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Submitted by Steven Kaszab

That blunt line captures the frustration running through this account of midlife job searching. The writer is not alone. Many workers in their 50s and 60s describe sending out resume after resume with little meaningful response.

After years of education and professional experience, I hoped to find work closer to home to reduce commuting costs and strain on the family vehicle. Instead, applications have yielded silence or repeated questions about salary expectations.

My son, who has a university degree, also sends out resumes only to be waiting for some response. Two generations. Same stalled outcome.

I suspect age is part of the equation. “Is it because I am 60+ years young?”  It is a question many older workers quietly raise.

Experience versus cost

Employers often prioritize lower wages and flexibility. I believe seasoned applicants are viewed as expensive hires, while younger workers are expected to take on multiple roles for less pay.

There is also the perception (fair or not) that employers worry about health costs for older staff or parental leave for younger women. While employment law prohibits discrimination on the basis of age, sex, disability, race, or religion, enforcement can be costly and complex for individuals seeking work.

The result is a sense that qualifications no longer guarantee opportunity. Applicants may be labeled: overqualified, too old, too young, or not experienced enough. If you are deemed overqualified… there will be problems you’ll certainly face.

The demographic shift

Canada’s population is aging. Workers over 55 now represent a significant and growing share of the labour force. At the same time, birth rates have declined, creating long-term pressure on labour supply.

Yet perception often lags behind reality. Older workers may be seen as nearing retirement, or as future costs to health and social systems. The writer pushes back against that framing, arguing that people in their 50s and 60s bring institutional knowledge, resilience, and perspective shaped by decades of experience.

Fifty somethings and seniors should be highly prized employees, instructors, advisors; they have an understanding of both work and the human condition.

Fear and financial pressure

Beyond employment, there is the anxiety of financial preparedness. Retirement savings, healthcare costs, wills, funeral planning, and the well-being of adult children weigh heavily. For those without significant savings, the margin for error feels thin.

Like an aging vehicle, the body requires more maintenance over time. The cost (financial and emotional) can be daunting. Humor offers brief relief. “Looking 60 is great, if you’re actually 70+.” Erica Jong stated, “Turning sixty is like flying, hours of boredom punctuated by moments of sheer terror.” Behind the humor lies a serious question: In an economy that prizes youth and speed, how do older workers remain visible and valued?

The larger question

Ageism, like sexism, racism, and ableism, shapes opportunity in ways that are not always easy to prove but are often deeply felt. There needs to be a broader conversation about equity in hiring and the economic dignity of aging populations.

As the workforce grows older, the challenge is whether employers, policymakers, and institutions are prepared to recognize its value.


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9 responses to “Being Old Sucks”


  1. Elder abuse a ‘dark secret’

    Elder abuse is still not always easily detected but remains widespread in Barbados – often hidden within the very homes meant to provide care.

    This was the central message coming out of a panel discussion hosted by the Barbados Association of Retired Persons (BARP), titled Denouncing Elder Abuse, where professionals across legal, medical and law enforcement fields unpacked the many faces of abuse affecting this island’s elderly population.

    The panellists included psychologist Dr Deanne Forde, attorney-at-law Sasha Shillingford, medical doctor Nicole Simpson, and Inspector Christine Husbands of The Barbados Police Service, who determined that while many people associated elder abuse with physical violence that was only a fraction of the problem.

    Abuse, they explained, could also be sexual, financial, psychological, or take the form of neglect and even self-neglect and of these, neglect may be the most common and overlooked.

    “It is the elderly person who appears unkempt, lacking clean clothing, proper nutrition or access to medication. It is the missed doctor’s appointments, untreated bed sores, or a once-vibrant individual who is now withdrawn and physically deteriorating. Unlike physical abuse, neglect does not always raise immediate alarm, making it especially dangerous,” Forde noted.

    Neglect

    The panellists noted that neglect is frequently not intentional cruelty but can stem from overwhelmed caregivers struggling to balance work, family responsibilities and care-giving duties.

    Society must not ignore the subtle warning signs, they agreed.

    “Ask questions. If you see something, don’t look the other way. A simple check-in could make all the difference,” Forde advised.

    From a legal standpoint, financial abuse is another growing concern, with attorneys working within financial institutions highlighting troubling patterns such as elderly individuals suddenly withdrawing large sums of money, closing long-standing accounts, or being accompanied by unfamiliar individuals exerting influence over their decisions.

    “These red flags often point to coercion or manipulation. In some cases, legal documents are presented granting sweeping control over an elderly person’s finances to someone previously unknown to bank staff. Such actions may be the result of threats, intimidation, or emotional pressure,’ said Shillingford.

    More alarming, was that perpetrators are rarely strangers.

    Forde revealed abuse is most often carried out by relatives, caregivers or trusted acquaintances, and the betrayal deepened the psychological toll on elderly individuals, many of whom remain silent out of shame, fear, or a desire to protect their family’s reputation.

    Silent epidemic

    She described psychological abuse in Barbados as a “silent epidemic”, noting it was particularly insidious.

    “Victims may endure verbal attacks, threats, isolation, or controlling behaviour from caregivers. Over time, this can lead to noticeable behavioural changes, rocking, mumbling, withdrawal, or signs of deep anxiety and fear,” she informed the live audience gathered at the Caribbean Broadcasting Corporation ( CBC) on Wednesday.

    “These are people they trust,” Forde explained. “They endure the abuse because they are afraid, ashamed, or simply lonely.”

    Forde revealed that loneliness was a major vulnerability, and warned that elderly individuals, especially those without regular family interaction, are more susceptible to manipulation, both in person and online, while adding that in a digital age, cyber-fraud had become an increasing threat, with scammers exploiting emotional connections built over months or even years.

