Submitted by Heather Cole

I do not have to close my eyes to remember Christmas Carols on the radio. However, I have a passion to hear live music being played by a band and next to the Black Fingers Band of my childhood years, my next favourite was the Royal Barbados Police Band. Christmas mornings in Queens Park would have been boring without them. To me they were the highlight, the icing on the Christmas cake.

Christmas in Barbados is an event. The preparations start sometimes before Independence Day which is on November 30th. December 1st started a mad scramble in Barbados because no matter what was to be done, it was to be done for Christmas.

Little as I was, like everyone else I had something to do in preparation for the big day. I help scrubbed the floors, we brought sand from the beach in little skillets which were as much as I could carry, and we would sprinkle it in the yard. We cleaned the furniture; wash all the porcelain dishes and glasses that we never used. They just had to be cleaned for Christmas.

Soda bottles or sweet drink bottles were washed and put in cases. We bought whole cases of these drinks, wine, ham and lots of fruits. Getting many presents were not really the big thing in my family, we were content to get that new outfit to go to Queens Park to be on parade just like everyone else.

So imagine waking up on Christmas morning and it is cold outside, the sand on the ground made it look like snow or sort of, and there is the fragrant smell of the lady-in-the night coming in from the bush by the front window and added to it all, the smell of baked ham and freshly baked bread, cake and pudding. The house is spotlessly clean, new curtains are hanging; everything looks polished and brand-new inside. Outside, the poinsettia is reigning in its glory, its red flowers putting everything else in the shade.

We woke up early to go to church, which started at 5 a.m. I can remember it used to be as if I had just closed my eyes and I would hear my mother calling me to get up. When we walked through the woods I was more asleep that awake in the crisp morning air. Sunrise would greet us in church and it was only when you got outside that you could really see what the other people were wearing. After church my cousins took us to catch the first bus to Bridgetown and from there, we walked to Queens Park.

Everyone went to the park to show off their new clothes on Christmas morning. It was the thing to do. Like everyone else, we would stroll up and down the pathways; seeing what everyone else was wearing. We bought glazed candied apples or fresh apples if we did not want the candied ones.

To top it all, was the music the band played. It set the atmosphere for that pleasant day. Rather in my mind, it was as though the music cast a spell. William Shakespeare wrote that “all the world is a stage, and all the men and women mere players: they have their exits and entrances…” he failed to mention an orchestra that directed the activities on the stage.

If he was alive in my early years and saw what I had seen through my eyes, I am sure that he would have agreed with me for I saw the orchestra Shakespeare did not see. The Royal Barbados Police Band seemed to me to be performing a symphony that heralded the part of each player that came onto the stage that was the park.

There was music for everybody. They played marches, carols, traditional songs and other popular songs. All throughout the performances of this great event, the music played. At curtain call when the music stopped, all the actors, dressed in their finest clothes bowed and disappeared.

All my Christmases were not filled with music and excitement. There is a time that stands out in my mind when my mother did not have enough to fill our lives with excitement. That year Christmas was bare of all the preparations and clearing the cobwebs in my mind, we must have wondered why she was not bringing home any packages; she did not bring home any port wine, no falernum, no ham or flour to bake sweat breads. She did not even talk about what we would wear on Christmas morning.

Through it all, I remained hopeful but by Christmas morning I was sad. That day all she prepared was a simple meal, it was all that she could afford. It was a good thing that my uncle came by as he usually did at Christmas to bring ham, sweet bread and drinks and it made us happy. However, the memory of those goodies was fleeting, lasting no longer than a snow-cone.

What I will forever remember apart from our bleak meal is the story my mother told us on that Christmas Day. It was a story that an old man had told her of the Christmas Day that he had nothing to offer to his family. Zander is what we called him, but I believe that his real name was Alexander Yarde. He was a small farmer who worked a quarter acre of land behind our house. The year in reference must have been a difficult one. I do not recall if my mother told us the circumstances but when Christmas Day arrived, Zander did not have one red cent to buy anything for his wife and family. All he had were canes in the field. He made a swing with rope and a piece of wood and hoisted it from a tree. They sucked their bellies full of sugar cane juice that day and took turns on the swing all day long. There was such laughter and happiness that it turned out to be one of the most memorable days that they had ever experienced as a family.

