Plight of Abused Elders in Barbados

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112 responses to “Plight of Abused Elders in Barbados”
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Wow. What a tour de force! We certainly have lost our way. But let us face facts. That elderly gentleman sired that daughter. Did he play a part in developing her values? Most citizens of my generation were taught values by both parents. When we became caregivers to our elders we applied the values they taught us. They practiced what they preached and we in turn practised it.
Having said all that,in statistical probability terms, this case is an outlier. There will always be uncaring children. -
@Vincent
The parent is old, this should resonate with anyone with a conscience.
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@ David BU at 8 :47 AM
We are not born with consciences. Consciences are cultured. We are trained to develop a sense of right and wrong. You may not notice it but we as a nation is beginning to lose our conscience. Very often in response to a question I get an answer along this line :”so and so is doing it, so it must be right and I am going to do it too “. More recently i got a response like this : ” Others ,more qualified than I ,said so and so” .
In short ,if we do not set standards ,and apply them we will continue on the trajectory to decay of our value systems. -
Barbados is a failed society.
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Has anyone determined the mental state of the gentleman in question. Does the gentleman suffer from dementia or Alzheimer’s as these diseases present much like the author is reporting. These two afflictions can be very difficult to deal with on a personal level without adequate professional backup and facilities. The gentleman’s family maybe overwhelmed with the situation and do not know where to turn. Then again it could very well be a case of elder abuse like the author is saying, in any case it’s obvious that Barbarian system is not equipped to deal with the situation to determine the truth.
Like Hal states Barbados continues to show it’s FAILED STATE status while local politicians and authorities continue to GRANDSTAND.
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I visited the link and in my opinion, the responses of the elder person do not fully support the claim made here.
If I was a member of Worthing Police Station, Welfare Department or National Assistance Board, then on hearing the audio I might have acted as they did. Apart from “I]ll find a way”, which is hard to place in context., the responses of the gentleman does not ‘condemn” his caregivers.
Correct me if I am wrong.
The answers of the policeman seem to be based more on tradition/common convention than than on law.
(I am not a lawyer)
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I am very concerned about elder abuse. As a gentleman who is in the latter half of the seven stages of man, I have a great deal of concern about how the elderly are treated. I have made it clear to my son that what little that I have does not automatically become his and it is my plan to hold on to it as long as possible.This is a situation where all Barbadians including the elderly could be educated by holding a number of seminars at different schools.
A presentation can be prepared on the rights of the elderly, people can be trained and a series of lectures delivered throughout the island. The presentation could also be videotape and copies place in all of the libraries an police stations.Each police station should have officers who are fully aware of the rights of the fragile element of society.
We must abandon the toy train with all its bells and whistles and make certain that out policemen, Welfare Department and National Assistance Board can help and protect the the fragile member of the society.
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I see a few letters missing here and there.. usually a d. If you see any that are extra, they are meant as gift to you.
Excuse the errorsEnjoy the day.
Have a Great Day Barbados
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Vincent,
All over Barbados are people young and middle aged who love and care for their elderly parents and grandparents. They far outnumber the kind who don’t. In some of the case of abuse i know the parents ( including the mothers) were not the best to the children. In many cases there was neglect especially by the fathers who were too busy pursuing women. When I see an old man being abused I wonder what kind of man he was and how did he treat his children. When I see some old women being abused I wonder how many of them chose their men above their children. I know women who do that. With some people it is just the chickens coming home to roost. We do not know what went on many years ago behind closed doors. This however, cannot be a factor in our decision on how the old person is to be treated now
Of course, there are ungrateful offspring around who need to be dealt with, some abusive and some neglectful and only interested in getting their hands on the old parent’s money.
We neighbours need to be vigilant and go the extra mile like this woman has done and press for an investigation. And we do know that we need to have an investigation because some elderly persons have not changed their wicked and miserable ways while others are suffering from some type of dementia and accuse people of doing things that they are not doing.
The problem in this case seems to be the authorities who need a kick in the backside. There may be no clear guidelines on how these things should be handled and by whom or else the workers are just lazy.
