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As if non and communicable diseases were not inflicting enough of a dent on our national budget, we are now told to watch-out for another malady to add to the list. Word on the ground supported by media reports paints a sad story that many of our young males are going to the grave in their quest to sexually satisfy their partners. While it is true that young Barbadian men have always had access to sexual stimulants through the years, can we agree that there seem to be an over reliance of late on enhancers to boost sexual performance.

We understand that two of the more popular sexual enhancers on the market are Coffin and Stone. Common sense should dictate that the negative feedback about the use of Coffin and Stone causing users to die would negatively affect sales, not so according to media reports. We see a parallel to tobacco use. Despite all the negative reports and the high price of the product because of government taxes sales remain high.

Why would our young men risk their life by ingesting or applying substances to improve sexual prowess?

How can we define sexual prowess?

Is it based on the length of time a man can withhold an orgasm?

Is this what lovemaking has been reduced to by our young people?

We are quick to blame the man in the current scenario but what about the role of the woman?

Why does she permit herself to be used as a receptacle?

Our concern in the BU household is centered on the obvious link between the rising use of sexual enhancers to boost sexual performance by our men, and the devaluation of the relationship.

How do we define a relationship anyway?

What mirror images do our young males have of themselves, when the ultimate act of sexual interaction humans use to express love and affection is relegated to the tedium of humps per second?


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  1. For years men have been using inhancers, as a young boy< i would hear the older fellow talking about, stud, china brush, cock stand and even a few local bushes. However, with the increase of the sex trade and the chinese in Barbados fellow are looking to make full use of what money they spend on a prostitute. This has filtered down to the guy who just want to have sex with his girlfriend and hearing other fellows talk about how good it works. Some girls too are challenging the fellows to either perform to their satisfaction or they would tell the other fellows. All these things and other reasons, I’m sure, are responsible for men to try everything possible to satisfy both themselves and their partner. The bottom line, both men and women don’t repect them selves as much as the older folks used to. Even the language they use to each other is deplorable.


  2. Hi Scout
    I must agree with all the comments you have made I am a regular visitor to Bim around 4-5 times a year, but please inform me why you suggest the increase of Chinese people in Barbados has anything to do with erectile enhancers.


  3. @ Sweet lip..

    Take a trip to the blue building at the top of Rendezvous Hill next time you are here.

    That should answer your question.

    Also read the label on these products and check the country of origin.


  4. It is an increasingly competitive world, and no one want to miss out. We (western society in general) have bought into the idea that how much sex you are having (and how good it is) tells you how successful you are, so natural people try to maximise that experience.

    I am not sure how to combat this trend without invoke some draconian religious belief system or trying to make people more self confident and educated, neither of which is easy.

    But to the point of the title, I don’t think the sexual aids are causing young men to want to be more promiscuous, but rather it is the contemporary social climate that is creating a demand for the sex aids.


  5. Technician
    You have realy confused me now, I have just looked at the labels on some of my clothing and it reads made it Italy, but for the life of me I cannot see an Italian anywhere.
    I have now looked at some toys and electrical goods and they read made in Japan. I keep thinking it may be my eyesight so I have borrowed a pair of byfocals and guess what NO BLOODY JAPANESE ANYWHERE TO BE SEEN.


  6. Scout

    I have to disagree with some of your points. I think the use of enhancers is more a male ego thing than any possible ability or lack thereof to satisfy a woman.

    @Sweetlip
    You really gone overboard with this thing. I did not get the impression that Technician was talking about clothing. You obviously have no idea of the amount of Chinese in Barbados that are quietly peddling a lot of small items like balms, balsams, erectiles, etc. on the streets of Barbados?


  7. Hi Rok
    The point was that Technician made a point of looking at the labeling on these products to see the country of origin, thereby associating this with the number of chinese in Barbados and that is a ridiculous comment.
    I have been coming to Barbados for the last 20 years four or five visits a year, in fact I own a property on the Island. As a tourist I accept that you would know more about what is happening on the streets.
    But you made a good point that they are QUIETLY peddling a lot of SMALL items. better they peddle these items QUIETLY that some people OUTWARDLY harrasing people with hardcorecore drugs.


