Submitted by Terence Blackett

In George Lamming’s debut novel – In the Castle of My Skin (1953), this famous Bajan son of the soil describe the psychic scars of racism in direct and powerful terms. In The Castle of My Skin he wrote, “No Black boy wanted to be white, but it was also true that no Black boy liked the idea of being Black. Brown skin was a satisfactory compromise, and Brown skin meant a mixture of white and Black… There was a famous family on the island which could boast of the prettiest daughters. Their father was an old Scottish planter who had lived from time to time with some of the labourers on the sugar estate. The daughters were ravishing, and one was known throughout the island as the crystal sugar cake.”

Grantley Adams, a British educated lawyer – who later rose to political prominence as the first Black Prime Minister of Barbados – had an English wife.  ‘At that time’ Neville recalled, she was a member of the Aquatic Club in Bay Street and Grantley was not a member, he was a Black man, he wasn’t a member, but she… had that privilege as a white woman to be a member of the Aquatic. And Grantley would carry her to the Aquatic Club, drop her there and turnaround and come back down the road [laughs]. Tell me when you’re ready and I’ll come back and pick you up when you ready to go… He dropped her there. That is your thing. You belong to that club. I’ll put you there, you come back when you’re ready to come, call me and I’ll come back and pick you up.’

It is now 177 years since the Wilberforce Abolition Act of 1833; 147 years since the American Emancipation Proclamation of 1863 and the 44th years of Barbados’ Independence from British rule and sovereignty since 1966.

A whole new generation has grown up across the geographical, geopolitical divide where overt acts of racism are outlawed and where the geo-spatial markers of segregation are now less obviously recognizable.

In Rajen Persaud’s book, ‘Why Black Men Love White Women: Going Beyond Sexual Politics to the Heart of the Matter’ is a fascinatingly funny, yet illuminating discourse on this critical issue of interracial dating and the identity politics which challenges our notions of “RACE” and it effects on the Black psyche today. We are forced to look at ourselves and our cultural intonations pondering matters of how celebrities from Michael Jordan to Bryant Gumbel to Tiger Woods – high-profile interracial affairs and marriages with no shortage of theatre, intrigue and controversy has played upon us as men. We must ask: Are Black men choosing white women – or rejecting Black women because of SEX? Does the issue of “Race” affect how white male insecurity is the key and at the heart of our understanding of structural as well as institutional racism? Is it more than love that brings interracial couples together? How is fear used to gain power, from sexual politics to global war? And finally, how movies and television keep Black men running to white women through the cultural machinations of the media?

Susan Crain Bakos in a NYPress article – ‘A White Woman Explains Why She Prefers Black Men’… begs the question: “How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her” all at the same time? She forcefully opines, “Black skin is thick and lush, sensuous to the touch, like satin and velvet made flesh. There’s only one patch of skin on a white man’s body that remotely compares to nearly every inch of a Black man’s skin. The first time I caressed Black skin, it felt like a luxury I shouldn’t be able to afford. I craved it more strongly than Carrie Bradshaw craved Manolo Blahnik shoes. That phrase, “Once you go Black, you never go back” is all about the feeling of the skin.”

She further contends that “I want Black men. They want me. We look at one another and exchange a visible frisson of sexual energy in the lingering glances. And our attraction is based first on race… that deliberate seeking of the specific other makes some people, especially Black women, damned mad… We are what they denigrate and castigate: white women and Black men who choose one another because of our racial differences. They resent our taking their men. Black men are two and a half times more likely to marry a white woman than a Black woman is to marry a white man. Black women can point to that statistic in justifying their wrath. But in truth, Black sisters, we’re after the sex, not the ring and these guys aren’t the marrying kind anyway. Yes, the sex!”

Moving beyond the gamut of romantic politics for a moment – what about the notional value of the education of the Black male or in this case, the re-education? In the United States, Black students account for 17% of public school students nationwide, but represent only 6% of the teachers. Black colleges enrol a paltry 16% of Black students, but they produce a mere 37% who since the 1954 Brown vs. Topeka decision to integrate schools has seen a 66% decline in Black teachers.