If I were that lady I would go directly to Cynthia Forde. She is being paid to do more than look good and speak sweet nothings.
PS. A few months ago my sixteen year old son dragged me into a cell phone store and made me purchase a cell phone because “he needs to reach me at all times to make sure that I am okay. Two weeks ago he noticed a for sale sign on a plot opposite ours. He hoped no-one would purchase it for a few years so that he could do so. His plan is to live close by so he can keep check on me. He plans to get me home help and set up cameras because he has to know what is happening to me at all times. I told him he has to live his life and go where it takes him. I’m sure he will when he gets a family. But one thing I know is that he will never leave me unprotected. He will make provisions for me and keep check.
He was raised well. He was loved well. He cannot escape.
The Lugubrious Hal Austin,
These happen in all countries. Even where you live. I live here and I don’t feel like I am living in any failed state. Just one that often needs a hard kick in the backside and some persistence.
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@ Donna at 10 :42 AM
Precisely. Love begets love.
Secondly ,the incidence of dementia and alzheimers are increasing, probably the consequence of an aging population. Perhaps we need to get some more information before allocating blame. -
@VC
@Donna
Can we truly know another person?
Do the lessons taught in youth remains with us forever?
And if they do, do they always apply the lessons learnt?Thee are general questions and not meant to contradict in anyway.
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TheO,
Re: Can we truly know another person? Mostly, yes. Most of us can’t hide who we are for extended periods. Signs are always there. Some people do not pay attention. Others live in denial.
Re: Do the lessons taught in youth remains with us forever? Mostly. We may choose not to apply them or make mistakes but we do remember. Mostly though, characters are formed fairly early.
And love does beget love. Mostly.
PS. The word “mostly” was deliberately used.
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Somebody making a lot of RH sport on this matter. No specific law on Elder-Abuse in Barbados after all this time? What are they waiting for, the cows to come home?
So where are the Community Nurses? What do they do? Who is it that they visit, and how do they do this that there are some persons left out of the loop and who being robbed black-blind or traumatized or humiliated or victimized? All these persons who have worked and contributed to the development of this country suddenly have no carat.
Barbados, is this how we say thank you?
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxREALLY SUMS THE ISLAND UP.
I DON’T CARE FOR DONALD TRUMP BUT HIS USE OF “SHITHOLE” REALLY DOES DESCRIBES THE 3rd WORLD ISLAND BARBADOS AS AN ACCURATE ASSESSMENT.
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https://www.elderabuse.org.uk/breaking-news
7 July 2019
Report shows need for elder abuse law
Major failings in how the criminal justice system treats older victims of crime makes the case for a specific elder abuse offence in law, according to the charity Action on Elder Abuse.
A new joint report by HM Inspectorate of Constabulary and Fire & Rescue Services (HMICFRS) and HM Crown Prosecution Service Inspectorate (HMCPSI) entitled ‘The poor relation. The police and CPS response to crimes against older people’, due for publication on Wednesday, 17th July, makes a series of recommendations for improving how the criminal justice system serves older people.
The damning report states that older people are “often let down by the police and wider criminal justice system which does not always understand their needs and experiences”. The police, it says, have only a “superficial understanding” of the nature and extent of crimes against older people, which often results in a poorer service to older victims. Police forces and the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) are also said to “lack any joint cohesive and focused strategy to deal with older victims of crime”.
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http://www.eapon.ca/what-is-elder-abuse/
How many Ontarians are facing elder abuse?
Elder abuse is a serious and growing problem, although the magnitude and extent of the elder abuse cases occurring in Canada is not well known, due to limited data collected and unreported cases. North American studies indicate that between 2 and 10 per cent of older adults will experience some type of elder abuse or neglect each year.There are currently 2 million seniors aged 65 and over, or 14.6 per cent of the population who reside in Ontario. Based on studies that indicate two to ten percent of seniors are abused, there are between 40,000 and 200,000 seniors living in Ontario who have experienced or are experiencing elder abuse.