  8. Not at my own pc so cant be long (boss at work).

    @ Sweetlips

    Are you fa real?

    Did you understand what I posted in relation to this thread?

    What does your clothes have to do with anything?
    Most of these products being sold today originate in China, are sold by Chinese here in Bim.
    Go to Guang Dong, New Century or the newest one in Six Rds.
    I have a friend who also sell them and guess what…his supplier is Chinese….duh!?!
    That is why I made the comment. If you have a problem with it then prove me wrong by posting info to the contrary.
    Do you even know the blue building on Rendezvous Hill ?
    The Chinese Connection, go in, tell me what you find.
    Remember a few months ago when a customer made a stink about the products failing ?
    Where did he shop ?


  9. We suspect part of the success of the Chinese made sexual enhancers is the mystery of the Chinese labelling. It does seem moronic that an educated Barbadian would take a product which they are unable to read the dosage/ingredients.

    What does this say about the intelligence of the people taking these substances?


  10. Look Techno
    You mentioned the label told you the country of origin, thereby associating that with the number of chinese in Barbados.
    So I merley looked at the label in my shirt and it said made in Italy.
    So according to your reckoning there must be hundreds of Italians living near me.READ YOUR THREAD


  11. Sweetlip please stop it! Stupes!


  12. One must agree with David 1oo% that it is indeed moronic that an educated Barbadian would take a product which they are unable to read the ingredients, and do not know what the dosage ought to be.

    After all, ALL foreign substances should be considered as poison until proven otherwise.

    Are we not having enough trouble with sugar and salt and fructose corn syrup which we are supposed to know so well.


  13. I know the bible thumpers will have a hard time with this one but:

    SEX IS A PHYSICAL FUNCTION OF 99% OF ALL ANIMALS ON THE EARTH.

    What do a sensible person do when they have an ailment with a physical function?

    They seek a solution:

    Headache –Aspirin
    Asthma- Inhaler
    Cold – Cold medicine
    Low sex drive – Viagra
    Premature ejaculation – Desensitizer

    This isn’t brain surgery and only seems hard to understand to someone with sexual hang-ups.

    Anyhow, what could be more important than doing what you can to please the one you’re with AND feel good about yourself?

    This only seems to bother archaic-minded religiously-brainwashed people who can’t stay out of other people’s bedrooms.


  14. I know the bible thumpers will have a hard time with this one but:
    SEX IS A PHYSICAL FUNCTION OF 99% OF ALL ANIMALS ON THE EARTH.
    What do a sensible person do when they have an ailment with a physical Function? They seek a solution:

    Headache –Aspirin
    Asthma- Inhaler
    Cold – Cold medicine
    Low sex drive – Viagra
    Premature ejaculation – Desensitizer

    This isn’t brain surgery and only seems hard to understand to someone with sexual hang-ups.

    This only seems to bother archaic-minded religiously-brainwashed people who can’t stay out of other people’s bedrooms.
    Grow up!


  15. this working?


  16. I know the bible thumpers will have a hard time with this one but:

    SEX IS A PHYSICAL FUNCTION OF 99% OF ALL ANIMALS ON THE EARTH.

    What do a sensible person do when they have a physical ailment?

    They seek a solution:

    Headache –Aspirin
    Asthma- Inhaler
    Cold – Cold medicine
    Low sex drive – Viagra
    Premature ejaculation – Desensitizer

    This isn’t brain surgery and only seems hard to understand to someone with sexual hang-ups.

    Anyhow, what could be more important than doing what you can to please the one you’re with and/or feel good about yourself?

    This only seems to bother archaic-minded religiously-brainwashed people who can’t stay out of other people’s bedrooms.


  17. I know the bible thumpers will have a hard time with this one but:

    S*X IS A PHYSICAL FUNCTION OF 99% OF ALL ANIMALS ON THE EARTH.
    What do a sensible person do when they have a physical ailment? They seek a solution:
    Headache –Aspirin
    Asthma- Inhaler
    Cold – Cold medicine
    Low s*x drive – Viagra
    Premature ejaculation – Desensitizer

    This isn’t brain surgery and only seems hard to understand to someone with s*xual hang-ups. Anyhow, what could be more important than doing what you can to please the one you’re with? This only seems to bother archair religiously-brainwashed people who can’t stay out of other people’s bedrooms.
    Grow up!


