Didi Winston Demands HER Rights from Pricesmart

Submitted by the Mahogany Coconut Group Think Tank and Watchdog Group (MCG)
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Didi

The Mahogany Coconut Group supports the stand taken by Didi Winston against the PriceSmart Supermarket employee, who displayed extremely unprofessional behavior while in contact with Ms. Winston, who was a customer on June 10th 2014. To our understanding, the employee’s attitude toward Ms. Winston was clearly discriminatory because she is a transgender citizen.

We therefore welcome the efforts of the top management at Pricesmart in meeting with her and treating the issue with the seriousness it deserves. We realize that Barbadians and other Caribbean citizens accepting our LGBT community will be slow in coming. The MCG respects those who oppose the gay lifestyle but we have cautioned that if the heterosexual community expects respect from our LGBT community, they must in turn reciprocate.

On the other hand, we urge the LGBT community to avoid being seen as forcing its lifestyle on other citizens. A recent report in the Barbados press revealed that there are gays who are enticing young citizens to embrace their lifestyle. The report identified members of the lesbian community as the more prominent enablers in this regard.

We will continue to monitor anti-gay trends in our region. We are therefore heartened by a recent CADRES poll which showed that we are becoming more tolerant and accepting of our gay brothers and sisters. Our region must continue on this path and must not allow religious fanatics and hypocritical politicians to deter us from this progressive position.

As always we remind our gay brothers and sisters to remember the exhortation of Martin Luther King, who instructed the oppressed to never become the oppressor when they overcome the transgressions against them.

All power to you, Didi Winston, for your dignity and valour in demanding that you be treated as we all expect and deserve to be treated.

52 comments

  • This is fuckeries! All of a sudden this over-sensitiveness (touchiness) by some as they seek to promote a particular hidden agenda is misguided. We cannot support it and are unafraid of being impolitic. Those of us who believe that our people are to be open ‘supulcas’ to be dumped upon (pun intended) by being some immoral vector for certain behaviors, cannot speak for the rest of us. On the other hand, we also have no brief for western conservative forces either because these supporters of this strangeness are themselves and unwittingly co-conspirators with the same Conservative elements they otherwise strenuously deplore.

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  • Anytime an employee has an ‘attitude’ towards me, I will protest, assume and say he/she did it because I’m STRAIGHT. Buh bye!!!!!!!

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  • Sunshine Sunny Shine

    Please pardon my ignorance for wanting clarity on the following statuses and when can one be define as heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual. For instance if a man or a woman in a heterosexual relationship decided one day to engage in consenting sex with another couple where the parties involved both engage in heterosexual and homosexual activity, can the parties involved be labeled bisexuals, homosexuals or heterosexuals just having fun?. Also if my propensity is to engage in heterosexual activity with my man but do not mind ever so often having a little fun with a girlfriend in the presents of my man, I am define as a bisexual on the basis of my few girlfriend flings? What defines sexual statuses – Length of time, frequency or declaration?

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  • What Didi experienced was simply bad service, period.

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  • They should have to buy her a house

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  • Pachamama will also like to take this opportunity to distance ourselves from the MCG. We have in the past supported the rights of individuals to freedom of expression. We considered then and still hold now that what adults did in their bedrooms was/is a private matter, and we still do. However, the conclusion that a global conspiracy is afoot could not have been long avoided.

    In an address to the Left Forum in New York City some years ago we challenge the ‘Left’, the people who were ‘acting up’ when White men were dying from Aids related conditions to ‘act up’ now that largely Black young women are the ones who are now being ravaged by AIDS. That response has never come and represents that even in death White gay people were racist to the bone as the rest of White people.

    There are up to the same trick again only this time to globalize their private business and recklessly carry us all with them. We cannot support this great evil, just like we can no longer support the Mahogany Coconut Group (GCG). As people of colour we have almost insurmountable problems everywhere. In the last 10 years alone 5 million Congolese have died in Western sponsored war. In New York City a racist police force still enforces discriminatory justice. And in Barbados there has never been land reform. And yuh gine tell us that we are to let all our issues die on the vine for the predominate of bulling? We say No, No mas!

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  • @Pacha

    Do you mind explaining to the family what informs your moral code?

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  • @ David

    Two words, ‘African conciousness’

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  • How does someone make you homosexual against your will? And precisely how is this achieved by LBGTI advocating for their human rights? And per SSS, how will someone know when exactly he or she becomes homosexual?