From that, I knew that our plight was not new; it was not desolation it was not the end of the world and like my mummy said there will be good times and bad times; ours just happened to be on that Christmas Day.

Joseph on the first Christmas Day had nothing to offer to his wife or his first-born son. If you are fortunate enough to have more than you need this Christmas, please share with those who have lost their jobs, with the single mothers and their children. Remember the shut ins, those with children far away, the homeless, the desolate, the lonely and those in need of care. Put a sparkle in a child’s eyes as my uncle did long ago when I thought that all was lost. Have a Merry Christmas!

312 responses to “Memories of Christmas”


  1. TELL US SARGE TELL US MAN
    EXPOSE THE IDIOT MAN
    BU IS ABOUT EXPOSING JOKERS MAN
    IT IS ABOUT CHALLENGING MAN
    YA CAN ONLY CHALLENGE BY BRINGING THE WHOLE TRUTH MAN
    MURDAH


  2. Despite the blustering and rough exchanges we have some men of good character here.

    You can watch a man’s post and get a feeling for his character.

    De Sarge always strike me as a man with good instincts and high integrity.

    Merry Xmas Sarge.


  3. @Sargeant

    It t is a busy day, what is the concern you have with an article, point to the time posted?


  4. Enuff ..What traction? i have already made my point Fool. A point which only insensitive morons would make fun
    Enuff you can keep pretending all u want that words of Hope by Mottley would be enough to satisfy those people she has placed on the breadline this festive season


  5. mariposa you are a sick ,hyprocritical indivisual ,even on Christmas you on here with your political nonsense,and Gazzerts talking about pace at the wicket,utter foolishness.To Gazzerts and AC,where were you when the over 3000 went home ,many without a penny in 2013,with the two breadwinners being severed in some cases?What should the Government have done after the Dems under the worst in my view PM and Minister of Finance mash up the economy?I di not hear Mariposa then about poor people,instead she was defending the Government and cussing Ms Marshall,damn hyprocrite.While it is unfortunate some people had to be sent home and I wish them all the best,it had to be done,so save us the crocodlle tears Mariposa.On top of that to hear about contracts signed by ex ministers,which I have not heard you comment on ,no wonder the country is in the state it is in.Maybe you can answer the question posed by Sir Lloyd as to how we get back here?


  6. On second thoughts. Enuff you nor The udder pretentious yardfowl cannot defend Mottley actions actions which threw workers overboard in the festive season
    The best you all can do is Hope.


  7. Lorenzo nothing you said in that political diatribe can removed the insensitivity behind the action of this govt cutting barbadians households to the financial bare bones at this time of the year
    Nothing you say can remove the social and financial damage to these people
    I reiterate that this is the first time in the history of Barbados economy that a govt would dare put people on the bread line during a religious holiday
    Lorenzo finding such actions by govt might be easy for u to understand knowning that when you got up Xmas morning your pound of black cake and leg of ham and pork plus a turkey and sweet bread was all yours for the taking
    You sound so foolish talking by past govt actions when present govt and all yardfowls condemn past govt for austerity measures which burden the bajan household
    However here it is on Xmas Day we have a new govt which when in opposition paraded itself in actions of demonstration making promises of better but have delivered many Bitter promises to many households on this Xmas morn.


  8. Thanks Theo

    The story can be described as apocryphal, if one wants to add drama to a story, they don’t have to add recognizable names. Suffice to say I know some members of the family and they were never in the straits that she is trying to portray, BTW they were two brothers who farmed that land and it was more than a ¼ acre.

    I won’t go into more detail as I have too much respect for the family to mention names as theirs was plastered on a public blog without permission in a situation beyond their control.

    Merry Xmas to you and yours.


  9. S/b There were two brothers etc.


  10. “On top of that to hear about contracts signed by ex ministers,which I have not heard you comment on ,no wonder the country is in the state it is in.”

