1.00. Get real.

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  • @Lisa

    In a blog you have to learn to scroll and ignore. Let us keep the focus on drawing attention to Theresa’s situation.

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  • @Sargeant

    We have to look after the vulnerable in the society in a holistic way. There is the delinquent family and then government that should act as a safety net.

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  • BMcDonald

    You seem to lack ability to think outside of your own need to insult. That is the problem with most people who like to comment about things they know nothing about.

    I’ve worked in healthcare in Ireland and the UK for many years, and I have a lot of experience in mental health. No one is dismissing the impact of looking after people with mental health challenges, but again you miss the point I was trying to make. Doesn’t give people the right not to ask for help or try and get the help that should be available if it becomes overwhelming.

    Unless a person is physically or sexually abused in Barbados, you cannot go to the police and make a report for any other type of abuse. Neglect is a form of abuse, so who protects the elderly when most perpetrators are family members?

    Trust me when I say I have had personal experience coming to Barbados and trying to get abuse matters address, and nothing could be done because of lack of proper legislation with teeth. How many people for all the years Theresa has been out and about tried to help? That would cause a whole lot of guess work and assumption.

    You are right though, some of the govt workers I’ve come across seem to always turn up late and leave early.

    Do have a very good day.

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  • We know when it comes to support for the vulnerable in society, ours is a dysfunctional support system. A few months ago one had to listen to a resident living in a government housing area complaining and complaining about an old lady next door who dumped human waste in her yard and created a stink. It took took too long for government agencies to respond. These are the kind of issues we have to get right. We must have support systems to treat our fellow men and women humanely.

    We have a long way to go in this regard.

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    “We have a ruthless, insensitive group of peoples, who have been in the seat of power for decades and they now pretend that these problems all popped up in something they gleefully call the lost decade. We have at least five lost decades now galloping toward six!”

    Barbados is signatory to the San Jose Charter on the Rights of the Elderly in Latin America and the Caribbean…..as they are to MANY, MANY other human rights legislation which they PROMPTLY IGNORE, violate and abuse the rights of the majority population anyway…the problem is the neglectful LIARS and SCAMMERS in the government…they have always set the tone for elder abuse.

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  • The Blogmaster has a valid point. Aren’t we our brother’s keeper anymore? Irregardless of whether Theresa (and she is the poster child for what I refer to as “implied elderly abuse”) has family and friends, the issue is that she is in need of assistance. Did she fall through the cracks of the Social safety net or have the powers that be concluded that they have done enough for her and have “wiped their hands clean” of her situation? How many more “Theresas” are out there wandering aimlessly and silently crying out for help? Have we as a society lost the art of caring? Certainly a point to ponder!

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  • How will legislation with teeth help? Who is the Complainant. You cannot say immediate relatives can be devoid of conscience and we must accept that and then immediately thereafter appeal to society’s collective conscience after labelling us ‘fools’, who is going to ask for help on behalf of the injured elderly. Are you advocating for a larger bureacracy?

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  • Blah blah blah
    No one here is discounting or disregarding the plight of the elderly most of whom been the building blocks of Barbados socially and economically
    However what concern most is your rambling tirade about govt agencies and the Minister
    Unless one have hardened evidence of govt ignoring the situation and reasons given for such one has taken the road to politicize the issue
    Not good
    The article only sends the reader down a rabbit hole looking for reasons driven by speculations and assumptions
    As a daughter there is no way my mother would be on the street begging while I take residence and comfort in her house
    This story should be fully investigated which and one which includes the daughter ability or inability to take care of the mother
    Those who have helped the mom should be singled out as having a heart
    It would be of interest as to why the daughter haven’t reached out in a more sympathetic manner to her mom

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  • David

    Death represents the wages of all those believing in the ‘I’ and the ‘me’ and the ‘mine’. The self-centeredness of White people. And Bajans are culturally White, dominantly.

    For all those who worship the ancestors of others and think it ‘nostalgic’ for the weeeeeee to think and be outside their frame of reference.

    When people like you are often guided by the notion that the individual is disconnected from the Ancestors. That there is only a world existent within their only puny mind.

    And if be Jesus Christi’s Wunna rasssoul people have no respects for the Ancient Afrikans to whom the Weeeeee belongs it was just a matter of time before the Elders who are being prepared to join the Ancestors would faced that same level of disrespect.

    Nothing but destruction can such a people without root discover!!!!!!

    And until these crimes against the Foremothers are assuaged death shall be the national occupation.

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  • How is this the Ministers fault if her daughter put she out. Are you saying he is now personally responsible for every wicked act by people to parents…
    This article, even the title sound like you have something personal against the man…..this was going on for years and the man now get there.

    I don’t know he apart from seeing he a few times years ago, but people say he’s a good man….
    …what a you doing to help the lady if you are so concerned…..if we keep putting out old people soon there will be no government building big enough to hold them…

    Bajans have to stop this foolish blaming government for everything and start looking at themselves tho.

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  • @ Pacha
    “”Death represents the wages of all those believing in the ‘I’ and the ‘me’ and the ‘mine’. The self-centeredness of White people. And Bajans are culturally White, dominantly.”
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Bushie continues to be awed by your perceptiveness…..
    We have internalized the albino-centric nature of those who enslaved our ancestors (who ALSO foolishly fell for the same ‘materialism and greed’ trap eons ago – and who’s descendants have paid the price for GENERATIONS and Millennia)
    We have learnt NOTHING from the experience.

    We are truly BRASS BOWLS…. a lotta noise and passion, but mostly fulla shiite.

    To be quite honest, Bushie has been UNABLE to grasp the level of PATIENCE, LOVE and LONG SUFFERING that the Creator must have for our sorry donkeys to have persevered with us for soooo long.
    Were it up to Bushie, wunna donkeys would have been stew …MANY YEARS BACK…..

    Who would believe that at this stage, where even a complete jackass must see that the house of cards is all but collapsed, and just awaiting a COMPLETE reshuffle, that we would continue to be preoccupied with trivia….?
    Not a boy is interested in the INTENT of the CREATOR.
    Not a fella seeks to UNDERSTAND the truth about our experience called ‘Life on Earth’…
    …and why it is FALLING APART.
    We all just want to get back to the ‘good old days’ where we could enjoys the fruits of our greed and of our selfish focus….

    Well …as Pacha says, (although choosing NOT to term it this way…)
    THE WAGES OF BRASS BOWLERY IS DEATH….. so we had better start getting USED to our just rewards.
    cause…
    We WILL be seeing a LOT more of our ‘wages’…. in coming weeks and months….
    Unfortunately, It will NOT be pleasant.