Ontario is also facing a significant demographic shift, according to Ministry of Finance Census Data. The number of seniors over 65 is projected to more than double in Canada or in Ontario to almost 4.2 million, or 24.0 per cent, by 2036. Given the significant growth increase of seniors, it is imperative that we take action to prevent and assist seniors who are at risk and are experiencing abuse, otherwise between 84,000 and 420,000 seniors could be affected in the future!
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The lawyers, ministers, lowlife minorities all rob the elderly of their estates, land, bank accounts, it’s nothing new, they have all been doing it for decades and still are…..all Cynthia Forde does is give lipservice and talk shite, she does not lift a finger to end any of it, only run to the media to make believe she is actually working for taxpayer’s money…so of course in certain cases family members will believe they have some right to be abusive and neglectful of family members and tief from them too..
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Elder Abuse On the Rise in America
April 4, 2019, at 4:00 p.m.
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Elder Abuse On the Rise in AmericaMore
By Steven Reinberg
HealthDay Reporter(HEALTHDAY)
THURSDAY, April 4, 2019 (HealthDay News) — As the American population ages, elder abuse rates are increasing, particularly among men, federal health officials reported Thursday.
Between 2002 and 2016, the rate of assaults among men 60 and older jumped 75%, while it rose 35% among women between 2007 and 2016. Among older men, the homicide rate increased 7% between 2010 and 2016, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
“We are still examining the circumstances that appear to be associated with the increase in violence against this age demographic,” said lead researcher Joseph Logan, from the CDC’s National Center for Injury Prevention and Control.
“We have identified that many of the assailants were known to the victims and in a position of trust,” Logan noted.
Dr. Ronan Factora, chair of the Special Interest Group on Elder Abuse and Mistreatment at the American Geriatrics Society, thinks the problem is probably even worse than the report suggests.
“These data underestimate the extent of elder abuse in America,” he said. “We probably underestimate the amount of physical violence, because this study only used records from emergency departments.”
Many more cases of abuse were probably seen by private doctors or not reported at all, said Factora, who had no part in the study. “This is really a small fraction that represents a larger problem that has been growing,” he added.
The biggest issue is that most elder abuse isn’t recognized, Factora said. That’s because there isn’t a standard way to screen for it or recognize it.
Factora believes, however, that elder abuse is gaining more visibility, which may be part of why it’s seen as increasing.
“As the years have gone by, elder abuse has become more highlighted and thus better detected,” he said. “But the increase is not just a demographic issue.”
Factora said that much of the abuse among people who are physically or mentally impaired is perpetrated by caregivers who are stressed out by the demands of caring for a loved one.
Still, “abuse can have lasting effects that aren’t reversible after a certain point,” he said.
“People who need help with transportation, finances and medication put a lot of burden on caregivers,” Factora said. According to the CDC report, it’s family members who commit most of the violence.
“A lot of this is because of the demands placed on them for care, which really puts a stress on them,” Factora said.
Unfortunately, many seniors are in jeopardy because of their physical or mental condition, and can’t defend themselves, he said. Abuse is really related to dependency, Factora explained.
Help in finding ways to cope with the burden of caring for someone is available. Perhaps if more people took advantage of programs for family caregivers, a lot of elder abuse could be stopped before it starts, he suggested.
“The resources are there. The problem is connecting the caregivers who are burned out with the resources that can help them,” Factora said.
The best way to deal with elder abuse is through awareness of all its forms. This study deals with physical abuse and murder, he pointed out, but abuse also includes neglect and financial exploitation.
Often a person is the victim of several kinds of abuse. Someone who is physically abused can also be neglected and financially exploited.
Factora believes that if you see or suspect someone is a victim of elder abuse, you should report it to adult protective services.
“We need to find these cases, and once we find how big this epidemic is, that may be a push to identify the abuse we don’t see,” he said. “What we are seeing is the tip of the iceberg.”
For the study, researchers used data from the U.S. National Electronic Injury Surveillance System — All Injury Program and National Vital Statistics System to look for trends in assaults and murders among men and women aged 60 and older.