    Let’s hope Mia is NOT bending over backwards to HELP all those thieves KEEP what they STOLE from the people and county…..WITHOUT any CONSEQUENCES or ACCOUNTABILITY …

    …..that is my main concern right now. and the concern of many who are watching and listening to the condescending crap Mia thinks she is fooling these vulnerable people with….talk is cheap.


  11. “WARU I wish you everything you wish yourself! Happy Christmas.”

    Same to you.


  12. As a new year approaches one can only wish there is the realization by some that change starts with the image in the mirror.


  13. Merry Christmas …have a great day folks.


  14. Merry Christmas to you David and your family. Try not to let “les miserables” upset you while moderating today.

    I am happy that the people in St. Joseph got some water for Christmas and my family can wash themselves and cook some good dinners. I am enjoying my Holidays. Bajan party Saturday and conkies disappeared in the blink of an eye. Canadian party last night and fish cakes flew off the table. Muh tired and glad I am not preparing Christmas dinner. But I am making a vegetable stir fry at my nephew’s who is hosting the extended family.

    Heather, thanks for the memories, not withstanding any discrepancies/exaggerations. We used to leave Bathsheba with all its sand and walk to Joe’s River to get marl from the marl hole. That all stopped when the cliff above fell on Freddie Cook. He survived, but I think he had concussion as he was not the same after.


  15. First time it happened in cricket. Analysts are asking, how is this possible. One ball and three men out.

    Last man was out was Lorenzo. He didn’t even take the wicket… just staying in the pavilion and bawling ‘I out. I fraid de pace’. Like he has Enuff as his coach.

    Man, Lorenzo you should be ashamed and feel for those less fortunate…
    A monster of a turkey
    A gigantic ham
    Black cake that is imported
    Big drinks. I bet that you boast about drinking only Grey Goose and that The whiskey you drink is not in local stores. “Man, things good now we got the wheel. I am in charge and living large”

    Man you should be ashamed….

    I hope Mariposa can keep up the pace


  16. Forgive me… I happy, so I can’t fight, but I can poke a little…


  17. @ Sargeant. Yes they were two brothers who farmed land in Cane Vale. Zander’s land was behind our house and Charles (Pa’s) land was to the right of his separated by kus kus grass.
    One of Charles Yarde’s grandson’s is my cousin who now lives in Boston. Charles Yarde’s sons started a band called Black Fingers. The band house was at the back of the house. They worked the hotel circuit. Perhaps that too is a figment of my imagination and another lie. But you can ask Lloyd Nurse.
    My mother worked for Zander that story came from his lips. My brothers also remember it quite well. In fact we reminisce about this and have told our children.
    Did you live in Cane Vale to have first hand knowledge of what happened there long ago? Who is the Mr. K that I am supposed to have lied about?


  18. @ Heather,
    There were (and are) Yardes who lived in Cane Vale. My wife just confirmed this.


  19. David dec 25

    As a new year approaches one can only wish there is the realization by some that change starts with the image in the mirror

    xxxcxccccccccccccccvvvcvcvvvvvvvv
    Yes David and i have looked in the mirror and what i saw is a change
    A change taking us from frying pan into the fire

    Have a Merry Xmas and while feeling merry also look into the mirror
    You might be surprised at what u see.
    Bah humbug


  20. Mariposa mirrors are reflections of the soul so you like most vampires dont see anything when you look in the mirror. Things on the island are not great but this is not to be laid at the feet of one party or person. Have a few coctails have a few laughs and realize that your living in the best of times …you aint building no pyramid ..


  21. Lawson go tell that to the retrenched workers who might have Hoped for a better Xmas and what they are being offfered is a quart of cooking oil.! one tin of Sardines! One tin of Tuna !one small bag sugar! one small bag of corn meal all great for a Xmas dinner uh think so( Compliments of this ” caring” govt for a price of 25 dollars)
    In the meanwhile she has given corporate barbados and her “many hands ” a big slice of the pie for doing Nothing
    You insensive bastard not only should you look in the mirror but take in a bathe in Worthing sea u a.ss idiot


  22. @bajans, there are no discrepancies in my story.


