Court System Not Protecting Men – UN Convention On Rights Of Child White Paper

There is a concern by advocates of the rights of men that our legislators are not doing enough. The  130 page White Paper on the Child Protection and the Maintenance Act is an opportunity to defend the rights of men as it relates to Parental Alienation Syndrome. It is accepted that decisions handed down by Barbados Courts are are in the majority pro-woman. The ignorance and insensitivity of judicial officers presiding over family matters in the local court system has reached

To quote a male advocate,

…the white paper is revolutionary in its 130 page recommendations for it speaks to a minimum of 50% shared parenting for every parent once child in not in any danger. No longer will claimants go straight to court-  mediation and counselling will be required in all maintenance as well as access issues for the court is unnecessary clogged with these emotional issues…the Amendments in the white paper now speak to in kind maintenance as the extended family can help…Courts in Barbados perpetuate the notion that men are just a source of finance…

Read full text: UN Convention On Rights Of Child Whitepaper Barbados

121 comments

  • Some men, will not pay child support unless ordered by a court to do so. Please note that it did not requie a court order for him to have sex with the woman without a condom.

    But when it come to supporting the result of his pleasurable activity, it takes all of the king’s horses and all of the king’s men to drag him into court to compel him to do the necessary thing by his child.

    What a paradise it would be if every man voluntarily supported his children. Then we wouldn’t need a family court at all.

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  • @ Lexicon
    Boss man….
    Bushie REALLY thought that after the experience of that apartment fire when your neighbour had to drag you to safety … you would have taken a break from blogging ..and come back with a new level of rationality…

    We now see that Bushie was wrong…. ’bout the rationality…

    Nobody wants advice from someone who not only has been dumped by women of all ethnicities and nationalities;
    – but who burns down a whole building ..and had to be rescued by an old white neighbour;
    .. and who unplugged a life-support system while working in a hospital …. so that he could charge his cell phone to blog on BU.

    wuh part yuh working now..?
    steupsss..
    You are talking too much boss….
    Bushie getting tired with the lotta scrolling and scrolling…..

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  • @Hal Austin November 17, 2018 8:19 AM “professional divorced men whose reputations, professional and personal, meant that had to obey…I remember one of the guys targeted by the agency was one of their senior managers. ”

    Very, very poor judgement on his part, to have chosen such a woman to be the mother of his children. He should have taken time to know her. Let his decisions be governed by his brain, instead of by his appendage.

    If a woman is going to be the primary influencer of YOUR children, you better ensure that she is a GOOD woman.

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  • Bushie, why don’t you leave lexicon.

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  • @ Simple Simon
    If a woman is going to be the primary influencer of YOUR children, you better ensure that she is a GOOD woman.
    ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

    A ‘GOOD’ woman….?
    ‘good’ at what…?

    Perhaps you may wish to put a lid on that advice….
    If young men were to follow it, the birthrates would PLUNGE even further …
    We may have to bring back Ronald Jones to address the issue…

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  • Bushie and Lexi tight….
    LOL

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  • @Bush Tea November 17, 2018 8:35 AM A ‘GOOD’ woman…? ‘good’ at what…?”

    Good at turning, crying, pissy, shitty, 8 pound human beings into good, decent, loving, smart, productive women and men.

    Adults that any father or mother is proud to say “that is my daughter” or “that is my son”

    Is that too much to ask?

    And of course a woman should take the time to get to know a man, in order to ensure that he is a good decent man who will stay to work with her on the important task of raising their children to adulthood.

    Is this too much to ask?

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  • Or wear a condom, every time. Or better yet if you don’t wish to be bothered with child raising, and spending time and money to do the same, get thee to thy doctor for a VOLUNTARY sterilization.

    VOLUNTARY sterilization, about $300.

    To raise a newborn to adulthood, about $300,000.

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  • Or Bajans can give up of the child bearing, and child raising thingy, and we can import ready made adults from Guyana and Haiti etc.

    Easy so. Cost us zero time. Cost us zero money.

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  • So now here what happens
    The court orders the “father” to pay child support
    All of a sudden “dad” becomes a big man and finds his demanding voice
    Forgetting that for years and months he did not ask to see the child for obvious reasons

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  • Kammie,

    Do not mind the nonsense that is being posted here! Some of us understand that there are many fathers out there trying their best. Some of us understand that you are speaking on behalf of these fathers. We understand the seriousness of the issue. It makes NO SENSE to keep on listing the failings of other men who are not the point of this discussion.

    The reality is that when relationships end many adults FORGET THE CHILDREN in an effort to score points. If the children are to be looked after we have to find a way to mediate these battles fairly. A one-size-fits-all approach is not an effective way to deal with these issues. The particular circumstances of the parties need to be considered and real counselling needs to occur. If done properly everybody can leave happy.

    And is not that better than endless bruising battles? Or even worse the ones that end in motherless AND fatherless children?

