what do you expect from a sub-standard newspaper, and its editors, who are obviously trying to emulate “the american scandal hype”

I believe the stipulation to privacy only applies in cases of sexual assualt and minors…not regular assualt (I could be wrong). Technically and “legally” they are not wrong.

However, in the case of lack of good judgment and discernment, they are indeed guilty…as they have been repeatedly over the years and moreso in recent times.

Very, very disturbing….all women should be appalled at this lack of sensitivity. And to think that one of ‘us’ heads The Nation. Perhaps the thought should come through The Chief’s mind and more so the mind of who wrote it, and more so who approved the story to be published: “What if that was me? Or a member of my family?” Or is it that in the interest of selling newspapers, emotions are to be completely forgotten!

I am truly saddened by this and pray that the victim and her family do not suffer any further horror from the society at large – a society that unfortunately seems also to have lost a lot of its own respect. David…I am glad you have brought this to the attention of readers of BU and I hope that somehow, if this news reaches the bodies (do we have a regulatory body for the media?) that should (remember I said should!) be aware of what is being printed in our local newspapers, something is done to instil that this type of journalism is totally OUTTA ORDER!!!

@Rosemary

Indeed – a big thanks to Charles for showing the sensitivity to bring it to the fore. It seems we live in times where respect for humankind has been relegated.

@robert and BAFBFP

Couldn’t locate it online.

The NATION alias the “Dirty Rag has shown once again how low it can go.

@EJD: “rEALITY IS A bITCH

.hguoht ti t’nsI

I’ve been trying to find the offending article. Cannot so far. It was, if it ever existed, on March 6th. Wonder why no one commented before and why someone sought to bring it to BU’s notice nearly a month after it was published, if it was published, and didn’t make any waves. Before pillorying the Nation again shouldn’t we at least get the context and at least the original article(s) posted?

@BU.David: “The article is not onlone(sic) but it was published as stated by Charles. Will try to get a scan.

Gosh… Anything like the Barbados Official Gazette?

Thanks to BU I now know what the woman look like … Pot calling kettle what again ..?

@David

quite recently i had to call the nation about an article it had printed and there was agreement that it was insensitive to have printed it the way it was done. If action was taken as regards what was printed the nation would have contibuted to the consequences of what action that was taken against the individual.

“Did the mother not forfeit her claims to privacy by reporting the alleged incident to the police? Think on these things…

@ALTH…..it is people like you who allow child molesters and abusers to walk about with impunity.

The editor of the nation may have had a laugh at this woman’s situation what she doesn’t realize is that she has openly contributed to the further disrespect of women in this society.

island gAL, WOMEN MORE THAN ANUONE ELSE CONTRIBUTE TO THEIR OWN DISRESPECT, SEE THEM NO DISTINCTION BETWEEN THE UPPER, MIDDLE AND LOWER CLASSES IN THE CROP OVER BANDS EXHIBITING THE LEWDEST OF BEHAVIOUR AS THEY WIND THEIR WAY TO SPRING GARDEN OR FEATURED IN THE NEWSPAPERS IN THE CALYSO TENTS WITH BROAD GRINS ON THEIR FACES SUCKING IN THE SMUT THE THE CALYSONIANS THROW AT THEM.

Was the story worth reporting in a National newspaper?

The woman was firstly abused (slapped) by her former boyfriend who also damaged her and her CHILDREN’s clothes and she then had to suffer the humiliation of the court case being published with a salacious detail in the Nation.

Do the people who wrote and edited the story for the Nation have mothers, sisters or daughters ?

Nation News …..you are too graphic. Was there no editor-in chief to spot this wrong ? I strongly believe this to be a blunder on someone’s part…too much incriminating details man

@ Nia…Here here.Yours is a submission that to my mind is right on point.Ours is a society where commerce has replaced Christ in Christmas,so we must not be surprised that it is all about the ALMIGHTY DOLLAR.If we want to make a real statement we need to hit the Nation where it hurts. The bottom line.Let the news rag stand pun de news stand.The folk in England good at that.How about Little Britain?

David since it seems that the Nation has removed the story form its website how does it help for you to hunt it down and publish it on BU.

As for the story about the 80 year old Christian virgin who was raped. There is everything wrong with rape, but there is nothing at all wrong with being an 80 year old Christian virgin. It is unusual, but not wrong. The rapist should be ashamed of himself and he should be punished severely.

There is also nothing at all wrong with owning and using a dildo. However there is everything wrong with destroying the personal items of others. The destroyer should be ashamed and he should be punished.

We need to take the shame offa the victims and place it squarely on the sex offenders.

Balance….you want to get me vex OK then ….THIS WAS ABOUT A WOMAN AND HER CHILDREN WHO WERE ABUSED BY A MAN AND THE NATION NEWSPAPER you nincompoop! What women choose to do in public during crop over is of their own choice. Would you like someone to go and report on your short comings in your bedroom to the world?

Dear Just Asking:

We don’t know what is a dildo.

@JUST ASKING | April 16, 2012 at 10:19 PM |

u are too retarded for ur own good…it is an item similar to the one you or ur spouse do not have and if u have, it is unuseable

Just Asking

The opposite of dildo is dildon’t … go figure

Sarge LOLL you killing me here with some laffs.

Just Asking please ask Balance to give you a demo!