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  • “How will someone know when exactly he or she becomes homosexual”

    When they start asking these type of questions

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  • What this man/woman could do is turn into a frog, so we won’t be hampered with his sexuality. They want to lumber us with their disgusting ways. We are a Christian Society, & this act is against our christian ways. I don’t impose my will upon them & they shouldn’t impose their North American & European ways upon us. We have laws & rules do them. Jesus loves all sinners, but hate our sin. If this man/woman has had bad service at Spricesmart let Management deal with it. His lifestyle is not our problem, it’s his/her problem.

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  • It begs me to wonder if in Didi Winston’s passport and Barbados ID card if their gender is classified male or female.Otherwise I cannot for the life of me see how their claim would stand as transgender discrimination if their legal status is still male.

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  • “African consciousness”:

    Now what on earth does THAT mean? Does it mean there are no black African gays or that if there are it’s all the fault of western imperialists?

    David

    Nothing is “simple”. You don’t know. I don’t know. You may be right. You may be wrong. But do stop sloganizing.

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  • Sucka

    To the best of my recollection it says she’s male.

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  • Just Asking

    “We are a Christian society”

    Would you like to explore that with us a little? What did Jesus say of the woman who washed his feet with her hair?

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  • “To the best of my recollection it says she’s male.”

    Ok.

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  • To repeat, can we agree Didi received bad service from Pricesmart.

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  • I will defend anyones right to be in the banana aisle at pricesmart.

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  • David

    Well, if her perception was correct, yes she did. The issue is why she did – whether she was just up against the kind of sloppiness we’ve just been discussing with the Abeds lady or whether, as she claims, it was due to her gender issue. I don’t think we’ll get to the bottom (err) of that one.

    My feeling about the original Nation report was that Didi sounded huffy and hysterical – over the top. On the other hand, I applaud her guts – as the lady she believes she is – for making an issue of it. Too few have that quality.

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  • The whole issue here is not whether Didi is male or female, bisexual or sexual. The issue is that Didi received bad service from the place where Didi Winston sought to do business and it is totally unacceptable!
    In Barbados there are a lot of young people who put up a front to impress their friends, likewise older folk. There are some young men who sit on the block and verbally express their desire to “bun fire pon gay man”, but in the dead of night or in private circumstances they are more girl/boy than the gay man or woman. And the people who behave most homophobic is always guilty. Hence a double-standard impressionist and big time hypocrite. “Who the cap fit let them wear it!”
    Would this kind of service be acceptable at Pricesmart in the USA???
    The issue here is not about sexual orientation- IT IS ABOUT CUSTOMER SERVICE!!!

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  • Tikapalo J

    If I understand you correctly, you are saying this..

    “If Didi received bad service BECAUSE of her sexual orientation, and for no other reason, her treatment was still unacceptable. In that sense the reason for her treatment becomes irrelevant because whichever way we look at it bad service is just that, bad service.”

    If you are saying that I agree entirely.

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  • If a dude dressed up as a chick started talking to me I would be wary till I knew what was going on. Just because she/he dresses that way doesn’t make it the norm, and I would suggest even in Barbados unusual But poor customer service doesn’t attract attention or promote an agenda so of course it must be a gender issue. I have had many negative shopping experiences in many countries and it happens because when you pay peanuts you get monkees.

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  • Lawson…still my favourite wag (lol)

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  • @Pachamama July 17, 2014 at 6:17 AM “by some as they seek to promote a particular hidden agenda”

    Dear Pacha: In all fairness Didi has never had a hidden agenda. In a society as deeply conservative and deeply secretive as Barbados Didi has always been extremely open, openly participation in Barbados’ cultural festivals, openly serving as an extremely courteous sales person, openly greeting others on the street, and open when David Winston transitioned to Didi Winston and asked to be addressed as Didi Winston.

    This is not much different than when a woman upon marriage asks to be addressed as Mrs/Mistress Jane Brown; or even as Mrs/Mistress John Brown. We honor women who ask to be addressed as Mistress. We honor Cabinet Ministers who asks to be addresed as “The Honorable” we honor women who asks to be addressed as “Lady” even though they may have done nothing besides being the wife of one who has been knighted.

    You may have a secret agenda Pacha. But there is no evidence that Didi has a secret agenda.

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  • @Sunny Sun Shine “Also if my propensity is to engage in heterosexual activity with my man but do not mind ever so often having a little fun with a girlfriend in the presents of my man”

    Please shut your bedroom door. Thanks

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  • @SuckaBubby July 17, 2014 at 10:03 AM It begs me to wonder if in Didi Winston’s passport and Barbados ID card.
    Years ago I read in a Toronto Star advice column a letter from person who had been born male in Barbados, had migrated to Canada, and had gender reassignment surgery in Canada and had been granted Canadian douuments in the new gender (female) The complaint was that the Barbados government at the time, about 25 to 30 years ago was refusing to grant the person a passport in the new gender (female)

    The long and short of it was that the Barbados passport was granted in the new gender. Transgendering did not begin yesterday nor last week. And the Barbados government has recognized transgender persons (by issuing a passport in the new gender) long before most of you were born.