The report was published April 5 in the CDC’s Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report.
More information
For more on elder abuse, visit the U.S. National Institute on Aging.
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This is a situation where all Barbadians including can be educated by holding a number of seminars/talks at different schools.
A presentation can be prepared on the rights of the elderly by those knowledgeable on elderly law. People can be trained and a series of lectures delivered throughout the island. The presentation can also be videotaped and copies place in all of the libraries, police stations and schools. Education of all is the key.
Police stations should have officers who are fully aware of the rights of the fragile members of our society. Our policemen, Welfare Department, National Assistance Board and other organizations must actively help and protect the disadvantaged/young/ elderly members of society.
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As one who has looked after 3 elders, parents and auntie all of whom were over 80 at the same time, and two of whom had significant disabilities, I’ve listened carefully to the tape and I don’t hear any evidence of abuse. I would much prefer to hear fomr a social worker or a psychologist
What I hear is a female voice prompting Dennis to say something which he does not want to say, asking if he is treated ok, if his family hits him etc., if he gets to go out? I hear a female voice asking “how are WE going to get out Dennis? “They are not going to let you?”
How well does the female speaker know the elder?
Why is she prompting him to say something he does not want to say?
Where is the female voice planning to take Dennis?
Does Dennis have the capacity to consent to whatever the female is proposing?
Did Denis know that he was being taped?
Did Denis consent to the broadcast of this tape?I would have been very resentful if a “stranger” had showed up with a microphone purporting to help my elder “get out” and voicing “concern”,asking if my elder gets hit. etc.
But yes, social services should certainly take a look to be certain Dennis not being coerced by his family OR by the female speaker.
Personal story: A few weeks after my father was widowed at 90+ a unemployed 30something woman who had been living in a polygamous relationship two houses away started showing up regularly, offering “friendship”, and asking him if she could move in. She wanted to “help” him. He did not require her help. She had NEVER once offered help during the many years my mother required help. I believe then and now that the female was more interested in helping herself. At the time by father had three children who lived nearby and who visited every single day for the 4+ years he lived as a widower. He had a housekeeper/cook who came in for 20 hours each week, he went to church regularly, and he had half a dozen grandchildren who visited regularly as well.
We had to tell the woman “be off” and go back to her polygamous union, find a job, and leave our old man alone.
She got the message.
He lived happily ever after.
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My elderly well educated former Sunday school teacher, who in civilian life had held a management position for decades was taken for all he had, hundreds of thousands of dollars [he had inherited valuable beach land] by a beautiful young woman whom he met on the internet, and who persuaded him over a period of months or years to send her money for a “business” in which they would be partners. Subsequently she claimed that other of the business partners had robbed her. Then she disappeared. By the time she was finished with him he was destitute and suicidal. Sadly he honestly but erroneously believed that the beautiful young “lady” on the internet was in love with his 70+ self. She was not. Sadly he never ever got to meet her.
In this voice note i smell the beginning of a “love scam”
Color me cynical.
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The lawyers, ministers, lowlife minorities all rob the elderly of their estates, land, bank accounts, it’s nothing new, they have all been doing it for decades and still are…..all Cynthia Forde does is give lipservice and talk shite, she does not lift a finger to end any of it, only run to the media to make believe she is actually working for taxpayer’s money…so of course in certain cases family members will believe they have some right to be abusive and neglectful of family members and tief from them too..
BARBADOS IS REALLY A SHITHOLE.
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Elder abuse as pointed out is a challenge in all countries around the world.
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@Baje February 21, 2020 7:47 PM “BARBADOS IS REALLY A SHITHOLE.”
Baje are you looking after your elders who still live in Barbados?
And if not you, then who?
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https://www.bbc.com/news/business-47176539
Women ‘victims in 63% of romance scams’Victims of romance scams – the majority of whom are women – lost an average of £11,145 each last year, according to new figures.
The data, from police reporting centre Action Fraud, showed that £50m was lost in these scams in 2018 when fraudsters pretend to be romantically attached.