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  • Bushmanuh need to dig a,dig, and cover yuh head with a brass bowl
    All day long insulting people and some her help u with such insulting rhetoric
    But then again yuhsupporters got to be real Topsys fuh trute

    Xxxxx
    As for David he got to a real enabler allowing the daughter to pass on her mother’s responsibility to strangers and govt while she lives in the comfort of the mothers house

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    “For all those who worship the ancestors of others and think it ‘nostalgic’ for the weeeeeee to think and be outside their frame of reference. it was just a matter of time before the Elders who are being prepared to join the Ancestors would faced that same level of disrespect.

    Nothing but destruction can such a people without root discover!!!!!!

    And until these crimes against the Foremothers are assuaged death shall be the national occupation.”

    Pacha…this quotation by Nana Clarke features heavily in my upcoming issue of Kush Quarterly.

    They need something WORSE THAN DEATH…that would be too kind…

    “As long as you are dependent on other people solely for your jobs, your house, the cleaning of your streets, the education of your children, the image you see on television, or the image of God in your Church, you can cut it any way you want to, you are a slave.”

    John Henrik Clarke

    “We have learnt NOTHING from the experience.”

    the groomed imperalist mindset can learn NOTHING NEW, they haven’t since the 1920s…too late now…….they are stuck, right where they belong for the whole wide world to view their incompetence, neglect and lying dishonesty..

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  • Waru

    The G7 meeting in Bavaria, after all these thousands of years of imperialism, have just decided that they will create a project to challenge the Belt & Road Initiative of China and a separate such initiative by Russia.

    These people are surrendering. If you can’t beat them join them.

    This tooooooo is tooooo late but of course their followers will continue to see these attempts as anything else but the latest manifestation to keep modern slavery formations going.

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  • Possible meaning:
    If we sin we die. (“Death” here refers not to physical death but to spiritual death or eternal damnation.)

    Origin: The Bible (Romans 6:23): “For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

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  • Reading again, I could have been mistaken about the house belonging to the old lady rather than her daughter but regardless – who could sleep comfortably inside with her mother sleeping outside unless she had done the same to her?

    Dementia is extremely taxing on a caregiver and this is why I said that if she is willing but not able, there should be support available to her.

    This of course, should not require the attention of the minister but he would have claimed to have the answers when he “applied for the job” and he must have them now. He must, in consultation with the relevent professionals, ensure the policy is settled, the laws are adequate and that his Permanent Secretary is on top of the job.

    This is too important a matter for photo ops and blah blah blahs.

    The Minister looks young enough and fit enough to have energy sufficient for the task.

    This does not absolve us from looking after our parents who looked after us. If not us, then who could be more indebted to those who, in most instances, sacrificed for us? If not us, then WHO?

    If this does not move us, then we should at least note that if we have children, they are learning from us how to treat their elderly parents. And unless we die young, our time will come.

    I would like us to remember though, that it is not accurate to label Barbadians as uncaring when more old folks are well taken care of than not. More old folks are picked up from the hospital than not. More old folks are picked up from Harrison’s Point than not.

    What we must strive to do is make provision for the “nots”.

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  • Which reminds me that I must drop the extra pounds that have my surprised frame confused, regain my energy, enough to pitch in once more as a citizen.

    Too much blah blah blah coming from me too in the last few years since my son no longer needs a fulltime mother.

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    “after all these thousands of years of imperialism, ”

    yeah, i noticed…

    Pach…….is that not a little too late by hundreds of years? living through global recessions consistently…..with progressive pushed back 50 years at a time is neither progressive nor living….especially for smal dependent islands..

    “Global Recession Risk Warning Issued

    Deutsche Bank CEO Christian Sewing said last week the global economy may be headed for a recession as central banks scramble to combat inflation.

    “At least I would say we have 50% likelihood of a recession globally,” Sewing said at the Future of Finance Summit in Frankfurt, as quoted by Bloomberg.

    According to the top banker, the chances of a recession hitting the US and Europe in the second half of 2023 are higher than the bank’s previous forecasts before the start of the war in Ukraine.”

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    *with progress pushed back 50 years at a time…

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    “This tooooooo is tooooo late but of course their followers will continue to see these attempts as anything else but the latest manifestation to keep modern slavery formations going.”

    am sure if they are measuring from the point of view of the the former clearing house for the enslaved….now .the trading post for the Slave minded, with their world stage runner trying to convince everyone to remain in the 1920s and follow them into a dark hole filled with cartels and criminal syndicates…..they will see, it won’t be as easy as before,

    their best course of action is to create a new system for themselves…and let Afrika and Afrikans be…

    they can have the Slaves/fowls/political pimps… not a fella will miss them…and that is more than enuff for them to work with anyway…

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  • Oh shirt. Now the lap dog calling you ‘Pach’. Maybe Pachie Poo. Any port in a storm 😸

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    Pacha…me thinks once again there has been a huge miscalculation…..given certain happenings….

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    Pacha…ah saw “the $600bn Rival to China’s Belt and Road Investment”

    now we got a figure to work with…so is any of that going DIRECTLY IN THE HANDS OF THE DESCENDANTS OF THE ENSLAVED across the region AND THE AMERICAS……..bypassing THIEVING, CORRUPT governments.

    that’s my FIRST QUESTION…

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  • Please everyone, let us not shift focus from the issue at hand. Outside of the fact that Theresa needs help, we have systemic failure in the delivery of services here.

    Why would all attempts to reach out to agencies bring zero change to her circumstances thus far?

    As a society we have come to accept less than adequate from across sectors. We have failures regarding getting anything done in a reasonable amount of time because most areas are understaffed or positions filled by people who don’t have a clue about what they’re doing, or just don’t care. The responsible ones carry the burden of the useless ones, and this county is too small to continue to sustain the level of incompetence I see.

    When are we going to demand better and hold people accountable for their shortcomings regarding the dysfunction society?

    We vote for change that is slow to come, and then turns up rebranded and repackage as a new promise for another vote in a few years.

    Do we continue as if we are not all affected or might be affected by poor governance at some point? You think when Theresa was younger it might have crossed her mind that a lack of legislation might be the thing that holds no one accountable when she needs help the most?

    Some have asked how proper legislation fixes anything, but if you have to ask what is obvious to most, you don’t deserve an answer.

    From observation we have a very entitled bunch of people on this rock, and I blame the culture we have created here by the systemic failures that create ‘others’. I have never come across a more confused, ego inflated people in such a small space, where everyone has now become so sensitive we can’t demand change to avoid hurting feelings or bruising egos.