  18. I know the bible thumpers will have a hard time with this one but:

    It’s a physical function of 99% of animals on the earth.

    What do a sensible person do when they have a physical ailment? They seek a solution:

    Headache –Aspirin
    Asthma- Inhaler
    Cold – Cold medicine
    Low drive – blue pill
    Premature ejaculation – Desensitizer

    This isn’t brain surgery and only seems hard to understand to someone with hang-ups.

    Anyhow, what could be more important than doing what you can to please the one you’re with and feel good about yourself?

    This only seems to bother archaic-minded religiously-brainwashed people who can’t stay out of other people’s bedrooms.


  19. Ok JC

    I have stopped lol, will take a chill pill but no Chinese here to get one from


  20. This is just another form of spiritual warfare on the Blackman and his woman.Its another tool in the war to kill off the Blackman. Its not enough that our food and environment are being poisoned but bring on the biological warfare as well. From whence has this urge descended upon us to have more sexual intercourse in order to prove one’s manhood? When men indulge in so much ejaculation they are ‘slaughtering the innocents,’ they are slowly killing themselves. No wonder our men have become so weak and effeminate, can’t even solve our problems simply because they are wasting their cerebral fluid with every ejaculation ( if its not for procreation). At the end of the day, the redemption of our Blackman and Woman is not grounded in our sexual prowess its grounding in PURE LOVE and NURTURING of each other. Let’s raise our CONSCIOUSNESS and one way we can do this is to raise that sexual energy to a higher level. STOP WASTING IT and lift our society out of decadence and DECAY.

    ‘There’s an act unto death which I think I do correctly but then it is wrong because I die.’


  21. I agree with you 100% Hopi.

    Pure love and nurturing has been replaced with Wam Bam, thank you mam !!
    Sex is now an act or in some cases a spectator sport to be performed by the ‘Athletes’.

    @ Sweetlips

    (nice handle though)
    In retrospect, maybe the label comment was the wrong choice …for that my apology.
    Maybe I should say that the Chinese here are the main ones peddling these substances.
    Please…use Tech or Techie…Techno?!?


  22. “We are quick to blame the man in the current scenario but what about the role of the woman?
    Why does she permit herself to be used as a receptacle?”

    I’m sorry, but I’m confused. How does the use of performance enhancing drugs translate to women being ‘used as a receptacle’?


  23. No Worries Tech.
    All is forgiven, I know many people who take these blue pills, they seem to enjoy a long and pleasurable sex life, I cannot understand what all the fuss is about as this is done behind closed doors between two three or four consulting adults. Get over it all you bible bashers if you had an erectile disfunction my money says you would buy you way to the front of the queue to obtain one of these pills, if not your wife would slip one in your coffee.


  24. hey folks sorry for the multiple posts. It wasn’t working at the time.

    Mar wrote:
    I’m sorry, but I’m confused. How does the use of performance enhancing drugs translate to women being ‘used as a receptacle’?

    Mar, this type of reasoning is called “the logic of the morally religious”. It doesn’t have to make sense.

    It’s like arguing:
    The use of toothpaste to brush your teeth translates into women being “used as a receptacle” when you kiss her.

    Sometimes the idiocy of barbados blogs know no limits.


  25. David, ur making me blush!!

    I doan use such tings!!

    Laaaaaadddddddddddddddd!!!!


  26. 199 // February 6, 2009 at 4:29 pm

    David, ur making me blush!!

    I doan use such tings!!

    Laaaaaadddddddddddddddd!!!!
    ————————————————–

    Don’t worry 199…

    These things are for ENHANCING the sex, You may need God, as only He can raise the dead.
    For you, it would be like pouring water in the sea.


  27. I agree entirely with Rohan…
    certain people seem to think that sex is only ‘normal’ if it is between a man and woman who are married to each other , done in the the missionary position with no influence other than the ‘love’ the two people have for each other EVEN if theyve been married for 40 years … Some of y’aLL NEED TO WAKE UP, SNAP OUT OF IT!