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  • Bush Tea

    All I have to say to you brother is that I respect your right to express your opinion … but it is unfortunate how you continue to pork fun at the misfortune of others … like you aren’t cognizant of the fact that the same fate can also befall you…

    Listen! There is a time and place to pork fun at others to validate one sense of importance, but also be mindful of the fact that words have within them the power to spread joy, and the power to cause harm … especially if a person isn’t too sure of his or her self.

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  • Donna

    Your point is taken … however, we are aware of the fact that there are a lot of fathers of there who are trying their best to full the needs of their children … but how does a father who works 80hrs a week find the time to spend quality time with his children … when he has to provide for his children and his present family without been vilified? We know that children need presences and not presents …

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  • So my question to men who had court orders to pay child support
    What if the mother did not engage the court permission
    Would denial of access to seeing the child be an issue?

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  • @ Lexicon
    There is a time and place to pork fun at others to validate one sense of importance,
    +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
    What pork what fun what??!!
    Can’t you read between such wide lines..?

    Bushie is trying to tell you NICELY that you share TOO MUCH personal information about your damn self
    and about your family on the blog.

    You think Bush got time to waste ‘porking’ fun at you … when GP is available…?
    Steupss…
    There is NO WAY that Bushie should know so much about your personal life…
    Wuh you is Caswell…?
    Try and think before you type do.

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  • @Donna, thank you for your words of encouragement. To respond to the trash coming from some of these commentators would give them relevance. No wonder the Legal Industry got the country by its balls. My reluctant retort to the trashers would be
    ” When the Nazis came for the communists,
    I remained silent;
    I was not a communist.

    When they locked up the social democrats,
    I remained silent;
    I was not a social democrat.

    When they came for the trade unionists,
    I did not speak out;
    I was not a trade unionist.

    When they came for the Jews,
    I remained silent;
    I wasn’t a Jew.

    When they came for me,
    there was no one left to speak out.”

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  • Just plough on through the muck and the mire, Kammie! Even those who do not seem to know it will benefit from it or their children and grandchildren will.

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  • “Simple Simon November 17, 2018 8:47 AM

    Or Bajans can give up of the child bearing, and child raising thingy, and we can import ready made adults from Guyana and Haiti etc.

    Easy so. Cost us zero time. Cost us zero money.”

    I keep telling them that, the most practical and cost effective solution instead of listening to clowns like Jackass Jones telling them “breed more, breed more”

    breeding more comes with many strings, family drama, domestic violence, high mental and physical COSTS and is very unfair to the unborn, just born and growing children..

    ….the Caribbean has at least a 20 million young adult pool to choose from AND import…including for breeding purposes if ya must, but I would use already grown adults, the breeding will follow…AND you will have dual nationals…a win win.

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  • when they came for the pot smoking, tail chasing, beach bums.
    I said ..there goes the party

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  • Happy International Men’s Day,!

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  • “the person who files for divorce should just leave with no claim on house and children (and maintenance)”

    This seems to be somewhat unjust. So if a husband is openly having an affair with another woman and ignoring his wife which causes her to file for divorce then would it be fair for her to be deprived of any claim or vice versa?

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  • “This seems to be somewhat unjust.”

    Going on the basis of probability same way as Courts do

    it’s bad women who are ruining good men with lies in Family Court

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  • Government setting up a hybrid family court whatever that means.

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  • Sometimes ignorance gets us angry. The idea of a family court is confidentiality. A hybrid court is not the answer. Who came up with this idea? The Chief Justice, or the attorney general?

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  • Family Court as an adversarial system is just wrong and is a circus of madness

    all the fighting damages the children’s development most

    You can leave, but it’s going to cost you dearly

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  • Spiritual Science of the Blues

    Thrill Is Gone

    It’s gone away

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  • Lawyers bleed your dry charging large for writing a letter and making a call, once a month they will open and close your file for accruing the monies, Court dates fees are the orgasmic money climax. They can buy a fancy car from the money from each case they catch and drag out for years

    I Put A Spell On You [x3]

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  • The Legal Industry which was once the Legal Fraternity must shoulder some of the blame for the crises pf men getting a very raw deal. http://barbadostoday.bb/2018/11/20/dads-raw-deal/amp/8

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  • @Kammie

    So much can be accomplished if you and Marsha were to join hands to deliver a message. This battle between the sexes debate only makes it more contentious and fractious. We need to act intelligently if we hope to be agents for change.

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  • So much can be accomplished if you and Marsha were to join hands to deliver a message.
    ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
    Get over the wishful think nuh David…?
    NOTHING will be accomplished if Kammie and Marsha join hands to deliver any message.
    Our problems are much more deep rooted than the symptoms that we continue to focus on…

    Imagine that we have a problem where our petrol tank is leaking gasoline…but it will require much inconvenience and costs to replace or repair the tank… so instead, we complain about the high cost of gas that we have to buy; about the constant smell of gas fumes, about the stains wherever we park …and about the near misses we have had with fires.

    How does it help to encourage Kammie and Marsha to ‘get together and lobby for reduced gas prices’?
    How is it sensible to spend money buying large fire extinguishers to combat the potential for fire?
    …or air freshenors to combat the smell of gas fumes?

    We GOTTA bite the bullet and change the shiite tank.