    All of us with a conscience, an ounce of compassion and love, would never allow one of our family members the indignity of homelessness or needless suffering. However, to those who believe we all think the same and will treat others how we would like to be treated underestimate human behaviour.

    Theresa didn’t have to treat her daughter badly to be treated unfairly in return, the daughter might just lack compassion and have no shame.

    There is a lot of lip service out there regarding elder abuse, but nothing is being done about it. Same with mental health, and yet we stigmatise people out of ignorance and fear.

    If we could call an agency as a concerned member of the public to report abuse if we suspect emotional/psychological, finacial, neglect, abandonment or self-neglect, wouldn’t it be good to know these issues could be dealt with and those responsible held accountable?

    We don’t have an excuse to see something and do nothing. Legislation is like a comfort blanket for all of us who might be blessed to reach old age while living on this rock. We will continue to fail the elderly if all we do is talk and forever be unable to find solutions.

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  • Yes the people vote for change
    However changes does not null.and void any and every issue
    As stated in the article the lady has a daughter
    Accountability also should be held towards the daughter out of respect for the mother well being
    There are processes which must first be adhere starting with a thorough investigation
    Govt just can’t take charge of the woman well being if there are family members involved
    There are legal ramifications involved if the daughter does not give the relevant govt officials reasons and permission

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  • @Lisa June 27, 2022 6:38 AM “and no parent should expect that a child is obligated to look after them.”

    I disagree. Parent’s are correct to expect that their children will after them in their old age. Just as infants and children have a right to care from their parents. If the adult child cannot manage all of the care giving, then they will have to pay someone else to do some of the work, and if no money is available, then it is the responsibility of the adult child to contact state agencies for assistance. And state agencies ought to be responsive. Legislation alone achieves nothing.

    @Lisa June 27, 2022 6:38 AM We cannot expect that any child birthed will be given a moral compass or conscience.”

    NOBODY is born with a conscience or a moral compass. Children have to be TAUGHT to be moral, to be compassionate, to be kind, to be loving. These things are not inborn. This teaching has to be done firstly by the parents, but also by the extended family, the community, the church, and the school. To expect that a child is born with a conscience is as silly as expecting that a child is born knowing how to speak, to walk to read, to write to fly an airplane and do do brain surgery. ALL of these things have to be TAUGHT by example and by word. And all of these things CAB be taught. If they are not taught there will be cat piss and peppa as we ALL age.

    @Lisa June 27, 2022 6:38 AM “Has it occurred to anyone that the lack of legislation to protect the elderly is the main problem that causes abuse to go unchecked on this rock?”

    No it hasn’t occurred to me. We have so many laws in this country which are never enforced. So why do we still behave as though more law will fix family DYSFUNCTION?

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  • As harsh as it seems no child is obligated to look after a parent. In this regard Lisa is correct.

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  • Critical Analyzer

    Too many assumptions are being made because all the facts behind the situation have not been aired.

    @Lisa is correct in the inadequacy of our laws in this situation.

    Social Services cannot jump in to assist unless the person accepts and consents and police cannot do anything until a crime is committed as our laws usually kick in when a crime has been committed.

    Does anyone know if the old woman was asked but refused to admitted to Psychiatric, District hospital or one of the other homes. Do you all know admission to those places is by consent only and cannot be under duress unless some crime has been committed.

    Does anyone know why the daughter has not admitted her into the house. Does her daughter feel threatened and fear for her life or her children’s life, if the daughter has children, while they sleep with her inside.

    I know absolutely nothing about the situation but I can say taking care of problematic old people can be a very dangerous job and something more has to be in the mortal since it sounds like agencies and press have already been involved and might have backed off because their hands are all tied.

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  • David

    I also have to agree with Lisa as well.

    Filial responsibility laws, for example, impose a legal obligation on adult children to be financially responsible for their elderly parents’ basic needs and medical care.
    I read that, according to North Carolina state law, it is a misdemeanor, punishable by up to a year in jail, for an adult child to fail to support an ill or indigent parent.

    The sad, harsh reality is, there aren’t any such laws in Barbados that legally require adult children to support their elderly parents who cannot otherwise support themselves.

    Hence, the easiest option for the children is to abandon them at the QEH or any other state owned health care institution.

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  • AC
    Anyone who has ever gone by Top Rock and interacted with Theresa will notice that she lacks the capacity to make some judgements on her own. Interacting with her can bring about conversation sometimes but other times you will find it hard to interact with her focused because she is having a difficult day.

    The most Theresa would be able to do is bring the things she hoards from outside on her daily trips to house. For this reason alone, if the daughter couldn’t cope she could contact agencies to help her mother. To my knowledge none of this has happened.

    From what I have asked about her, she was a teacher at some point and had a mental break after her mother died, and went into slow continuous decline. It is amazing what you can find out if you take a little time to notice someone in need. And it was shocking to hear people say she needed help, but none has tried to offer it.

    Social agencies have been made aware of her situation and to this point no one has done any follow up on her. The story never ran in any news paper I’m aware of, so maybe they just never ran it for reasons known only to them.

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  • and keep her focused… is what I meant to say

    It has been a long day.

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  • AC

    To touch on something else you mentioned. The NAB has a job to assign social workers to investigate any complaints made in relation to the elderly. From their assessment and investigations, recommendations are made to first establish if a person can be looked after at home. This is what allows them to send home helpers in to care for a person at home.

    For someone like Theresa, this would be made difficult because she is mobile and need to wander. Facility care would be the likely recommendation because she is in need of treatment.

    If a person has a mental health history and is on file with mental health services, they can be picked up, but only if they have an assessment done.

    Who will take Theresa for that assessment?

    If you are a danger to the public the police can be called to take you to Black Rock after the community mental health nurse sends a form over to them. This old lady is a danger only to herself, so she remains out there and without the right kind of help.

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  • CA

    My apologies for addressing you AC. It has been a very long day, and AC is stuck in my head because you see her post often on here.

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  • There is a moral duty which no child can null or void
    Whether or not the law states that the child is obligated or not
    Citizens duty should be one of advocating a voice not only towards govt as the guardian but placing the responsibility on the families or family member of the neglected individual
    Not going sit here and join with those who just simply want to place burden of responsibility on taxpayers back when in this case there is a daughter who should be shouldering such responsibility for the parent in areas of food and shelter

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  • The speaker of the house Carrington had a moral responsibility to pay Griffiths his money.