Or BAFFY

Here is another classic from the Nation newspaper:

President of the Bar Association, Andrew Pilgrim, said he believed the lack of interest in the Kingsland Case was probably because it had dragged on for too long.
“People have been hearing about this for nearly 15 years and maybe they’re a bit tired. And some may be looking forward to the Myrie case and so on,” he told the DAILY NATION.
However, Pilgrim added, it was a pity that younger lawyers had not shown interest. “Even when you’re not involved in cases, you should listen but younger lawyers don’t think of that as a way to learn. This is one of the best ways to learn,” he advised.
http://www.nationnews.com/articles/view/a-first-for-ccj/

The Marjorie Knox v John Deane et al is the first matter which the CCJ presided yesterday. Of course the reason why this case is not familiar to Barbadians is because the traditional media led by the Nation Newspaper placed an embargo on it.

The causes of domestic violence include deeply held beliefs about masculinity. Men who abuse members of their family also tend to blame other people, alcohol or circumstances for their violent outbursts.

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Domestic violence is an under-reported crime, so it is difficult for agencies to keep accurate statistics. However, the perpetrators of this crime are usually men and the victims are usually women and children. Researchers believe that around one in four Australian women will experience domestic violence at some time in their life.

Although domestic violence can affect anyone, regardless of their socioeconomic status or their racial and cultural background, women who are young, Indigenous, have a disability, or who live in rural areas are at greater risk.

Common factors
There is no such thing as a ‘typical’ perpetrator of domestic violence. However, researchers have found that men who abuse family members often:
Use violence and emotional abuse to control their families.
Believe that they have the right to behave in whatever way they choose while in their own home.
Think that a ‘real’ man should be tough, powerful and the head of the household. They may believe that they should make most of the decisions, including about how money is spent.
Believe that men are entitled to sex from their partners.
Don’t take responsibility for their behaviour and prefer to think that loved ones or circumstances provoked their behaviour.
Make excuses for their violence: for example, they will blame alcohol or stress.
Report ‘losing control’ when angry around their families, but can control their anger around other people. They don’t tend to use violence in other situations: for example, around friends, bosses, work colleagues or the police.
Try to minimise, blame others for, justify or deny their use of violence, or the impact of their violence towards women and children.
Some men who use violence have grown up in an abusive household themselves, but the majority have not. Some come from lower socioeconomic groups and some have problems with alcohol. However, this is not the case for all men who use domestic violence.

The alcohol myth
It is commonly assumed that domestic violence is caused by alcohol abuse. This isn’t true. The perpetrator is sober in about half of domestic violence cases where the police are called. Also, not all alcoholics or binge drinkers resort to violence when angered or frustrated.

It is how the perpetrator sees himself and his rights that lead to the violence. If a man abuses his family and also tends to have difficulty with controlling his alcohol consumption, he needs to recognise that he has two separate problems.

Men resist seeking help
Research suggests that while some men who are violent may think about getting help, the majority of them don’t. Some of the reasons men do not seek out help include:
Acceptance of violence – a man who thinks that he is entitled to dominate family members, and that it is okay to solve problems with violence, may not believe that he needs help. He may blame the victim for ‘provoking’ his behaviour.
Notions of masculinity – the idea of what it means to be a man, for many men, includes silence and strength. A man may avoid seeking help because he doesn’t want to look ‘weak’ or feminine.
Ignorance – about half of the men who get help or counselling for their violent behaviour report that they had tried unsuccessfully in the past to find help but didn’t know where to go.
Fear – most men who don’t seek help report that feeling ashamed stops them from seeking help.
Getting help
Regular counselling with a trained counsellor can help men who use violence towards family members to understand and change their behaviour. Counselling and behaviour-change programs focus on examining and addressing the man’s deeply held beliefs about violence, masculinity, control of others, the impact of their use of violence towards others, self-control and responsibility for one’s actions.

The man is encouraged to examine his motivations for the violence and is taught practical strategies, including:
Learning that violence and abuse is not caused by anger, but the desire to hurt or dominate others
Learning how violent behaviour damages his relationship with his partner and children, and how he can behave in more respectful ways
Self-talk and time out – the man is taught how to recognise individual signs of anger, and how to use strategies like self-talk and time out. A man can use self-talk messages, such as ‘Anger will not solve this problem’, to remind himself to remain calm. A trained counsellor can help a man find his own effective self-talk messages. Time out means walking away from the situation until the man feels calmer. Time out must be discussed with the man’s partner so that both parties understand how and why to use it. However, time out is not an avoidance technique and the man must try and work out the problem at a later opportunity.
It will take time
Women and children who live with violent men live in a constant state of anxiety and fear. A man who is undergoing counselling for his violent behaviour needs to recognise that regaining the trust of his family, and the behaviour-change process, will take time. He also needs to accept that his partner has a right to end the relationship if she wishes.

Where to get help
In an emergency:
Call the police in an emergency. Dial triple zero. Tel. 000
For men:
Men’s Referral Service Tel. (03) 9428 2899 or 1800 065 973 (free call within Victoria) – a confidential and anonymous telephone service for men who want to stop their violent or abusive behaviour towards family members, 9am to 9pm Monday to Friday
For women:
Women’s Domestic Violence Crisis Service (WDVCS) is the Victorian statewide service for women experiencing violence and abuse from a partner or ex-partner, another family member or someone else close to them. Crisis Line Tel. (03) 9322 3555 or 1800 015 188 (24 hours)
To find out about local support services, contact the Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria Tel. (03) 9486 9866 – 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday
National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service (Australia) Tel. 1800 737 732 – free telephone counselling hotline (24 hours, 7 days)
1800RESPECT – for real-time online counselling
Things to remember
The causes of domestic violence include deeply held beliefs about masculinity.
Men who abuse loved ones tend to blame other people, alcohol or circumstances for their violent outbursts.
Men often minimise, blame others, justify or deny their use of violence or the impact of their violence towards women and children.
A man who is undergoing counselling for his violent behaviour needs to recognise that regaining the trust of his family will take time, and that his partner has the right to end the relationship if she chooses to.