Black male teachers constitute only 1% of the teaching population.  There are schools without one Black male academic teacher.  They are employed as custodians, security guards and Physical Education teachers.  Often, schools will hire a Black male to be an Assistant Head teacher which translates into being in charge of all male behavioural problems. So what really has happened to Black teachers in the American school system? This is a poignant question for all those who are researching the “HIP HOP Generation” and observing the smashing of cultural barriers.

On the other hand, the turnover of white female staff in the inner city schools system was 40% within a five year period. Is it practical to expect someone who has never lived in the Black community, attended a rural college, nor did their student teaching in that region, took few if any courses on Black history, culture, psychology, family, learning styles, Ebonics, etc. to be truly effective? Can one subsume then that gender, race and romantic politics is an epiphenomenon of late 20th and early 21st century construction emboldened and engendered by stereotypical portrayals of the white woman as both an object of sexual fantasy as well as a psychic mentor – now glamorized in HIP HOP music as an attainable fashion accessory? However for this luminous discourse, I turn to Lacanian psychoanalysis and, in particular, to Lacan’s contentious claim that “There is no such thing as a sexual relationship” – through an explication of Lacan’s position on love, I conclude that love not only has a place within racial pedagogy but is necessary for it as the boundaries of race and sexuality morph into a supposed cogent whole.

Some continue to argue vehemently that the continuum line of social and interracial interactions amongst Black & non-Black individuals that were curious about or harbouring a belief in a racist stereotype related to Black sexuality centres squarely on the mythology of the Black penis and the anthropomorphosis of the Black male as a savage, virile beast of a lover – hence the mythology of beauty and the beast.

Sadly, many white Caucasoid women who are taking advantage of these curiosities only serve to promote and perpetuate a form of covert reverse racism which posits a form of pseudo power to the Black male and denies the white female any real lasting psychic wholeness. But more importantly, these metamorphosed interracial interactions make it clear that race, or more accurately racism, often plays a role in the formation and promulgation of such interracial romantic relationships.

John Johnson, the author of “It Ain’t All Good: Why Black Men Should Not Date White  Women” states that the removal of Black men from the Black dating pool may not make race relations worse, but it does contribute to male scarcity problems already present in the Black community. Johnson believes there is a ridiculously large and growing disparity in the number of Black men and women in the US population. According to the 2000 U.S. Census, there are 1.7 million more Black women in the country than Black men. And if you account for incarceration rates, the numbers approach 2.7 million more Black women in the American Black population. Without question, the absence of Black men from the Black population creates its own collection of problems; particularly for Black women who face heightened levels of competition for mates and are often forced into dissatisfying relationship compromises. The siphoning of Black men out of the Black dating pool and into the interracial romantic marketplace only serves to make these existing problems worse. Meanwhile, Black men are cohabitating with non-Black women at close to 4 times the rate of Black female interracial cohabitation and they are interracially marrying at 2.5 times the Black female rate.

Isn’t it possible that the sexual mythology surrounding Black men and the constant celebration of the beauty of white women in the media are combining to create a disturbing, albeit common, racist romantic combination in this new multicultural romantic marketplace? Does a combination of Black female independence and the tormenting history of white male rape prevent Black women from seriously considering, or being considered for, interracial romance? I would think that these and many other questions would need to be considered before we create an environment for individuals to satisfy their interracial fantasies or even pursue “genuine” interracial romantic partnerships?

An article in National Review stated that when compared to white men, white women were 10 times more likely to report that their most recent sexual partner was Black – white women are also more likely to cohabitate with Black men more than any other non-white male group, which may not seem especially disturbing given the size of the Black population in the United States. Research is also looking at European trends. However, when you consider the fact that white women are more likely to marry a Bi/Multiracial man than they are a Black man, even though there are 4 times as many Black men in the population, one might begin to consider the possible influence of racism on romantic partner selection.

What is the logic behind a Black man intentionally seeking out a non-Black romantic partner, especially when you consider that more than 98% of the 55 million married couples in America for example involve individuals of the same race? What is the reasoning for a white woman seeking out Black men to date when in most interracial environments there are far more white men than Black men? Shouldn’t this race-specific romantic preference, at the very least, be questioned as an observable phenomenon?

Whatever the sexual politics is in the bedroom, boardroom or classroom – we recognize that the debate on “race” will continue to take center stage and will be a point of ongoing controversy and contestation across the ideological spectrum.

In the end, whatever the conclusion the racial map must be redrawn!