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  • It would be of interest if the mother is collecting govt financial benefits how are these benefits being handled and by whom
    If the mother is is poor health mentally

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  • Everyone keeps talking about moral duty as if everyone has them. Theresa is walking about day into night, but somewhere a pension is sent. Who benefits from that pension if Theresa goes into care? Everyone should know by now that with Theresa in any govt facility, her pensions stops. Financial abuse and neglect is alive a real in Barbados and is top of the list in terms of abuse committed here.

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  • LisaJune 28, 2022 12:20 AM

    AC
    Anyone who has ever gone by Top Rock and interacted with Theresa will notice that she lacks the capacity to make some judgements on her own. I

    The most Theresa would be able to do is bring the things she hoards from outside on her daily trips to house. For this reason alone, if the daughter couldn’t cope she could contact agencies to help her mother. To my knowledge none of this has happened.
    Xxcccc

    The above comment has interesting observations
    One the mother mental state
    Two the daughter not getting in contact with relevant officials

    Those two observations are tell tale signs as to why the daughter would not seek intervention and also if there are financial benefits derived which the daughter can access and handle
    Hence govt intervention might become a hindrance
    Behind all of this noise is a selfish daughter who only thinks about her own interest and not the mothers

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  • Angela

    Unfortunately we have raised society unable to take responsibility for most things (including our politicians).
    Where family fail, social services should fill that void. We are not from a culture that appreciates the elderly unfortunately. How many of you see family members of a certain age, given up on in terms of medical treatment options? I’m sure many of you would have a story to tell. The elderly are disposable, and a drain on the NIS in this place. We need to get real of the realities of Barbados.

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  • A famous quote from Mahatma Gandhi springs to mind here: ‘the true measure of any society can be found in how it treats its most vulnerable members’.Sep 15, 2016

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  • @Lisa

    Many posting here are ‘bredded’ in a North America culture where the practice is to pack old people off to homes and senior citizens villages.

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  • With the inclement weather being experienced this morning spare a thought for the vulnerable in society who without support from family, society (including government) are left to fight their fight. A reflection who we are as people?

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  • David

    Yes, I notice that..

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  • Lisa
    Govt have social services but it is also up to.family members to get involved and seek help for the individual
    One of your comments pinpoints the various reasons why the mother is still loitering the street
    The daughter engagement with officials seems to be lacking or missing and maybe with or for good reasons

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  • David

    To your earlier post.

    Carrington has a moral duty to pay the old guy, but it isn’t going to happen.
    Lawyers here are a law unto themselves.

    One took all my interest from the money she had in her client account on a property I was purchasing. This thing dragged on and the judge made an order for the money to be released, but my interest wasn’t paid. I asked her to send my money and it never came. I went to the BAR association and they played the various games they play. It went as far as coming up to a deadline, I got an email from their email account and an attempted hack was made to my email account. When the checks were made it was from an Internet cafe in Surrey. I no longer wanted anything to do with them, and I didn’t think I would receive justice here, so she keeps the money.

    On my own investigation I found out what company someone else fronts for her, and clients interest goes towards the purchase of properties. This lady has about 8 high end properties about this place. Only in Bim.

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  • Angela

    All what you say is well and good, but as harsh as it may seem to some, you can’t make family take responsibility if they don’t want it. Everyone has their motives, and in this case, unfortunately, social services need to step up once notified.

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  • Theresa is at risk of all types of abuse while walking around confused at night.
    Unfortunately she is not the only one. Women either homeless, with mental health conditions or sleeping rough should be of a concern to the public. We have a mens shelter, but no female shelter other than those for domestic violence. We have no safe places or supported living settings to help individuals. Our mental health and social care services are in need of overhauls. The stigma attached to people in need of services in general is viewed very poorly in terms of the very attitude of staff who work in some of these areas toward people in need. Theresa wouldn’t be seen as anyone of importance, but they would run and help a retuning national faster because their pension makes up a lot more. How many of you are ready to speak truth to this place?

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  • Lisa not all well and good when the harshness of this case lies within the reality of the daughter not giving govt officials the necessary permission legal and other wise to intervene
    Until such happens the lady situation would remain the same attracting all kinds of assumptions

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  • Angela,
    NAB doesn’t need permission from the daughter. They carryout investigations and assessments and follow through based on their findings. I think you would find that social services drop the ball here. I know about this case so assume nothing.

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    Abuse of the elderly ORIGINATED in the parliament…that is where it needs EXPOSURE THE MOST…

    followed by the neglectful family members, many of whom lack the resources to deal adequately with senior members in failing mental and physical health..

    .maybe if the frauds of parliament…the SCAMMERS and LIARS would stop ripping off the NIS, the ELDERLY and their beneficiaries INDIVIDUALLY…there would be less such cases…each generation…

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  • Wura

    I could understand from the point in which we need to create new legislation to protect the elderly, but I don’t see how it originates in parliament. Care you expand on that a little? The thing I’ve found living back here is that it acts like a plantation. When I tell people that Bim feels like living on a plantation they becomes very offended, but I am at the stage where I don’t care to make any apologies for my interpretation of experiences I live.

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  • Wura

    I think we can cast a lot of blame on the cultural attitudes we now have here. There is no respect for the elderly and people are measured based on where they live and what jobs they have. Our problems are societal by nature for the most part. The laid back nature means that a lot gets done later, or when the public has had enough. We can’t have legislation unless people do the work to make them a reality.

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  • LisaJune 28, 2022 7:24 AM

    Angela,
    NAB doesn’t need permission from the daughter. They carryout investigations and assessments and follow through based on their findings. I think you would find that social services drop the ball here. I know about this case so assume nothing.
    Xxxxxx
    So if u know so much
    But iam yet to read in your comments that the daughter has taken any such involvement in seeing that social services intervene in helping the mother
    I will continue to stand ground as to asking why has the daughter engagement on behalf of the mother well being lacking if as u say social services engagement has not giving relevance to the case
    Until that question is answered assumptions would continue
    If you are closely involved in the case there are missing answers to questions absent which can clarify the truthfulness of the case
    Maybe u should be more transparent after all taxpayers money would become involved
    I also asked who are in charge of this mother govt financial benefits which u have not answered
    There are many missing links some of which u might not want to answer for whatever reason

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    ” think we can cast a lot of blame on the cultural attitudes we now have here. There is no respect for the elderly and people are measured based on where they live and what jobs they have. Our problems are societal by nature for the most part. ”

    there is definitely NO RESPECT SHOWN TO AFRIKAN DESCENDED PEOPLE IN BARBADOS….and it’s your dangerous deceitful lying vote begging politicians who have always led that gang of traitors..