    Our leaking tank is called the LEGAL PROFESSION.
    EVERYTHING points to this fact.
    A bunch of warped demons whose very genesis seems to be one of selfishness and greed.

    YET we INSIST on keeping them in the damn car.
    WE are happy to pay more and more taxes to cover the leaks…
    We are resigned to them BORROWING more and more on OUR account…
    WE accept THEIR word that we can do no better….

    We GOTTA be brass bowls David… It is clear…

    Up to Bushie, than tank would be pulled out and dumped post haste..

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  • @Bush Tea

    You analogy maybe extreme. So much can be accomplished if we work together, showing leadership; empathy to list just one example. Change must begin with the man and woman in the mirror.

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  • Kammie Holder

    Quite a few people who have spoken out against the Nazis had to pay the ultimate cost; quite a few people who have spoken out against the communists had to pay the ultimate cost; once you are preprared to pay the ultimate price … all your babbling is but tumbleweed blowing to and forth in the wind …

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  • Don’t be ridiculous now David.

    If you are on a stricken Titanic with idiots at the helm, …what can you accomplish by having a few good people cooperate?

    Please Read today’s article in the Advocate by Marville…
    https://etypeservices.com/SWF/LocalUser/Barbados1//Magazine247913/Full/index.aspx?II=247913#10/z

    Then get back to Bushie…

    If you put an idiot in control of Heaven, you will end up in Hell.

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  • @Bush Tea

    One has to pay money to read the Advocate !

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  • Invest the dollar David….

    Looka..
    When the strongest argument that a union can use… is that when things get tight, the last hired should be the first fired,
    …then we should begin to pay attention to what the Bible says about putting women to lead us…
    Not to mention the BIPA joker at it again….

    Shiite man!!!

    If you employed four people, and the business was LOSING money, would you not ACTIVELY seek to keep the most PRODUCTIVE people on board… and try to return to profitability…?
    You think Bushie would care if a fella was hired last week ..or last CENTURY?
    Steupsss…
    ONLY looking at … if the employee is making net POSITIVE contributions to the damn business.

    …but then again, the bushman don’t wait ’til the shiite business LOSING money to get rid of shiite…
    Flushing is a REGULAR routine for Bushie…

    Boss … wunna donkeys ANXIOUS to get to the grass….
    enjoy it…

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  • RE If you put an idiot in control of Heaven, you will end up in Hell.

    THIS IS A MORONIC STATEMENT THAT IS MOST UNSCRIPTURAL AND CAN ONLY COME FROM THE MOUTH OF SATAN OR ONE OF HIS CLOSE ALLIES.

    THIS IDIOT SHOULD TAKE THE TIME TO READ THE SCRIPTURES ON HEAVEN AND HELL BEFORE HE EXUDES BOVINE EXCREMENT

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  • It is true. Perhaps Caswell or others in the know can inform the blog why the trade unions have not forced the issue of the commonsense need to have a working performance appraisal system in the public sector.

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  • Bushie,

    And yet, some of you say she is not quite a woman. Also, are you saying that her predecessors were also of indeterminate sex????????

    One good thing about Codrington College is that it confirmed what I had figured out for myself. Wuhnuh men write tings to suit wuhnuh selves!

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  • Last comment not about the union boss but about the P.M. But I should remind you that Sir Leroy has only recently retired. Oops he has not quite retired, has he?

    stillincharge???????

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  • The world did not become a mess since there have been a FEW women in charge of a FEW things.

    AND

    The world is STILL overwhelmingly run by MEN!!!

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  • #doantrydahonewidme

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  • @ Donna
    Bushie said NOTHING about women in charge…
    He only drew reference that the BIBLE does…
    ….and was saying “perhaps..???’

    Don’t shoot the messenger.

    @ GP
    Unscriptural…?
    You clown..!!
    MUST you always make an ass of your scholarly self…?
    It is a simple statement that even Lexicon can interpret….

    Lets put it another way…
    Give you a job in a perfectly good offshore medical school …
    …and in short order it will be in a mess… and forced to rid itself of your miserable oafish personality…
    …as we have seen time and again.

    Put Stinkliar in charge of the Barbados economy
    …and in no time we are broke; have the third largest debt ratio on earth; downgraded 20 times … and shit flowing down mainstreet….

    Now….
    Conversely, if you were to put Bushie in charge of ANY shiite …
    Then milk and honey will be flowing in a few months time….
    Thanks to the god-father’s influence…
    🙂

    There MUST be something that you understand well…. ??!!
    Let us see…
    It is not the bible… (trinity, miracles, rapture…)
    it is not water… which is more than just H2O – contrary to your assertion…
    It is not medicine (cause those who understand it well – PRACTICE, …those who don’t – teach)
    It is not common decency – you admire Trump, the pu$$y-grabbing, pathological liar..
    What can it be…?
    LOL

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  • @Bush Tea

    Oafish is a good word. Tucked away for scrabble time.

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  • LOL @ David
    Bushie had a ‘Jeff C’ moment there…

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  • Bushie,

    I don’t shoot the messenger. I just send him back with a different message.

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