Fraudsters trick victims into sending money or gather enough personal information to steal their identities.
These scams of the heart are being highlighted ahead of Valentine’s Day.
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Elder abuse as pointed out is a challenge in all countries around the world.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxDID THE AUTHOR OF THIS BLOG TOPIC NOT HIGHLIGHT AN ACTUAL LOCAL CASE TAKEN TO THE POLICE AND TWO OTHER BARBADOS GOVERNMENT AGENCIES WHO ARE SUPPOSED TO PROTECT ALL OF ITS CITIZENS AND WAS NOT ABOUT SOME OUTSIDE COUNTRY?
TAKE YOUR HEAD FROM UP YOUR ARSE.
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https://edition.cnn.com/2020/02/14/us/happy-valentines-dont-fall-for-romance-scams-trnd/index.html
An 80-year-old widower lost $200,000 in an online romance scam in OregonThe elaborate con job started with an unidentified person stealing a Florida’s woman identity, the Oregon Division of Financial Regulation said in a statement. The scammer then used the stolen identity to befriend the 80-year-old widower through an online dating service, and worked to steal his heart and his money.
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@Mama Leah “The Officer is of the sickening opinion, (in a nutshell) that the perpetrators: the children and ex-wife, are his children and wife (family) therefore has rights to his assets. On a previous visit to Worthing Station the officer told me that “if it is his daughter, then she cannot be abusing him, she might see it as protecting him.”
The author writing under a pseudonym claims that the woman in the house is an ex-wife.
How do we know that the woman in the house is an ex-wife? Because Mama Leah outside the house says so? What if the woman in the house is Dennis’ loving wife of 50 or more years?
Why are we so quick the believe that the anonymous, dirty mouthed Mama Leah is a truthful person?
Am I the only person to have noticed that she sweet talks Dennis, but in her writing to the lao she curses like a pirate.
Honestly now, would any of you want your elderly husband or elderly father to go off with with his money with such a dirty mouthed person?
Especially a person who seems to have an interest in Dennis’ funds “albeit with no access to his own money or any money at all.”
Once Dennis’ money is gone, who takes care of him? Will dirty mouthed Mama Leah take care of him? Or will his care become the responsibility of the same “ex-wife” who may actually be his lawful wedded wife, his daughter?
And I ask again, did Dennis consent to having his image and his words published? Is Dennis capable of consent? And if he is incapable of consent isn’t it abusive to publish his words and his photo?
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@ SILLY IDIOT.
WHENEVER SOMEONE HIGHLIGHTS A PLIGHT ON BU YOU CONTINUE TO TRY TO DENIGRATE THE INDIVIDUAL.
YOU DID IT WITH THE LADY SUFFERING IN COVERLY POOR CONSTRUCTION WHO WAS CATCHING HELL WITH TORMENT FROM THE POLICE AND MARK MALONEY WHO ALSO TOOK THE BOLD STEP OF HIGHLIGHTING HER PLIGHT SEVERAL TIMES ON BU.
YOU DID THE SAME WITH NATALIE CRICHLOW WHOSE SUSPICIOUS DEATH WAS HIGHLIGHTED ON BU.
YOU ARE A NASTY VILE DISHONEST OLD BITTER WOMAN.
NOT EVERYONE LIVES IN THE BUBBLE IN YOUR HEAD.
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@ Baje
Well said.
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Any negative comment about Barbados guess who puts in an appearance.
#bajancondition #failedstate
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Policies and procedures and agreements to report and manage elder abuse cases in Barbados, called the “Draft Protocol for the Prevention, Reporting, Investigation and Management of Elder Abuse,” was completed in 2012.
In June 2013, the “National Policy on Ageing in Barbados” was passed in Parliament. Section 7 of the policy deals specifically with elder abuse. Included in the recommendations are:
…… Create a national protocol for the prevention, reporting, investigation and management of elder abuse;
…… Undertake research into the causes, extent and consequences of elder abuse in Barbados to help in the formulation of policy;
…… Enact a single code of law to address the issue of elder abuse;
…… Provide services for victims of elder abuse, to include counselling, rehabilitation, alternative accommodation and support services;
…… Establish mandatory counseling for perpetrators of elder abuse;
…… Facilitate the creation of a dedicated telephone help line for victims of elder abuse.A committee to monitor the implementation of the plan of action in the “National Policy on Ageing” was established in July 2014.