  23. There is no way Mottley should mention the word Hope ever again especially knowning that her actions of placing unbearable pain and suffering on the most vulnerable in itself takes away any Hope she had promised while campagaining
    There should be an electronic gadget place on politicians that release a punishing effect on their sensitive nerve when they lie.
    Couldnt care D or B
    This grandiose sh..ite of lying to win an election should be met with harsh punishment towards the politician


  24. Mariposa is hoping for cole in her stockings for Christmas. You have bull dyke written all over your posts.


  25. Bull Dyke a ss hole is one who can bite the living hell out of people Xmas stockings that is what Mia has done to the vulnerable
    You are just one duffus one can bet you got all your fancy gifts and not a piece of coal
    Go count the number pieces of coal the retrenched workers received handed out by Mottley a job which only a Grinch can do best


  26. not familiar with a bull dyke’s ass hole, will have to bow to your expertise but do know a lot about down sizing, the first to go are pretty sure its them and have a good idea why, the second wave are moderately surprised but also have been preparing for the inevitable the last group to be laid off know it is no reflection on them but is a sign of the times and will take every opportunity to get training ,mobility or available knowledge etc to fit into the ever changing work place.


  27. re Heather Cole December 25, 2018 4:06 PM

    @bajans, there are no discrepancies in my story.

    IF SARGE SAY DAT YOU LIE…….YOU LIE! SIMPLE


  28. @GP

    Pls don’t prolong the discussion, Ms Cole said they are her kinfolk and if that is the family lore them I’m out…..


  29. Georgie Porgie

    Scholar, you just don’t even know when tah stop …


  30. Georgie Porgie

    The thing about Bajans in our generation, and beyond is that they think that they have just arrived … they have conveniently forgotten walking bare foot, catching water from the standpipe, showering in the yard, and using pit toilet under the cover of darkness, and cooking with Cow manure etc


  31. Lawson a hole if you not familar with a word or words why use them


  32. Lexicon
    December 25, 2018 6:34 PM

    Georgie Porgie
    The thing about Bajans in our generation, and beyond is that they think that they have just arrived …

    ++++++++++++++++++++++

    Not true.

    The PM herself has declared that Barbados always punched above its weight!!

    Clearly Barbados arrived many generations ago!!

    It is today’s generation that needs to consider walking bare foot, catching water from the standpipe, showering in the yard, and using pit toilet under the cover of darkness, and cooking with Cow manure etc


  33. Theo Gazzerts quoted Lorenzo in the pavilion afraid of the pace,really what kind of J/A are you ?Mariposa is a hyprocrite as are you bowling a lot of long hops and full tosses to be knocked out of the oval.Let me be clear as I was with your idol Piece,it would take a thousand of you to frighten me,and as I stated neither Mariposa or T Inniss care any thing about poor people,all they are after is scoring cheap political points and if you cannot see that ,you are a bigger J/A than I thought or maybe you are also drinking the lost Dems koolaid,either way I do not give a damn.Of course I am sorry to see people laid off and hope for the best for them but a lot of this can be placed at the feet of the previos try a thing Government which you also seem to support,maybe you will get your wish in 15 years or so time.


  34. I went to Zander Yarde’s funeral at St. David’s Church, in the early 1990’s

    If it is the same Zander Yarde he lived as I understood it in Edey’s Village.

    I believe he had 3 daughters who shall remain nameless.

    He was highly thought of and worked the land.

    I never met him but knew his daughters.


  35. 3 Boxing Day Tests!!!

    The 6 top dogs on display.

    What a feast!!


  36. Beg pardon.

    6 of the 7 top dogs on display.

    No. 2, England not playing.

