B P
I don’t think you get it. I’ve walked away from many things done to me that most men would have retaliated to, but I walked away. That was me walking away from something someone did me but if you do my children something, I would damage you seriously. One of my sons and his girlfriend had an argument at a picnic, i saw him come home early and went to his room. Later he told me what happened and she slapped him in front of her friends. He walked away, got into his car drove home. For about four months straight, she and her friends were calling him asking him to reunite with the girl but he refused. Today, they are friends but not lovers anymore, she said he taught her a lesson that she would never forget. She’s now married and my son and her husband are best friends just because of what action he took. That night I took him out for a celebration for his level of maturity.

It is unfortunate what Rihanna suffered in the allegedly assault on her.I will not pick sides in this matter or pass judgment on the 2 individuals involved.

I do not think that excuses should be made for any of the 2 individuals.Chris Brown & Rihanna are adults and not little children anymore.They are international stars and should know how to handle delicate personal problems in a practical & mature way.I am sure that both of them recognize any negative publicity of them could spell disaster for their careers.Therefore both of them should have taken into consideration the consequences that will come they way as a result of their actions.

This is a sad time for us Barbadians who are so proud of Rihanna a Barbadian who had done us so proud.
I will admit I am not a big fan of Rihanna.I have real concerns for the image she projects as an entertainer and I have problems with her style of dress.Nevertheless,I am proud of her achievements in reaching the top in the music industry.

I hope this incident will not have a devastating effect on her career and I hope she will be able to rebound from this sorry situation and will continue to progress as an international star.

Rihanna stay strong,stay focus,stay sweet and learn from this sad episode in your life.

All of us as human beings go through a rough period at some period of time in our life.During that period we need love,understanding & compassion not negativity.

This is a period of time that Rihanna needs our love & support.Barbadians please support Rihanna 1 of us in her time of need.

Watch out for the spin doctoring phase next – pore teenager abused by stepfather – can’t help himself, we must feel sorry for him and pity him and wipe his nose and powder his butt.

Dear David:

You wrote “A tribute to the handlers of both stars is the fact that information about the reported incident in California last night has been kept under tight secrecy.”

I am disappointed in you David, and you are usually a reasonable man.

The men who beat women (and it is usually men who beat women) are banking on our secrecy.

They are hoping that the women:

“Will Cry Softly So The Neighbours Won’t Hear”

But Rihanna was RIGHT to report the matter to the police.

She was RIGHT not to be silent.

The police are RIGHT to properly investigate the matter and to press whatever charges are necessary.

The young man needs to be taught how to control his anger.

And why the jealosy?

How many of us can honestly say that we are still with the same man or woman we had at 18, or 19.

I CERTAINLY CAN”T.

That is the nature of young love. Young people change their minds for good reasons and for bad and for no reason. And it is their right to do so. And NO, NO, NO. A young woman does NOT deserve to be beaten if she has changed her mind about anything or ANYBODY.

I never supported Rihanna, and I don’t see the need to do so now. I stated then and you can go to BarbadosForum.com and see, that the culture she is getting into is nothing for Barbadians to celebrate, that the entertainment sector is fickle, and as a country we should find a way to not link our country’s image to an entertainment star. I still hold that position, and while I do not hold this incident to be vindication of my position then, I believe we are not too far away from that time when I can say that to be the case. She is a singer that’s all and not a good one at that.

BTW four nights a week I get my sweat on too a number of songs including

Disturbia
Breaking dishes
Don’t stop the music

ha ha ha ha ha ha I find it laughable under any circumstances that a multimillionaire could need me “support” and I foolishly give it. Not in these times and whether um is a wall-street fat cat or a highly over-rated entertainer, no way bosey.

@J

Our comment was in the context of seeing pictures splashed all over the tabloids etc of the two young people.

@Adrian

When we read/hear about what happened to Rihanna the instinctive paternal feelings of a father rises to the fore. What if it was the daughter we love so much?