    Hidden

    Inspector Husbands said that while physical abuse cases do reach law enforcement, financial exploitation, neglect and psychological abuse largely remain hidden.

    “Those are the ones that stay within the household,” she said, pointing to a lack of reporting and awareness as major barriers to intervention.

    Simpson also highlighted the difficulty in distinguishing between natural ageing and abuse, stressing that while falls and bruising can occur with age, repeated injuries or inconsistencies between a patient’s story and their physical condition could reveal deeper issues.

    “The story must match what you see. If it doesn’t, then you need to ask more questions,” the general practitioner said.

    As a group, the panellists said that beyond individual cases, systemic challenges compound the issue.

    Barbados’ ageing population, combined with limited care-giving resources, places strain on families, many of whom belong to the “sandwich generation,” caring for both children and elderly relatives simultaneously, Forde said.

    The lack of accessible support services, including long wait times for state-provided home care, leaves many families struggling. In some cases, this strain contributes to abandonment, with elderly individuals left at institutions such as the Queen Elizabeth Hospital and never reclaimed.

    Forde described abandonment and neglect as among the most troubling forms of abuse on the island, calling for a societal shift in attitudes towards ageing and caregiving.

    “We have to grow a conscience,” she said bluntly. “For a small island, the level of elder abuse is too high. ( BA)

    Source: Nation


  2. Kaszab’s writing this week is good. At least he seems to know what he’s talking about. Lived experience, if you will!

    But it also speaks to the failed lives of too many. People who spent their lives doing shiite absent of the basis accumulated ability, competencies, capabilities, skills to work for themselves, corner their accumulated abilities to become demanded rent seekers.

    Such people like Kaszab have not even learnt how to be their own doctors, their own lawyers, their own chefs and the many more essential tasks modern life demands.

    Certainly, hiding within demographic general tendencies is no way to bend the future to serve oneself first as the essential precondition of helping others.


  3. Shiite Pacha!!!
    That is so well said, that Bushie promises not to cuss you for the remainder of this month … unless abnormally provoked of course.

    Being old has been the absolute best part of the bushman’s life…
    the healthiest, wealthiest, wisest, and the most productive by FAR…

    As you correctly pointed out, if a BB spends their life in mendicant obedience to the lotta brassbowlery that defines our society, it is no wonder that by age 60 they are sick, broke, helpless – and looking for handouts.

    Everything points to the overall SPIRITUAL purpose of life…
    A youth of learning, sharing, saving, productivity, planning for a secure future, and leading to a SABBATH (retirement) of enjoyment, rest, appreciation, and inspiration.

    What a world…
    Where…
    left is right, and right is wrong…


  4. Yes, Bushie!

    But don’t stop cussing muh though, not even fuh uh day.

    It’s amazing how people do everything wrong for so long and then complain when de shiiite continues to hit the fan, even to the end.


  5. Many of those in their 50s now better give thought to how they will bridge the 3 year difference between retirement at 65 and state pension at 68. They are going to be the ones worst affected by the NISS revised schedule of pension payments, as the age that their employer can send them home legally without penalty has not been changed from 65.

  6. BU Oldies but Goodies Avatar
    BU Oldies but Goodies

    Tao Te Ching – Lao Tzu – chapter 15

    The ancient masters were subtle, mysterious, profound, responsive.
    The depth of their knowledge is unfathomable.
    Because it is unfathomable,
    All we can do is describe their appearance.
    Watchful, like men crossing a winter stream.
    Alert, like men aware of danger.
    Courteous, like visiting guests.
    Yielding, like ice about to melt.
    Simple, like uncarved blocks of wood.
    Hollow, like caves.
    Opaque, like muddy pools.

    Who can wait quietly while the mud settles?
    Who can remain still until the moment of action?
    Observers of the Tao do not seek fulfillment.
    Not seeking fulfillment, they are not swayed by desire for change.


  7. What about systems, are they any fun when aged?

    Like the old fashion American special forces attempting to mount, pun intended, Kharg Island today and could not make the grade. Accordingly to some reports.

    Certainly, no fun, to be captured and interrogated by the IRGC.

    That is no place for old military systems, tactics, nor old men like Bushie.


  8. I probably shouldn’t share this knowlege, but I’m going to.

    Macular degeneration is corlated with genetics. My father was legally blind for the last ten years of his life.

    I happened to notice that suddenly my spreadsheets were curved. There are new drugs available.

    $16,000 later, my vision was restored from 20/35 to 20/22. Injections into the right eye. Not fun.


  9. Halsall

    Bend this curve, strave that dis-ease to death! These stories about the predisposition to flawed genetics are hardly ever true. Nearer to the truth are the bad lifestyle choices we copy from parents, those around us.

    Maybe start with OMAD – one meal a day. With this you’ll have a feeding window of 2 to 3 hours. Eating nothing in between – but water, green tea. After three weeks your body will adjust. For humans did not evolve having a larder or a fringe with food all the time, like we do today. We’re built to go for weeks without food. Early humans were never eating 10 and 12 times a day. For everytime one eats there is an insulin response. That’s the killer!

    Once a month do a one week fast supervised by a health care practitioner or a nurse, in the beginning, and if other underlying conditions exist.

    Ditch nearly all carbs, no sugars, no grains, no fruits. No more than 5 percent of daily intake should be carbs or sugars, 20 percent proteins, 75 percent greens. Increase fatty food. Get your body to operate ketogenically where fat is the main energy source.

    If you have to eat animal products make sure that they were grass fed. This will ensure an omega 3 and 6 balance.

    Your body wants to be well. Strave it to wellness. Investigate the benefits of ketosis and autophagy.

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