    Enlarged prostates are not new, Diabetes is not new therefore loss of libido, erectile dysfunction etc are not new ….

    Young men trying to outdo each other is not new either…

    Why dont you tell me about back in the day when young men would stick their doggies through the paling /hole in the chattel house so that they could get action from the girl that was on lock down…tell me about that!

    Dayem….what a stupid article!


  28. @Me

    Are you serious?

    Stick your doggie (haven’t heard that word for years) through a hole to get action from the girl on lock down?

    RLMAO…..where the hell was I……cant believe I missed that !!


  29. ha ha ha h Me got a point. I would not even go this far back. While I haven’t read the contributions as yet i will be very disappointed if ROK did not size the moment to ask what is the difference between and over the counter sexual enhancers and any of the one available via prescription? i.e. viagra etc.


  30. When i did growing up I used a lot of linseed and horse oats. ha ha ha ha ha. ahem….. i did using them for their reputed omeg3 fatty acid contents. A mineral that is said to be good for you. Linseed oil cold press is still part of my daily intake. lol!


  31. @me

    Ironically there is a Chinese saying that if you keep doing the same thing the result will be the same..

    We see greed and moral decadence the cause of the falling apart of the world yet we continue with our live and let live attitude.


  32. Below is a link that explains the mechanism of action for the three drugs in the drug class with the well known Viagra.

    http://health.howstuffworks.com/viagra.htm

    What can be done is to subject the alternative Chinese and other alternative “remedies” that are available, to chemical analysis by spectroscopy or gas liquid chromatography etc to ascetain the chemicals in the products being used.

    Then one can try to ascertain which of the chemicals in any particular preparation affects penile arterial vasodilatation or venous constriction, and which enzymes or other factors are involved in the working of the popular over the counter preparations.

    Having this information would allow clinical studies to be done to determine the dosage.

    But who will do this? And is it financially practical? Or necessary seing that three well documented designer drugs have been around for a while?


  33. my Dad told me that back in the day there were girls who were not allowed to levae the house but became pregnant and they mothers did not know how… the fellas in the village and the girl knew exactly which hole to hit in she house…

    Back in the day alot of ‘immorality’ went down that was not flaunted but it was there…
    Priests sleeping with women in the church is not new …
    Outside women, ten child mothers, etc is all old news…


  34. David you asked in your editorial/opinion piece – ” Is this what lovemaking has been reduced to by our people.”

    I would venture to say that these things have nothing to do with love making but rather, in majority of the cases one party using the other to self-gratification and personal gain.

    Many of our young men are incapable of performing sex to any real standard because many of them are in the poorest of health, physcially and mentally, one only has to use the powers of observation of their lifestyle, they are up late, consume enormous amounts of alcohol and other narcotic substances, as well as eat poorly and do not exercise, what else do you expect.

    Many of them just not up to the task of having sex, last I checked it was a strenuous act.

    Many of our young women also start having sex at an early age with multiple partners and this also weakens them emotionally, physically and are involved with the young men and leads them to want the next man to engage with them longer, harder, rougher, wilder….than the last one.

    I don’t think that scenario has anything to do with love but only (as my grandmother would say) having and being had.


  35. Omega 3 fatty acids are NOT minerals but unsaturated FATTY ACIDS! They are called omega 3 because of the fact that in their chemical structure they have a final carbon–carbon double bond at the third bond from the methyl terminal end of the fatty acid

    The most important one is the essential fatty acid linolenic acid (essential because they can not be synthesized in the body).

    Omega 3 fatty acids are to be found in fish such as mackerel, herring, sardines, albacore tuna, and salmon.

    Most Bajans grew up on omega 3 fatty acids in the form of Seven Seas Cod liver oil long before the scientists were ranting and raving about the benefits of omega 3 fatty acids. We all have our stories to tell about the daily experience, Im sure.


  36. Rohan as I read the post I was wondering how long it would take for someone to start talking about bible-thumpers and homo-phobics and such like – then I read your post.

    I want to venture the same way that an immoral, base, vile person want to be heard a bible thumper wants to be heard.

    The same way that a “bullah man or wicka woman advocate for their rights bible thumpers have rights. I believe that I have the same right to express my view or my opinion like every one else especially in a free space like this blog.