I am indeed sorry about this, as Rhianna has done so well and made all of us Barbadian-Guyanese so proud of her accomplishments. I don’t think she should leave the USA, she should stay, but keep away from Chris. I am disappointed with Chris Brown, but Rhianna will prevail, just look at Ike and Tina Tuner. Tina went on to greater things after years of abuse at the hands of Ike, in fact Ike is six feet under, Tina still kicking in Hollywood. So Rhianna hold on, hold your head up high and trust in Jesus and I will pray for you girl. Love you.

Well said AH!

Adrian Hinds,
I endorse everything you said but what is chuspes? U mean stupse? I stupsing too.
Scout,
You seem to think that only you have this undying love for your offspring.All parents, I think, have this undying, unconditional love for their offspring, so when they hurt , we hurt. That is why if I were that lil boy’s mama, you and I would roll in de mud. You don’t touch my ‘gems’ and get off either. You love yours and I love mine. Understand?

Negroman, I’ve never agreed with anything you’ve posted before, but this time yours is by far the most balanced and measured contribution to this discussion.

Adrian Hinds – what kind of weirdo are you?

Dear Georgie Porgie:

Youwrote “We once had a prominent leader that used to beat his wife too, But that was hushed up, until at his funeral he was said to be a “fighter” at his eulogy — rather than a wife beater.”

Who da?

Come on tell us since he is dead and can’t sue for libel as “prominent leaders” are so fond of doing.

J:

Surely you know who used to beat his wife? He was a leader of the BLP, mother white, father black. lol.

Was it Sir Grantley that beat his wife? Please let us know, as some of us are originally from over the pond in Mudland

Anonymous,
It was alleged that Tom was a wife-beater not his papa. He was a mistress-beater as well.

Catwoman,
Well said.

We need to remind Rihanna that she is a Caw’mere girl and therefore highly intelligent with a lotta options. She is young enough to continue her education and be teacher, doctor, engineer, proferror, lawyer, prime minister, anything.

I am one of those people who always felt that she should have continued her formal educaton even while pursuing her career. It is possible to be a celebrity AND earn a university degree or two, or more.

Instead of partying with ignorant people, she should spend her non-performance, non-recording time in the clasaroom. A nice rigorous place like Yale, as Michelle Obama did.

She doesn’t need to date a thug-in- training. She can do better.

At this point in her life she doesn’t need to date ANYBODY at all.

But if she feels that she wants to date Barbaos is full of wonderful young men.

Somebody please introduce her to some nice Bajan man who knows how to treat a woman nice.

I cosign with with J

I must say that there are alot of misogyny on this blog… Whuh de gurl do wunna?

Why wunna hate women so…?

Why is the burden of proof being put so much on the victim here?

Bonny Peppa
It is immaterial to me who else love their family, the point is I am Protector- in- Chief of my family. I will rollup in mud, snow, water or even “glass-bottle” with anyone who try to take advance or abuse or molest any of my family. As I have stated before, do it to me and most likely, I would walk away, do it to my family and may the Lord have mercy on your soul.

Oh shoot, it was Tom, I wanted to say Tom, but he looked so pious to me, never in wildest dreams would I have guessed it, and to think young me was so madly in love with him. Bonny thanks

Regardless of how the blame goes around, we must remember that she is still really just a girl from Barbados who needs help and support.
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Well said. As Barbadians we have to let Rihanna know she will never walk alone.

@ reluctant nonbeliever // February 10, 2009 at 10:44 pm
Adrian Hinds – what kind of weirdo are you?
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I am hoping you can tell me since um is you who applied the label to me.

@ J // February 11, 2009 at 7:24 am
Georgie Porgie and Adrain Hinds:
Wha’ happen to wunnuh, that ya’ all so anti-woman.
Ya’ all spend too much time on ya careers and working 2 jobs and get some horns or wuh?
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First of all I do not believe that I am anti-woman, so if you are interested in bringing me on board and to take your comment and you seriously, you will have to present the evidence that led you conclude that I am anti-woman.
Horning as I understand it, involves a third party having sexual relations with your partner. That means you are not party to the activity. How does this affect you????