    ..the people, as some of us have said on her for YEARS…have to STAND UP AND DEMAND RESPECT from those leeches in the cabinet….THEN THEY WILL HAVE TO RESPECT EVERY AFRIKAN PERSON on the island including the elderly and children…

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  • What are the functions of the NAB? From my limited knowledge I thought they were the equivalent to “ home help” we have here. If the woman is homeless and mobile then I would think the is not much they can do. But again – my knowledge is very limited

    If the lady need “mental” help and cannot admit herself i think it will require the sign off of one / two / doctors ( I cannot remember the exact).

    Thanks to the person who is providing the food
    IMO the daughter seem to have some mental blockage/no heart

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  • Angela

    Everyone wants to know everyone else business but keep their own firmly hidden.
    I am the type of person who never seek to make anything about myself. It is my belief that if your intentions are good your works need no recognition from anyone. A lot of assumptions have been made in the comments, and I would be amused if I didn’t find some of the thinking devoid of depth and sad. I moved back to Barbados over a year ago (and have questioned it since this year began), and went to the Top Rock gas station and meet Theresa for the very first time. Like most of the public who will feel sorry for her, I purchased a drink and a bread for her to eat. Not being satisfied by the lack of nutritional value in that meal, I went home and cooked some food and took it back down there for her. It took me a little bit to build the type of trust needed, so that even on her bad days, she would know that I was a safe person to interact with. When people are out there and being taken advantage of they don’t trust anyone not to hurt them. People, I am a human being who cannot see suffering and not try and do something about it. I made it my business to get to know about Theresa, because she is a fellow human. You know who has failed Theresa? Her family who can see her and do nothing to help. People from her neighbourhood who knows and told me she needs help but never picked up a phone on her behalf. The social worker who I took over there myself and didn’t follow through with the help. The organisations who told me they have been aware of her for years and done nothing. The news papers who I have contacted and for whatever reason have not got back to me about Theresa’s story. The people in society who see her and look own on her, without a thought that she could very well be one of them in the future. The Ministry of Elder Affairs, who without proper legislation, has been instrumental in the continuation of abuse going unchecked here in this country. I am sick of people wanting to know information and making assumptions, while missing the big picture.

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  • John 2

    The NAB comes under the Elder Affairs ministry and is responsible for placement into geriatric hospitals or homes as well. They have social workers who are assigned to cover areas of Barbados and function as a advocate for the elderly if needed.

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    “The Ministry of Elder Affairs, who without proper legislation, has been instrumental in the continuation of abuse going unchecked here in this country. I am sick of people wanting to know information and making assumptions, while missing the big picture.”

    Frauds….all they like is photo ops.

    ..they have watched the elderly get robbed of their inheritances and estates……their beneficiaries robbed of EVERYTHING and having no future….and never lifted a finger to help protect them from criminal politicians and lawyers who committed these crimes against them for 90 years…..one just retired and was only famous for photo ops and hairstyles,…Minister of Hairstyles…..worthless…sucking on taxpayers monthly…and doing nothing to change the condition of the elderly..

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  • Angela

    You said I should be more transparent knowing tax payer dollars would be going towards Theresa’s care. That kind of thinking right there is part of the problem. Has the elderly not paid contributions that can now be put towards their care if they need it? I am sure you would expect the same after working your adult life and paying taxes.

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  • NAB’s Welfare Officers conduct investigations based on referrals.
    In other words, someone would’ve had to brought the lady’s plight to the attention of the Board, thereby initiating the appropriate response.

    Obviously, a Welfare Officer would have to gather all the necessary information as possible, before making an assessment and subsequent recommendations.
    This process may include, determining where the lady lives; who is her ‘next of kin,’ if it’s her daughter, then she is interviewed; if she receives a pension; ailments etc.

    The lady may be further referred to the QEH, district or psychiatric hospital for medical evaluation.
    Since she is roaming the streets, it is useless to recommend ‘home care service.’
    The only other option may be renting a unit at NAB’s Vauxhall Senior Citizens’ Village, where she can be taken care of by Wardens.

    However, I don’t believe social services agencies can act without authorization from her next of kin, which, in this case, is probably her daughter.

    Without knowing what transpired between the social service agencies and the lady’s daughter, we are only left to make uninformed assumptions.

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  • Artax

    You missed where I mentioned that I took the social worker over there myself. No follow through, so no discussions happened with anyone but myself.

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  • Artax

    As far as I know the last thing that happened since a year ago was that of checking on her pension with the NIS. Just last week I asked for an update and no one got back to me, which means nothing was being done.

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  • @lisa
    You mention in the above comment family members doing nothing to help her
    That is as close to truthfulness and a truth which requires there involvement in this case
    A truth begging for answers from the family
    As stated the old lady is in a detroriating mental state and as much as a called for govt intervention be necessary
    The family support is also necessary for govt follow-ups as questions would be asked by the family members detailing personnel info about the lady
    Getting her help is necessary but also family engagement with govt official is also of great importance
    Final comment

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  • Lisa

    Can NAB has the authority place someone in a “home” without consent ?
    Again I only familiar about the home help care part through them assisting two elders I knew

    Ps. Keep up the good work

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  • @Lisa

    Thanks for your interest in the matter. There is a big difference between talking the talk and walking the walk.

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  • John 2

    Thank you.
    I am not familiar with the mental health and cares act here, but you usually look at mental capacity to determine outcomes based on that assessment. As a starter she can be placed in the psychiatric hospital because of a history of mental health issues and with follow up go from there. I contacted the hospital in Blk Rk and was told to take her to the nearest policlinic for assessment, but I asked them how they expected me to do that when they know under the law I could be charged with kidnapping, because I am not a family member. They could have got the community mental health nurse to come out and that didn’t happen. Many people here don’t like doing their jobs and I’m frustrated. You have to chase behind people to do their jobs and it isn’t right. Our attitudes towards work is very poor in the public service.

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  • Lisa

    I join John 2 and David on thanking you for your interest in this matter.

    David is correct that “there is a big difference between talking the talk and walking the walk.”

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  • Lisa,

    I think you misunderstood something I wrote where I wondered who could let her mother sleep outside unless the mother had done such to her.

    I was suggesting what could be, the only EXCUSE not assuming that this is what actually happened.

    Read the rest of my submission and you will see that we more or less agree. I have advocated for what was my home church to organise a simple meals on wheels programme for the needy elderly in our parish and my suggestion was put down with a sneering, “That will not work!”