    Still a feast


  37. leximoron
    re Lexicon December 25, 2018 6:34 PM

    please note that Georgie Porgie does not know about walking bare foot, catching water from the standpipe, showering in the yard, and using pit toilet under the cover of darkness, and cooking with Cow manure etc nor does he know about activities outside district A yard LOL


  38. Lorenzo, why would I want to frighten you? Is that the politics you know? Intimidation, threats, cronyism…

    How do you score cheap political points.? The other guy has to be giving you silly talking points, not keeping his/her promises, engaging in gimmickry, writing flawed integrity legislation … but let me stop there


  39. GP
    You really need to talk to your family in Barbados to find out what is going on culture wise here.
    All the experiences you had at primary and secondary school levels are still very much alive.HC has its own school Orchestra as does many other schools.Its a far cry from when the only school taking music seriously in the 50’s was Combermere with James’Shakespeare’Millington and his violin group of boys.Music to associate degree level has been available at Community College for a long time and the programme is very popular.Many students go on to higher quals and Bim has it’s fair share of young Phd grads in Music.
    I am sorry to disappoint you but I have to tell you once again for the umpteenth time as 45 Govt and Truth have today,you are one blinkered fool who thinks he knows but does not know that he knows not what he should know.Diabetes is a killer.You should check your weight.


  40. Lorenzo,
    15 years is a bit ambitious. Way things are going, i would suggest six months blocks of time. Let’s see what happens in 2023


  41. gabriel

    I am sorry to disappoint you but I have to tell you once again for the umpteenth time as 45 Govt and Truth have today,you are one blinkered fool who thinks he knows but does not know that he knows not what he should know.Diabetes is a killer.You should check your weight.

    THANKS FOR YOUR HARANGUE
    DESPITE WHAT YOU AND 45 Govt and Truth have SAID, I AM ME AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE ME

    I KNOW WHAT I NEED TO KNOW AND I COULD NOT GIVE TWO HOOTS ABOUT ALL THAT YOU CITE ABOVE

    WHAT DOES THAT HAVE TO DO WID ME?

    I KNOW THAT THE WHEELS ARE FALLING OFF IN BARBADOS DESPITE ALL THAT YOU SAY

    I AM HERE VERY HAPPILY WATCHING SOME TEST CRICKET FROM THE MSG AND I AM ENJOYING MYSELF IMMENSELY

    I ALSO ENJOY MYSELF MORE WHEN I WORK UP ALL OF YOU AND GET YOU CUSSING ME FOR NUTTIN

    NOW CARRY ON SMARTLY


  42. @ John, it is the same. He had sons as well.


  43. Georgie Porgie

    Well, boss I’ve gathered from your statement above that you are from the higher echelon of the Barbadian society?

    Well excuse me! I did not know that I was in the midst of such great company? Please accept my apology for calling you all dem nasty names because I did not know that we had this caliber of Bajan in our presence … the BU community should be proud to have a man of class, honour and distinction in confabulation … I honour you Sir … and count it little to carry your briefcase or cut your grass …Sir …


  44. Lexicon
    December 26, 2018 1:22 AM

    Georgie Porgie
    Well, boss I’ve gathered from your statement above that you are from the higher echelon of the Barbadian society?

    ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

    Listen to the PM about Barbados punching above its weight and you will realise that the whole of Barbados used to operated in the higher echelons of human activity.

    Barefoot or not, drinking from a standpipe or not, cooking with cow dung wood or whatever, Bajans collectively punched way above their weight.

    Every Bajan of yesterday operated at a higher level than they do today, whether it be GP, me or Joe Humbug!!

    Every Bajan used to belong to the higher echelons of society!!

    It used to be innate!!

    That a precious few remain who serve as examples of what could be is no miracle.

    Family and the careful passing of values to the next generation ensures continuity!!

    Meanwhile, the wheels on which Barbados ran have come off and a ramschackle contraption of corrupt politicians and nincompoop citizens are exposed and grinds to the inevitable halt!!

    Indisputable fact!!


  45. Lexicon

    I did not know that I was in the midst of such great company

    +++++++++++++++++++

    This is because you have conclusively shown and continue to do so that you don’t know what it was to be a Bajan, operating in the higher echelons and punching above your weight!!

    That is for you to address …. you have the free will to do something about it

    Believe it or not you have at least the one talent each of us have been given.

    .


  46. The only problem is you have to recognize that you have that talent!!

    Nobody can help you with that …. unless you want the help!!


  47. I see the Christmas spirit didn’t last long.
    Thanks to Freedom Crier for the memories of King Dyal. What a character. Pity he didn’t have his splendid bike!


  48. @coltgovt

    The important behaviour is yours, forget the other.

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