A very interesting debate!

I try to see it even deeper,and try to figure out why bajans react so much on the beating of national symbol and mascot Rhianna by her american boyfriend Brown.
Maybe is it our dark legacy,with slavery and violence that makes us scream up?
We never wanna see anyone representing the Rock being beaten, bent down and taken their pride away,do we?
Its just too hard,especially for men in our little country because it mirrors so strongly a shadow side of black culture;
violence.
Of course its violence everywhere,and both by women and men,but I think this mirrors and highlights Barbados and black society in particular..?
We identify this problem of society in people we admire and look up to. People with success,people our children wanna be like.
We learn that even if you get success and are beautiful and rich,still violence can hit you hard and brutal.
And we maybe get reluctant to look closer in the closet,on our own society,how we treat women(and men).
How we deal with anger,how we communicate when being bent or refused?
Our “pop-culture” were women in rap-songs often are called bitch,tramp and stuff…
Who do we wanna be?
What do we wanna show to the world?
How do we communicate,black women and men?
Thats my main concern here.

@ David
Re
We could take umbrage to your remark since reputation is acquired based on track record feedback etc i.e.they are some medical journals you would probably read before others…lol.
LOL Don’t take umbrage as there was no offence meant. Just trying to be rational. I know and care nothing about the rag in question.

@J
GP is definitely NOT antiwoman. But I sincerely believe that if a man should not hit a woman, that a woman should not hit a man. That seems very fair to me.

However, I notice that on this thread, once you don’t jump on the bandwagon, and say “Poor RiRi. Poor your little pop singing idol, that you must be subjected to vilification and ad hominem attacks.”

Having in my time treated so many persons who were victims of domestic abuse, and having even been present at several murder scenes as a result of such occurrences, the issue at hand is to me merely a tempest in a teapot. Two young giddy head immature persons had an altercation, and some licks were shared. This is a common occurrence, but because your little pop singing idol is involved, I am supposed to weep and wail and get all emotional about it? I don’t think so.

@ Devils Advocate

I saw the last part of your post, and agreed with it, and so saw no need to comment thereon. And yes I understood your submission. I only sought to present the other side, which has been woefully lacking in this discussion.

David suggested, or hoped, that the thread would foster a discussion on domestic abuse, but the thread has been consumed with emotional rants. As Adrian Hinds has correctly stated, there was not as great a commotion when the white lawyer beat up a poor black boy in Highgate Gardens. After all, that poor black boy was not your little pop singing idol.

Adrian Hinds’ comment above is worthy of serious assimilation. We do not need to reflect this particular issue to know that there is still work to be done in reducing incidents of domestic violence.

He has also correctly pointed out that………
“At any rate she has the resources and sufficient people who are dependent on her for a paycheck to handle this for her. I will spend my time reflecting on and doing what I can for those who may have suffered abuse and don’t have the resources to combat it.”

What does it mean when i use google, and it auto fills with possible results of what I am looking for, and to the far right of each listing it shows a number as results? Is this the number google searches for a particular website?

I just did a search for

Barbados underground — 1,300,000 results

Barbados free press — 524,000 results

Barbadosfrepress — 14,600 results

What does this mean? anything?

I feel sorry for both of them. Let the truth come out and lets pray that they have continued success. None of us were there when the fight occured; everything now is gossip. I wish Rihanna a speedy recovery. Let the legal process play out.

me // February 11, 2009 at 1:45 pm

AH who de cap fit dem wear it…bobmarley LOL
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Is there anyone of “substance” you can find to quote, other than this “substance” abuser? ha ha ha ha lol! Bob Marley was an entertainer, and a dope addict. My thoughts are not borrowed. likewise any cap i wear is one that I purchased. I afraid of people’s infectious headlice, and the social engineering ideas that are so contagious. ha ha ha ha