    Based on past behaviour, I believe that the speaker did not want it to work because she did not like me.

    We had ONE beautiful lady who did most of the running around for the elderly in our parish. I volunteered to help her but she never availed herself of the offer. She was used to working alone, I think. And I have found myself that, quite often, that is the best way. Last thing I heard, her only daughter had died, she herself was failing, and her half sister had moved in, taken control and cut off access to her by friends and neighbours who wished to visit but I comforted myself with the believe the priest would have reacted if such had happened to him. In this case, there substantial property and only overseas relatives to contend with, including a slightly younger sister.

    I never even heard of this half sister until the woman started to deteriorate.

    I must admit I did nothing because I did not wish to be labelled a nosy parker or a gold digger. There is a big pension, relatively speaking and substantial property in the mix. I know how the tongues tend to wag.

    I must admit that I have given up on church and most other organisations because I find it is usually about doing the least and showing off the most. And making sure the ideas of people you don’t like are dead in the water.

    This is why I speak of needing to regain my energy to rejoin the fight. I simply got tired of the unnecessary hurdles. At one meeting I was brought to tears as I was attacked for a suggestion that we do not do enough.

    I agree with you that the attitude can truly suck around here. I hope it does not wear you down.

    We must do better. Including me. If there is any assistance I can offer you, the blogmaster has my contact information and my permission to release it to you.

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  • Artax

    Thanks for the acknowledgement.

    However, my interest has never been about anyone recognising me, because it is very important to me that they see Theresa. To look at her and feel the need to do something because it could happen to anyone. A family member of hers, who has a very big govt position told me that “mental health issues run in the family and everyone’s main interest is to keep their own heads above water and not have to acknowledge what she is dealing with as a likely outcome for one of them”.

    That type of bollocks out his mouth was real.

    She also has a brother who is on the streets in the daytime, but lives at another brother of theirs. She has a sister who when I last inquired worked at QEH and she also lives in the house where Theresa sleeps outside. Theresa knows, where her home is and that is why she stays in the area and sleeps in the gallery at night. They used to put two cushions out for her, but the other morning I noticed her just being on a sheet flat on the concrete. Sometimes I go and check on her when it is still dark outside, and it is dangerous for me driving the distance and leaving the car to be on foot, but if I don’t look out for her no one else does.

    I told David about her so that someone might be motivated to help, because right now, her physical health needs attention. My guess is that she hasn’t been to the doctor in years. Outside of all this she is very clean and has a wash at the gas station or over by Dover beach. The girls at the gas station also give her soap and tea some mornings. One of the girls especially look out for her and is responsible for giving her soap. Sometimes she wouldn’t eat anything until she is clean before she sits down to eat. I see her personality, and I wish people would see her as worthy enough of help because she is a human being.

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  • Donna

    The one thing I’ve come to realise is that people will talk about you regardless. If you feel the need to do something for someone, just do it. Money and the love for possessions brings out the monster in people, but you look beyond that and just do what you know is right.

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  • WTH…
    Lisa did not have to say that she only returned to Barbados last year… IT IS OBVIOUS THAT SHE IS NOT FROM BOUT HERE.

    As a majority Black Country, this BB place is more albino-centric than the albinos themselves.
    EVERY shiite is about money, who paying, who getting paid, who stands to benefit etc…
    NO DAMN BODY CARES…. for CARING SAKE….

    Even though we all know that the damn government is incompetent, misguided and under the control of the greedy materialistic mafia, through bribes, we continue to harp about what they SHOULD be doing for us.

    We have now reached the stage where even within FAMILIES there is ROUTINE cut-throat materialistic greed.
    And this is not only in cases such as this… one can only wonder how many ‘insurance payouts’ and property transfers have been orchestrated by greedy family who could not be bothered to wait a few more months or years….

    This is not a problem that can be solved by any government.
    This is the WAGES of doing shiite for YEARS.
    In the old days, dirt poor Bajans looked after relatives, to the best of their limited abilities and government tried, with limited resources, to create ‘alms houses’, hospital and clinics to assist.

    Today we are a multi-Billion dollar economy, and the only ones who benefit are the albino shadows who are known to pay attractive bribes….. What else can be expected?

    Note that it is the VERY SAME shiite BBs (like ac who glorify the bribe-taking politicians) who have us in this jobby.
    When offered Caswell, Atherley and Grenville who CLEARLY DEMONSTRATED UNSELFISH intents, we collectively said “NO! Give us the Queen of Four Seasons and her clan instead”….. just like some ancient BBs rejected a bushman for Barnabas….

    We are just reaping what we have sown in following the ways of our former slave-masters…. It will get MUCH worse.
    Karma is a SPIRITUAL law that has to be fulfilled.

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  • Donna

    Three months ago my mother died, and two weeks before she did, I couldn’t get access to her. I made arrangements for her doctors appointment and had to also make arrangements for a ride for her because something was wrong with my radiator. My mother made it to her appointment because a sister of mine must had called my mother and found out who was taking her to her appointment and called the person who took my mother to her house. I never saw my mother alive again and the police couldn’t get involved because they say she was at a family member, and none of the agencies could help me to get my mother back. All the police could do was call my sister and ask why my mother wasn’t taken to her appointment. They were told by my sister that she was taken to a doctor and nothing else could be done by it. They didn’t even call me to say my mother way dying and I got that call from a stranger. Since my mother has died I heard some rumour of my mother signing house and land over to my sisters daughter. They know none of that could have happened if my mother was still at home with me taking care of her. Before I came back to Barbados they were in control of my mothers money, and I told my money to handle things herself because she has capacity to do so. My sister and her children had such coercive control over my mother, so would tell them everything down to what I gave her to eat and drink on a daily, and she would question why I gave it to her based on if they thought she should have it or not. Behind my back she still found a way to give them her money, because of the level of control they had. Abuse of the elderly is real in Bim, and I couldn’t even help my own mother because of the lack of legislation to offer her protection. Donna, I have become tired. being back here because it seems everyone has an agenda and a selfish undercurrent is ever present. I then had a fight for my mothers body and not even my lawyer wanted to do anything about it and spent the time talking me away from the idea. People, in Barbados everything is hard because it is. I am tired and still recovering from this year and the death of my mother. I need someone to help Theresa because I can’t do it on my own.

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  • Donna

    I meant to say my mother never made it to her appointment.