The above falls within the purview of the National Assistance Board.
It’s not the mandate of NAB to remove an elderly person from their place of abode. However, given the above information, I’m wondering why NAB’s Welfare Officers did not investigate the case and why was the complainant referred to the Welfare Department?
The legislation is there, but it seems the people tasked with dealing with these types of cases ‘don’t know wuh duh doing.’
Recall a few years ago, police officers dealt with domestic abuse complaints, according to a contributor, “based more on tradition/common convention than than on law.” Now, police officers are trained to handle those cases.
Similarly, officers should be trained to deal with elder abuse cases.
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This matter of Eldercare AND ABUSE is multifaceted.
“…How many times you gine repeat that daddy?”
“…Granny I do not have your purse you must have misplaced it AGAIN…”
Caring for the elderly is fraught with problems which, for the faint of heart, can be frustrating AND OVERWHELMING even for loving family Donna and Mr. Vincent Codrington.
Not everyone has the disposition that can overlook the challenges which come with that care!
“I love you mum” but every morning I wake up you accuse me of stealing your purse CAN WEAR YOU DOWN AFTER YEARS!
And few here know what it is like when “a nice ole lady” says that their daughter is a thief in a cool calm voice!
Having said that 60% OF THE OFFICERS OF THE BARBADOS POLICE FORCE are Stoopid as RH!
You risk your life sharing anything in confidence with them.
Furthermore their reasoning skills are not much more advanced than the proverbial monkey handling gun, so commencing a discrete investigation IS NOT A REASONING SKILL of the Royal Baygon Police Force.
It would be better to ask them which plastic bags are better to use when tying them over the heads of their victims during normal questioning
Cynthia Forde (and her predecessor Pastor David Durant) are waste foops but, fortunately, all of these people, IF THEY LIVE LONG ENOUGH, gine get old and they will experience the reality of ageing first hand.
Artaxerxes has provided us all with 8 year old legislation and provision THAT SHOWS THE LIP SERVICE BEING PLAYED BY ALL THESE AGENCIES AND OFFICIALS
The fact is not only WHO WILL BELL THE CAT but, more importantly , AFTER WE BELL THE CAT, WHO GINE RH FEED IT!
And that readers is the real issue here.
When the requisite agencies go in and sort out the matter of people stealing the elderly party’s pension or falsifying the will, or the many real disturbing things they do, WHAT THEN?
And de ole man answers and repeats what I said on the other blog with this same topic, UNLESS ONE CREATES A SYMBIOTIC CARE MECHANISM FOR THE ELDERLY which, notwithstanding the vagaries of old age, health problems like alzheimers and dementia, can assist in structured caregiving, WE GINE GOTS PROBLEMS!
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Your note early this morning reinforces the idea that we have bells and whistles in place (or we thought of installing hem).
We need to move beyond having words on paper or just having warms bodies in position, but these placeholders do not complete their assigned jobs job.Hence my frequent ” bells and whistles toy train” reference.
I have not used the word failed, but I used the word failing.
I also believe that life in Barbados could be very sweet if institutions function properly, if the laws are applied evenly, if average Bajan including politicians fight corruption, if leaders sees their jobs as nation building and not just an opportunity to get rich quickly ….
We need to think as a nation and not as a B or D.
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@Piece “The fact is not only WHO WILL BELL THE CAT but, more importantly , AFTER WE BELL THE CAT, WHO GINE RH FEED IT! And that readers is the real issue here.When the requisite agencies go in and sort out the matter of people stealing the elderly party’s pension or falsifying the will, or the many real disturbing things they do, WHAT THEN? And de ole man answers and repeats what I said on the other blog with this same topic, UNLESS ONE CREATES A SYMBIOTIC CARE MECHANISM FOR THE ELDERLY which, notwithstanding the vagaries of old age, health problems like alzheimers and dementia, can assist in structured caregiving, WE GINE GOTS PROBLEMS!”