    And the world has not come to an end.

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  • @lawson July 17, 2014 at 11:04 AM “I will defend anyones right to be in the banana aisle at pricesmart.”

    lawson is was actually in the radio aisle. Didi like a sensible person was getting a radio in preparation for the hurricane season.

    All you Bajans: Do you have a working battery operated radio? Are you prepared for the hurricane season?

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  • @ Anonymous
    Sorry. We never intended to connect the conspiracy that we see to this particular individual. In fact, we are fairly sure Didi has no connection to it. But something is happening in the world around these questions and populations are being led by the nose. Meanwhile, we see political actors behaving in ways which we deem to constitute a conspiracy around these issues.

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  • “The long and short of it was that the Barbados passport was granted in the new gender. Transgendering did not begin yesterday nor last week. And the Barbados government has recognized transgender persons (by issuing a passport in the new gender) long before most of you were born.”

    My query was not an attempt to be tongue in cheek or facetious.I asked because I do not know and I wondered if Didi Winston wanted to pursue the case to the law courts,where would they stand since they were still legally male.

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  • Anon

    Absolutely right.

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  • @Just Asking.

    “We are a Christian Society, & this act is against our christian ways. I don’t impose my will upon them & they shouldn’t impose their North American & European ways upon us”

    By making that statement you are doing exactly that, imposing your will on another section of society that does not agree with you.

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  • Anonymous no I do not have a working radio, I am flying in next week and hope where I am staying will let me know if I should take cover. But I think I may go do all my shopping in drag because I will probably get the best service you have ever seen because of the fallout ….none of the taxi drivers will try to screw me over, the girls at chefette maybe get my order right , and who knows maybe even the deep sea fishing cruise will let me keep what I catch lol

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  • Now that we have some consensus that the issue is one of bad service then logically there is a training need at Pricesmart.

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  • @ David
    What consensus? There are many forces operating around this issue. To make the abstraction you have is regrettable. We happen to know more than a little about SERVQUAL and this is not enough to explain this observation.

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  • @Pacha

    You are muddying several issues, Pricesmart is an international company that is committed to not practicing discrimination, in this context Didi should have been attended to like any Joe, Capiche?

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  • lawson | July 17, 2014 at 6:54 AM |
    They should have to buy her a house
    …………………………………………………………………..
    only if someone had laid a finger on him.and the going price for that is US$38,000.

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  • Why would a Journalist have to write she for DIDI when transgender means gender expression not matching one’s assigned sex.

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  • Blue boy that was sarcasm

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  • Pachamama | July 17, 2014 at 6:17 AM |
    This is fuckeries! All of a sudden this over-sensitiveness (touchiness) by some as they seek to promote a particular hidden agenda is misguided.


    One day goat f****** and sheep shaggers will be demanding their rights too.And we cannot deny them.

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  • Didi Winston Demands HER Rights from Pricesmart ____ it was bad service and an apology after the situation has been investigated by PSMT Barbados Management and if proven “DIDI” claim was correct then give.

    I am so lost why “DIDI” clearly a male although gay is being referred to as “HER” no matter what surgeries or alterations done to his/her/it body is still a damn MALE.

    I wonder if this had happen to someone that wasn’t tagged as “GAY” if so much damn fuss would be made of it., yes plenty individuals has received bad if not poor service from PSMT Barbados. so yes “DIDI” sorry if you had a bad customer service experience there but get over it and shop somewhere else.

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  • Research shows that transgender is a fluid area and we should resist labeling or holding firm positions. If the person who underwent the transgender process wishes to be referred to as male or female respect due.

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  • David
    Nobody else gets this deferential treatment, unless you are a super citizen. Why should a special group of people, like reptilians, be able to have a fluid self-definition. We don’t see anybody giving this right to all the rest of the people, or arguing for it. What is so special about this grouplet? We have people with all kinds of disabilities, for example, who can’t even have proper sidewalks or general systems to have proper access to our society. What is so special about this grouplet, all of a sudden?

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  • Yes I suppose we shouldn’t give special consideration to persons obsessed with conspiracies all over the bloody place and simply call it as it is – paranoid schizophrenia.

    David

    (For once) spoken like the head of the family (eh?)

    Bajan GURU…oh is that what a GURU is? A “damned” blockhead with a rod up the ass.

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  • Pachamama July 19, 2014 at 11:53 AM ‘What is so special about this grouplet, all of a sudden?”

    Nothing. That is the thing.

    I am sure that most homosexuals would be happy to be treated as ordinary people.