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  • Everyone keeps talking about moral duty as if everyone has them. Theresa is walking about day into night, but somewhere a pension is sent. Who benefits from that pension if Theresa goes into care? Everyone should know by now that with Theresa in any govt facility, her pensions stops. Financial abuse and neglect is alive a real in Barbados and is top of the list in terms of abuse committed here.

    I moved back to Barbados over a year ago (and have questioned it since this year began

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    LISA

    KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.

    WELCOME TO THE SHITHOLE CESSPOOL OF THE 2 X 3 ISLAND

    WAY WAY TOO MANY LOCALS BLACKS ARE SICK IN THEIR HEAD AND BLINDED BY THEIR SELFISHNESS AND LACK OF EMPATHY.

    THEY WILL SCORN OTHERS AND SEEK TO PUT THEM IN A BOX WHILE DELIRIOUSLY WALKING AROUND IN SHIT FOR 2 YEARS.

    THIS ARTICLE HIGHLIGHTS 1000 PERCENT THE AGENCIES, POLITICIANS AND BLACKS WITH MENTAL HANGUPS.

    YOU HAVE SURVIVED A YEAR IT WILL NOT GET BETTER.

    TRUST ME

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  • Since my mother has died I heard some rumour of my mother signing house and land over to my sisters daughter. They know none of that could have happened if my mother was still at home with me taking care of her. Before I came back to Barbados they were in control of my mothers money, and I told my money to handle things herself because she has capacity to do so.

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    HAD AN OLDER SISTER WHO DID THE SAME SHIT WITH A GRANDMOTHER WHO HAD RETURNED FROM THE US BEHIND EVERYONE BACK.

    LOCALS DON’T WANT TO WORK AND EARN FOR THE MOST PART THEY RATHER WANT TO SEE RELATIVES DIE TOTAKE OVER PROPERTY.

    THIS IS A WIDE SPREAD PRACTICE.

    I RETURNED TO THE ISLAND AFTER MANY YEARS AND MANY OF THE THINGS YOU OUTLINED I HAVE SEEN HOWEVER LEFT AGAIN BECUASE I CANNOT LIVE AMONG IGNORANT PEOPLE WHO CANNOT LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND DEAL WITH THEIR BACKWARD AND DESTRUCTIVE THINKING.

    HENCE IT WILL NOT GET BETTER IT WILL GET WORSE AND WHEN ADDING CROOKED LAWYERS YOU ARE FACING A LONG HARD ROAD.

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  • BAJE

    Lol..
    Don’t worry, since my mother has died I’ve been thinking about taking my exit. Things here are just too hard, and simple things become difficult. I don’t know how much more I can tolerate before my own mental health comes into question.

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  • BAJE

    Lol..
    Don’t worry, since my mother has died I’ve been thinking about taking my exit. Things here are just too hard, and simple things become difficult. I don’t know how much more I can tolerate before my own mental health comes into question.

    Xxxxxxxx

    I STUCK IT OUT FOR AROUND 15 YEARS HOWEVER WAS IN BUSINESS MOST OF THE TIME SO TRAVELED FREQUENTLY. DID A SHORT STINT TEACHING AT UWI.

    HOWEVER WAS MY FREQUENT TRAVELS ON BUSINESS THAT ALLOWED ME TO KEEP MY SANITY.

    SINCE I LEFT LIKE LIVING IN THE REAL WORLD WHERE MOST PEOPLE LIVE IN A REALITY THAT IS MOSTLY DEVOID ON THE 2 X 3 ISLAND.

    AGAIN I SALUTE YOU FOR ASSISTANTING THIS ELDERLY WOMAN UNSELFISHLY THE ISLAND NEEDS MORE HEROES LIKE YOU.

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  • Correction

    ASSISTING

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  • Lisa,

    So sorry to hear of your mum’s death and your experience with your family.

    As I said, if there is any assistance I can offer, just let me know. You know the woman and her situation and she knows you. And so I would need to work through you.

    Take heart! We are not all waiting for our parents to die. When my house phone rings at odd times, I get a chill imagining things. They are getting on in age and I cannot imagine waking up one morning to realise they are no more. The world would feel rather strange. You must be feeling a bit disoriented.

    I had a old cousin who would make it her business, among other things, to collect money and items for anyone in the parish who had lost their home in a house fire.

    Her first question to anyone she had not seen for a while was always, “So what are you up to now- just taking up space on the earth?”

    I never forgot those words.

    We must all seek to justify our presence on the earth and not just take up space.

    P.S. I don’t mind the usual talk. I would mind being called a gold digger. That one would really hurt.

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  • Donna

    I live life knowing that once I hear something about myself and it isn’t true, it doesn’t matter. You alone know what you can tolerate, but fear keeps us from becoming the persons we were meant to be sometimes.

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  • @BT
    “We have now reached the stage where even within FAMILIES there is ROUTINE cut-throat materialistic greed.
    And this is not only in cases such as this… one can only wonder how many ‘insurance payouts’ and property transfers have been orchestrated by greedy family who could not be bothered to wait a few more months or years….”

    @BAJE (modified)
    “I CANNOT LIVE AMONG PEOPLE WHO CANNOT LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND DEAL WITH THEIR BACKWARD AND DESTRUCTIVE THINKING.

    HENCE IT WILL NOT GET BETTER IT WILL GET WORSE AND WHEN ADDING CROOKED LAWYERS YOU ARE FACING A LONG HARD ROAD.”

    Much has been said, but those two posts describe the situation.

    The government/legislation cannot solve all of the problems and the GoB does not have the money to take care of all those who fall on hard times for one reason or another. The problems that can be fixed (e.g. crooked LAWYERS) are ignored or explained away.

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    “We are just reaping what we have sown in following the ways of our former slave-masters…. It will get MUCH worse.
    Karma is a SPIRITUAL law that has to be fulfilled.”

    and they are surrounded by both Karma and Retribution for their EVIL TREACHEROUS WAYS…they have no ancestral respect and are unable to respect each other…

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  • BAJE
    I was of that opinion too, where leaving often would break that crazy feeling, but I think I need a few months a way each time. I liked the idea of working here until I realised the standards are too low for me and I would just become stressed out. Was setting up a business, but months wait for the type of insurance I needed, and being told that I would have to be known to the people at some insurance companies to get it was a turnoff.

    The interview process was mad, and it really did make me pack it all in. I just couldn’t have people working for me that would cause my reputation to suffer. I’ve reached the point where I can’t stay here full-time, it is just too hard.

    The same type of insurance I needed here, I got in one day with a broker in UK. However, I had to wait a few months for anyone to get back to me about it, and I can’t work like that.