I rarely agree with Piece, but he has hit the nail on the head. Some of us at home and abroad seem to think that elders should be taken care of by the local MP, or that elders will be taken care of by more laws.
But the truth is elders are taken care of [OR NOT} by the loving hands of their own daughters and sons, or by the loving hands of OTHER PEOPLE’S daughters and sons.
There is NO OTHER WAY.
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We do not care about old people in Barbados. Visit the QEH and observe the old people left there by relatives.
Visit the NIS and talk to the right people to learn about the pensions being redirected from those intended.
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@Baje February 21, 2020 10:17 PM “YOU ARE A NASTY VILE DISHONEST OLD BITTER WOMAN.NOT EVERYONE LIVES IN THE BUBBLE IN YOUR HEAD.”
Ya can cuss me as much as ya feel like. Who cares? i repeat my question to you “Baje are you looking after your elders who still live in Barbados? And if not you, then who?”
I hope that you are not being misled by the know-it-all Bajan abroad and expects that the local MP will do it for you?
I guarantee you that the local MP of your elders cannot WILL NOT look after your elders for you.
And looka, you owe me rent for the space you occupy in my head. I notify you now that I am a NASTY VILE DISHONEST OLD BITTER landlady.
Pay or leave.
Lolll!!!
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I am not taking the word of an anonymous stranger, or of Hal who is 4,000 miles away, or of Baje who is likely thousands of miles away also over the words and actions of professional police and social workers. I am also not taking the word of an anonymous stranger who seems not to know the old man very well, but who claims “concern” and who seems to have an undue interest in whether or not he can leave his home with money. From what I can see of the old man he seems healthy, well nourished, well dressed, and he firmly refuses the woman’s coached offer to say something (likely negatively aout the family who keeps him well nourished, well dresses etc?
As for the Natalie Critchlow matter, the British government has a High Commission located at Collymore Rock, one of their major jobs is to ensure the welfare British subjects abroad. The High Commission has staff can refer questions about the deaths of British subjects to other British government agencies, including coroners and the police. I am sure that the High Commissioner, speaking for the British government can also ask questions of Barbadian officials and follow up to resolution.
Why do you think that the British High Commission has not done this?
Why do yo think that this issue has only been pursued by a few foreign based Bajan conspiracy theorists?
Man some ‘o wunna does wake up every blessed day looking for something bad to say about Barbados and Bajans.
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@ David Bu at 1:21 PM
Those are the exceptions that do not prove the rule. We expect the GoB agencies to deal with the exceptions. It is unfair to paint the other 98% with the same tar brush.
There was a time within our living memory when each parish had an Alms House.. With economic prosperity since the mid 1950’s.they are reduced to three. In an aging population perhaps we need to increase these again. We have to be dynamic. -
I am not taking the word of an anonymous stranger, or of Hal who is 4,000 miles away…..??????????
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@Piece the Legend February 22, 2020 7:06 AM “And few here know what it is like when “a nice ole lady” says that their daughter is a thief in a cool calm voice!”
Piece i am beginning to wonder if you are not a “nurse” like me. I have heard nice old people accuse their loving children over and over again. I has happened to me too. Those of us who have provided hands-on care sometimes for more than a decade at a time know what it is truly like.
I remember an old labourer who was receiving the basic old age pension, at that time about $350 per month who would harangue his children if they were late in binging his pension cheque. He thought that they were trying to steal his money. In the meanwhile his loving children had got together and were paying the nursing home $1,350 for his care. He had moderately severe dementia, and was incapable of making the connection between his $350 per month and the $1,350 + diapers, bed pads, and whatever extra goodies he desired that his good loving children were paying for his upkeep.
So if he was late in receiving the pension cheque directly in his hand it was because in his demented mind his children were “thieves”
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@Vincent
Let us disagree. There is a trend. A disturbing trend.