    Sex is a spiritual act and has been created and designed to develop a a deep spiritual lifetime bond between a husband and a wife.

    That is why the misuse of sex leads to all of these maladies that we are experiencing right now.

    Let me thump my bible a little louder here, perhaps someone might hear and get saved from a costly mistake.

    Proverbs 5:8-17

    Keep to a path far from her,
    do not go near the door of her house,

    9 lest you give your best strength to others and your years to one who is cruel,

    10 lest strangers feast on your wealth
    and your toil enrich another man’s house.

    11 At the end of your life you will groan,
    when your flesh and body are spent.

    12 You will say, “How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction!

    13 I would not obey my teachers
    or listen to my instructors.

    14 I have come to the brink of utter ruin in the midst of the whole assembly.”

    15 Drink water from your own cistern,
    running water from your own well.

    16 Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares?

    17 Let them be yours alone,
    never to be shared with strangers.


  37. AH
    You got me. I did not know that the doctor used to order them too. I honestly did not know there was a difference.

    Viagra? I thought that was a brand name condom. The only blue pill I know is DeWitts for the kidneys but I did not know they used to go further down. Well, all part of the urinary track.


  38. Rok

    Strictly speaking Viagra and its two brothers do not work on the urinary tract but the reproductive tract!


  39. @Me – your post was interesting. Rohan is asking the bible-thumpers to stay out of ppl’s bedrooms but yet you have an insight into them to know if they use the missionary position or not. Good for you, it is good to keep in the know.

    Yes sex is only normal between a man and a woman who are married and committed to each other.

    Listen, you can purchase a blender, know that it can only do so much and was only manufactured for a specific reason. You can disregard to manufacturers instruction and use it to crush rocks when it was not intended for that purpose – after all it is yours now, you bought it.

    When it doesn’t work they way you want it to or it breaks down then you slander the maker and say his product was no good or he did not know what he was doing when he made the blender. In truth and fact any malfunction is your fault. You misused it . The same with casual, promiscuous sex.
    +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
    Why dont you tell me about back in the day when young men would stick their doggies through the paling /hole in the chattel house so that they could get action from the girl that was on lock down…tell me about that!

    Back in the day alot of ‘immorality’ went down that was not flaunted but it was there…
    Priests sleeping with women in the church is not new …
    Outside women, ten child mothers, etc is all old news…

    +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

    Back in the day we made light and laughing stock at “Brudda-daddys or uncle – daddy and felt that it was alright.

    We whispered when the priest slept with the woman or feel up the young girls

    We laughed when men had fifteen women and forty children all in the same village.

    That foolishness was the slip, we now in the sliding mode, where our young men are performing bestiality and filming it to make the rounds on the internet, our young and old men would prefer die at their own hands so that everybody could say that “dem is a stud”
    our young and old women propositioning just about anybody just for a dollar.

    We sliding down to hell in a hand basket, ably assisted by all those who for the sake of being politically correct – for the lack of a better term – and the fact that every body should be able to do what pleases them whether right or wrong, are throwing the baby out with the bath water.


  40. I am not indifferent to the fact that both males and females at specific times in their lives will experience illness, disease or even natural occurrences like menopause.

    That is where good relationship comes in when one partner will wait, care and work with the other until that season has passed.

    Not go out and do crazy stuff, because “you not getting any”. That is where lovemaking comes in, that is why sex was designed to connect partners in marriage.


  41. Warrior writes that “sex is a spiritual act and has been created and designed to develop a deep spiritual lifetime bond between a husband and a wife”. Cuh dear! All I can say is thank God for the Internet – Uh does learn something new every day.


  42. Why dont you tell me about back in the day when young men would stick their doggies through the paling /hole in the chattel house so that they could get action from the girl that was on lock down…tell me about that!

    Dayem….what a stupid article!
    ___________________________

    ha ha ha ha lol I love the blogs!


  43. @GP

    Most Bajans grew up on omega 3 fatty acids in the form of Seven Seas Cod liver oil long before the scientists were ranting and raving about the benefits of omega 3 fatty acids. We all have our stories to tell about the daily experience, Im sure
    **************************************

    As someone who had a neighbour who owned a fishing boat I also had experience with shark oil. How different is that (chemically speaking) from cod liver oil?