    People might think that returning nationals or ex pats are just picky, but when you see how things can work so easily, and here they make it so hard, you do moan about it because you are disappointed no one wants to do things any better.

    I still find it shocking that people argue on here about political parties and such, when there is no difference between the parties other than colours. They fool the people who are faithful to them and make the same types of promises. I’ve also encountered here that voting is important if you want to get anything done. If they realise you didn’t vote you can shout until your mouth is dry, you will not be helped.

    So where does that leave the poor people who believe promises and wait for the politicians to give them little picks? They are all at the mercy of the political class who only help themselves and all who they care about, and that is never the public. So I am tired because this place has the ability to suck life out of you.

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  • TheOGazerts

    How do we fix the problems lawyers cause when most politicians are lawyers?

    I’ve had runnings with them, and you get nowhere because you can’t even trust the next lawyer to have your back.
    A friend of mine told me that she never came across lawyers like the ones she had to deal with here. Says something when people can recognise that these people are not right.

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    William….this lady has no clue how much more she has to go through….

    I published that tribute to George Lamming today, it’s in Kush Quarterly Magazine July-September issue.

    Lisa…try as hard as you can to minimize your interactions with them….it will save your sanity….but make sure there are always eyes behind your back…for when they start coming after you….tons of thieves and saboteurs…

    “I still find it shocking that people argue on here about political parties and such, when there is no difference between the parties other than colours. They fool the people who are faithful to them and make the same types of promises. I’ve also encountered here that voting is important if you want to get anything done. If they realise you didn’t vote you can shout until your mouth is dry, you will not be helped.”

    don’t fall into their notorious political pimp parade…..they embarrass themselves on this blog daily being common breed fowls…

    and stay AS FAR AWAY FROM THEIR SLAVE SYSTEM as you can…they use it as a weapon as often as they can against Afrikan descended people..

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  • People might think that returning nationals or ex pats are just picky, but when you see how things can work so easily, and here they make it so hard, you do moan about it because you are disappointed no one wants to do things any better.

    Xxxxxx.

    TOO MANY SMALL MINDED

    WHEN ONE HAS EXPERIENCED THE DEVELOPED WORLD ONE KNOWS THE DIFFERENCE AND THE EXCUSE FOR BULLSHIT.

    YOU HAVE DESCRIBED ALL TOO WELL IN YOUR SUBMISSIONS THE REALITY OF THE 2 x 3 ISLAND.

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  • Wura

    No chance of me falling for all the tricks and gimmicks out there.

    Being aware of self and your surroundings is a big plus. I have been seeking to limit my interactions as much as possible already. Like you, I believe the more people are aware of who they’re and where they come from, light shines forth from life and you are better able to navigate just being yourself.

    Being here has allowed me to realise how self hate plays a role in determining how people are treated still. One guy told me I was not black but brown, and it was nothing more shocking for me to hear. It started because I told him I am a proud black woman, and he pointed out that my looks say otherwise and I am refusing to accept the white part of my bloodline. Many amusing conversations could be had, but I rather my sanity at this point.

    I’m sure no pale skin person I’ve ever worked with and patients who call me a black bitch and not to touch them, would agree with his breakdown of my looks. My teen daughter is very uncomfortable here, because she believes she has pale skin privilege and she doesn’t take it well. It has the ability to break you mentally if you are not careful with it. So you try to do good and soak up as much of the negative around you to throw it into the wind and nothing.

    Christmas morning my daughter and I went into Bridgetown early to share some food with a few homeless people, and at the top of Broad St we gave a guy tea and one of the little food packages we put together. We walked all around and ended up on lower Broad St because we were walking around without a clue just giving out food, and ran into this guy again. We asked him if he need some more tea and food, to which he said ” I had already and my belly full, go over by the Bridge and you’ll find more people who want food”. He gave us directions and went on his way.

    I turned to my daughter and asked her what lesson she just learnt from that man. What we saw was a perfect example of contentment and selflessness, he could have taken more food for when he got hungry later, but thought of others before himself. If all Bajans had the heart of this guy, who I’m sure they see walking in town and look down upon, we would be a better place.

    We need some radical change in the way we think and do things here, I no longer believe it has to be gentle, we need to rip it up and start over.

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  • How do we fix the problems lawyers cause when most politicians are lawyers?

    I’ve had runnings with them, and you get nowhere because you can’t even trust the next lawyer to have your back.
    A friend of mine told me that she never came across lawyers like the ones she had to deal with here. Says something when people can recognise that these people are not right.

    Xxxxxxxx

    I HAVE HAD MY OWN ISSUES WITH LAWYERS THERE DEALING WITH A CIVIL MATTER OF AROUND $300,000 WHERE I GOT A DEFAULT JUDGMENT AGAINST THE OTHER PARTY.

    MY LAWYER WHO HAD BEEN GIVING ME THE RUNAROUND I WENT TO HIS OFFICE AND HIS SECRETARY TOLD ME THAT HE WAS NOT IN.

    I CALLED HIM AND HE TOLD ME HAD SUBMITTED ALL RELEVANT PAPERWORK TO THE REGISTRAR.

    I CALLED THE REGISTRAR FROM HIS OFFICE PHONE AND A CLERK AFTER CHECKING SAID PAPERWORK HE SAID WAS SUBMITTED WAS NOT.

    I WAITED IN HIS OFFICE UNTIL HE CAME AND CONFRONTED HIM AND HE KEPT LYING.

    I CALLED BACK THE SAME CLERK AND HANDED THE PHONE TO THE LAWYER.

    WHEN HE HANGED UP I BLISTERED HIM IN CUSSING IN FRONT OF HIS SECRETARY.

    HE WORKS IN ONE OF THE CHAMBERS WHERE HIS SENIOR IS A MINISTER IN CABINET.

    THERE ARE WAY TOO MANY DEVIOUS AND POISONOUS MINDS AMONG THE LAWYER SYNDICATE GROUP OF CRIMINALS ON THE 2X3 ISLAND.

    ANOTHER REASON WHY THE ISLAND IS A CESSPOOL.

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  • Vincent Codrington

    The systems are in place but no one is applying them.I wonder why.

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  • @Vincent

    Because there are not systems to enforce the systems?

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  • @ David
    Vincent knows that the ‘systems’ are a FARCE.
    These are just there to deflect…..
    Courts that don’t work…
    Ministry PS (managers) who are CLEARLY just somebody’s mouth-pieces…
    Officials who are just clueless messengers and title holders…

    Even the damn PAC…… steupsssss

    His pretense otherwise is a key part of the problem…

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