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David,
There is a disturbing trend for many reasons – an aging society, women in the workforce, declining respect for our elders and some breakdown in the family. It must be tackled but I don’t see it as occurring at alarming rates. Piece’s earlier suggestions are indeed worthy of serious consideration.
But…….ladies and gentlemen, we are gathered here today to bash Barbadians and Barbados not to improve it.
We know that despite all evidence to the contrary, Barbados will be presented as the only country in the world where politicians are corrupt, the rich exploit the poor, white men rule the roost, elders are abused without state intervention, education is failing, justice is for the poor etc etc etc.
I’ll tell you what ails Barbados and it is not the Bajan condition. It is the human condition! Nobody says we should accept it but as long as humans are involved there will always be a fight for rights, resources, power and justice.
That’s just the way it is.
EVERYWHERE!
Let us keep on fighting! (avoiding violence like the plague, of course)
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“Justice is for the poor” should have read that the justice system only captures the poor.
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Piece,
When a person has been truly loved by a mother, though it is hard to hear the accusations of theft, they deal with it. They know that their real mother would not say that. My mother and I are not close but I would put up with it if I had to. From young adulthood she entrusted me with her affairs and I do the same with her. If now she accuses me of theft I would know it is not my mother speaking. As long as visitors found her well taken care of I wouldn’t give a rat’s botsy what anybody said behind my back. I would keep perfect records of her income and expenditure ready for any investigation.
My son does not steal from me now. I entrust him with my ATM cards and send him to pay bills and make purchases. Let me go now and enlighten him on the symptoms of dementia and how to deal with them. It’s never too early.
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“Man some ‘o wunna does wake up every blessed day looking for something bad to say about Barbados and Bajans.”
@ Simple Simon
“Well said.”
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@ Donna
These issues affecting the elderly in Barbados are not new. But we prefer to talk about policies written in “white, blue, green, yellow papers” and a national policy on ageing.
Let me give you a few examples of what happens to the elderly in Barbados. There are some elderly people who are not visited by their children or relatives. A neighbour or concerned citizen may refer them to the NAB or Welfare Department. That individual may be in need of care and house repairs, or even a house. The NAB will provide home care and refer them to the UDC or RDC for a house or hose repairs.
One or two things happen here. First, the only person that elderly lady or gentleman sees on a daily basis, is the home helper. Provisions are made to take them to the hospital, clinic, etc.
When that person dies, Tudor’s Funeral Home, through the Welfare Department, have to bury them. All of a sudden a child, sister, brother, friend….. ‘comes out of the woodwork,” looking to claim the house or any money left. I know of cases where relatives of the deceased rented out the UDC or RDC houses as their own. And, they are prepared to fight when the agencies return for them.
In other cases, as soon as UDC or RDC given them a house or repair the existing one, these wicked relatives abandon the elderly at the hospital to take over the homes.
Secondly, an elderly male or female may be placed in a government institution. The children’s visits usually stops, when the pension stops. Some of these people die of broken hearts.
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With the explosion of the built up housing areas there is a view this would have acerbated the matter under discussion .
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isn’t it amazing that LOVE and WORK are both 4 letter words.
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Artax,
I know of such cases but I know of far more cases where the parents are being cared for in a loving manner. I am part of a community. I see it daily, people going to visit their parents daily, taking them to the doctor, picking up their medication, taking them meals because they don’t want them lighting a stove. I see them moving back in with their parents because the parent refuses to move in with them. I see unmarried sons and daughters moving back in with their parents. I see people covering for people at work early in the morning because they know that “de man does got to bathe he muddah an’ he faddah an’ mek breakfast an’ lunch fuh dem befo’ he come work”. And I see some people faltering under the weight but struggling on because “wuh dah is my mudda”.
Sometimes what happens is that the child who has contributed little to the upkeep and care of the parents wants to benefit from any property left and that can cause confusion.
Of course it is nothing new but I think the incidences of elder abuse may be rising. We must tackle it.






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