  44. Sargeant
    Shark liver oil composition is mainly triglycerides (97.2%) and a small concentration of phospholipids (0.3%). It also contains alkylglycerols, squalene, pristane, vitamins A and D, esters of fatty acids, glycerol ethers, triglycerides, cholesterol, and fatty acids- but not omega 3type.

    Alkylglycerols from shark liver oil was used to treat leukemia and to prevent radiation sickness from cancer X-ray therapy. Another report suggests that these alkylglycerols’ radioprotective effects may operate by a mechanism that may incorporate the substance into a pool of platelet-activating factors, increasing their biosynthesis. Another effect of alkylglycerols include the ability to stimulate the immune system by activation of macrophages.

    It seems that shark liver oil clearly offered great use to those of us who used it in stimulating our immune systems, long before the research about antioxidants was around.

    So we shark oil and cod liver oil users can thank and be proud of our parents and grandparents for their intervention- despite its unpleasantness.


  45. @GP

    Thanks for the info, but you can bet I didn’t thank my mother when she forced me to take that concoction. BTW the leftover liver bits (which was called “cracklin”) didn’t taste too bad.


  46. JC

    Sound like you sorry you grow up in “wall house days.” LOL Murder!

    Certainly sounds as though they used to have real good fun back then dont it? Tickling through knot holes and holes in the palin. Wow!


  47. Most of this bip bam thank you mam sex exists where sex is used as a tool or as a means to an end; survival. I have to admit that in a lot of cases, it seems like, for women, having to do the bip bam so often makes perfect practice for what I call disconnected sex.

    You will find women in a relationship, not because of love, but because the man can support them. There is no real love. Not saying that love cannot grow but the original motive for getting together was not love. That is on the woman’s side.

    On the other side there are many men who can satisfy themselves in any hole and really don’t care about the women. His sole purpose is to reach his climax.

    Under these conditions, it is hard not to think of a woman as a receptacle; a depository. Some men would just pump them up with children so that “she keep she behind quiet” and leave the men in total control.

    I still maintain that it is a male ego thing. Women fight for these men; especially the men who are on top financially and/or by reputation. These women don’t heal easily and really know little about love.

    I can’t be sure that this does not exist across the social spectrum, but for sure, this type of behaviour is prevalent in the lower social economic strata. That hole in the side of the house is metaphorically real.

    I observed a move one night, where an older male made a pass at a 14 year old. She paid him no mind and as she passed he said to her, “g’long, one of these days you are going to want me. Yuh hungry and want clothes!” You know, a few hours later that night when the crowd had died down, the girl sneaked back for him and they went off in the night.


  48. @ bobbie // February 6, 2009 at 10:55 pm

    It was funny lol ‘me’ is something else! ha ha ha just imagining it IS FUNNY LOL!

    ROK I like I different doh, I think I am the only woman in Barbados who is IRIE or MAD!

    I dont work for a million dollars but I make do with what I have; I cannot imagine any and everybody breathing in my face just for money. I must admit ….. I do not know if times had to get REALLY hard if my attitude would change! I do not judge prostitutes or persons who find themselves in some sordid situations! Some men take advantage as you mentioned in the above post, they know when a woman is down and out and use that to THEIR advantage a disgusting lot!

    However, I believe in roles that a couple should play it does not matte rif I work for more money than my partner it matters that at the end of the day we are COMPATIBLE (most times) lol!


  49. My grandparents alway used to say “be careful that you don’t drink what you are supposed to rub with”

    Somebody neeed to pass on this grannie wisdom.

    Tim-tom bush has grown in Barbados for thousands of years and has long been used both to promote erections and induce abortions.

    People have been having (or NOT having) erections and abortions since the beginning of time.


  50. Dear David you wrote “What does this say about the intelligence of the people taking these substances?”

    But David sex ain’t have nuffin’ to do with intelligence.

    When a person get horny the brain seems to switch off.

    Why do you think that we have an AIDS epidemic?

    You think that only stupid people does get AIDS?

    Man doctors and lawyers, and professors, and priests and politicians does get AIDS and do sexual foolishness too.

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