    When the sales people saw Didi walk into the store, the only correct response should have been

    Salesperson:”Good afternoon, how may I help you?”

    Didi:”I would like to see the radios please”

    Salesperson: “Please come with me the radios are over here is aisle 3”

    The sales person would then spend a little time explaining to Didi the features of the different radios. Once Didi has selected a suitable radio, the sales person should lift it off the shelf and hand it to the customer, at the same time thanking the customer profusely, and asking “is there anything else I can get for you?” If the customer says yes, then show the customer where to find the item. If the customer says no, then thank the customer again and say “I hope to see you in our store again soon”

    Same with the Abeds thread.

    Why do we find it so hard to give people courteous service?

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  • The old people understood because they had a saying “a sheep a day worth more than a hog head once a year”

    Too many sales people act as though it is beneath them to sell 2 metres of fabric, or $50 of groceries, or a radio.

    They act as though they are waiting to sell the Mercedes S3 (or what ever it is called)

    Most of life is not about the Mercedes S3’s. It is the little daily sheep head, , the radio, the 2 yards of cloth, and the $50 of groceries.

    I will never buy an S3, but in my lifetime I estimate that I have bought $200,000 of groceries, and sometimes I have gone in to a supermarket with less than $5 in my hand, so what $200,000 worth of sales is $200,000 worth of sales

    The old people had another saying “a belly full of pone is the same as a belly full of pudding”

    So Didi should have been treated as a valuable customer. Because every customer is valuable.

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  • Ms Slimmy Snide alias Robert Ross alias Mr. Bullen
    We would far prefer to have a known psychotic disease than to be walking around yearning for someone of a similar gender to do what you and your kind like to do. To us that qualities more as a psychotropic disease than the ones you mentioned.

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  • A really excellent sales person would have sold Didi the radio, and some batteries, and a side table on which to place the radio, and some nice furniture polish to polish the side table, and polishing cloths, and then the $50 or $100 or $220 hurricane special basket which contains matches, masking tape, sardines, juice, biscuits etc. etc. And Didi would have left the store a happy customer who couldn’t wait to come back for more.

    Opportunity lost Price Smart.

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  • “Why do we find it so hard to give people courteous service?”

    Customer service in Barbados is not about selling a product but about the salesperson using the opportunity to market themself.

    In other words if I know you as in well known and/or liked I will treat you good because someday you might be able to do something for me.Fair enough.The flip side is if you are not then,goose cooked.If you are not well known then I will decide how I will treat you by some superficiality like skin colour,accent,dress and the suspicion of I think you are well off.

    Customer service in Bim is about looking for friends.Both customer service and consumer culture are to blame for that.

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  • Pacha

    LOL

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  • Didi Winston

    18 hrs ·

    SHARE WITH EVERYONE,THE WORLD, THE PLANET

    TO MY LGBT SISTERS AND BROTHERS AND ALL OTHER FABULOUS PEOPLE

    I FINALLY GOT MY OFFICIAL APOLOGY

    RECIEVED IT YESTERDAY,I AM VERY HAPPY RIGHT NOW,AND EVEN THOUGH IT TOOK THEM SO LONG TO DEAL WITH THE SITUATION I WANT OTHERS TO SEE THAT NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS BE IT DISCRIMINATION,POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE OR STIGMA, AS LONG AS YOU TAKE A STAND AND FIGHT FOR WHAT IS RIGHT YOU WILL NOT ONLY BE SUPPORTED BY THOSE WHO CARE,BUT YOU WILL SHINE IN THE END

    DISCRIMINATION

    POOR CUSTOMER SERVICE

    STIGMA

    ABUSE OF ANY KIND

    WILL NOT BE TOLERATED

    IF YOU OR ANYONE YOU KNOW HAS BEEN DISCRIMINATED AGAINST OR HAS BEEN A VICTIM OF BAD CUSTOMER SERVICE,I URGE YOU TO SAY SOMETHING

    DO SOMETHING

    REPORT IT

    YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT AND DIGNITY

    REMEMBER IF WE DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT TODAY,IT WILL BRING CHANGE TOMORROW

    ONCE AGAIN I WANT TO THANK EVERYONE WHO SUPPORTED-CALLED-SHARED-POSTED-PRAYED AND GAVE LOVE. IT MEANS ALOT WHEN THERE ARE POSITIVE WHO CARE

    I CONTINUE TO FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT AS THIS PROBLEM NEEDS TO BE DEALT WITH.MUCHLOVE TO ALL.

    SHINE ON

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  • Congratulations. But isn’t it a shame that you had to go through the works just to get decent service then an apology for receiving the bad service in the first place.

    Shine on all the way!!!

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