287 responses to “Black Men In The Hands Of White Women: The Mythology Of Interracial Dating, Covert Reverse Racism And the Re-Education Of The Black Race”


  1. Black Barbadians can now pass through Strathclyde or Belleville because those neighborhoods are no longer White people populated.Those neighborhoods are now a mixture of poor Whites,Blacks and Indians.Can Black Barbadians now freely pass through Sandy Lane Estate,Millenium Heights or some of the other gated communities in Barbados.? Twisted bullshit from the highly intelligent,highly educated,doctors & scholars who post comments on this blog.

    It seems that each & every Black person who has some degree of European ancestry in their bloodline is extremely proud and feel honour to have the poisonous,stinking,disease carrying blood of the European rapists of our fore-parents in their genes.I am not of that ilk..I have no control over the raping of my fore-parents by the killing,stinking,disease carrying European slave owners.However,I have control over where my penis will go and who I wanted to be the mother of my children.I choose a beautiful,full bosom Black Barbadian lady to be the mother of my child.I wanted my child to have a colour & physical characteristics as close as possible to me his father & his mother.I am very proud to say that my son is a real,strong young Black man that no one can ever mistaken to be a member of other ethnic group.Can Yardbroom say the same for his mixed up half-caste mutant children who really do not have any real ethnic group to identify with.

    The twisted logic of the educated ones of this blog can never convinced this Negroman that race mixing is good.The mixing of the genes of Black African people & other ethnic groups have produced a number of misfits that categorised themselves as Blacks and have created a lot of confusion within the Black African race that has resulted in the Black African being in the confused state it is in today.

    We have mutants like David Thompson,David Comissiong,Esther Byer-Suckoo & others who have considered themselves to be Black and as a result have caused and are casing real problems for real Black People.

    Cleansing of the African Black race needs to occur & the half-caste Blacks who are detrimental to the race need to expelled & eliminated

  2. Georgie Porgie Avatar
    Georgie Porgie

    Negroman

    I have a proposal to suggest to you as a solution for your percieved problem.

    It is of course a very stupid and ridiculous proposal and solution.

    Let us gather up all Bajans who have and white blood in thier genes and cast them with weights attached to their bodies into the Careenage, or 5000 feet off Carlisle Bay.

    Then let us count the Bajans that are left Sir. Wuh you think.

    For a start all of dem pretty brown skinned and :high brown ” girls must go! But what a waste of blackness.

    I do sound crazy and ridiculous right?

    How do you think you sound Sir.


  3. Greetings to each & everyone,
    Jah Shaka – Live Dancehall Session*

    (*)=All Tribes Welcome

  4. JamminWhiteBoy Avatar
    JamminWhiteBoy

    NegroMan and crew still living in the past……get over it….racism will always be there…yuall just wanna live it………all those chips on ya shoulders must be heavy


  5. To ridicule Yardbroom after 50yrs of marriage to a person of his choice is ridiculous. Some things ought to be left alone. CONGRATULATIONS YARDBROOM hope you have 50 more years of weded bliss.

  6. Johnny Postle Avatar

    My girlfriend is a white German. We have a beautiful son from the union of our love. When we first met, it was not out of curiosity to ascertain what it would be like to be with white or black. We just simply clicked very well as good friends.

    Our relationship started during our studying years at Bristol University. I helped her with her thesis; she helped me during the many nights and days project deadlines nearly sent me crazy. We both had many other friends from many different nationalities where the majority were looking for love and a good time. In spite all the advances from the many guys who tried with her, as well as the many English girls and Portuguese who tried with me, we both felt a deep satisfying feeling when we were together. I think for her as well as myself, getting some was not a problem. But our friendship seemed to cause us not to want to go with others as the attractions in our hearts grew with every get together and outing. Even though we were not together yet, we felt the need to be respectable with each other since our many conversations culminated a deep respect and appreciation for each other.

    We were serious debaters -spending many days talking about our backgrounds, our respective countries and how much we wanted to finish our projects and get our degrees. We talked about scientific journals, debated over rather her area of expertise or mind could intertwine for us to write a paper together; we talked about why the offspring of mix relationships tend to be so beautiful with absolutely beautiful skin. We talk about any and everything and always with a clarity that we both understood. How then did we fall in love.

    It was during a time of sickness that we realise we were falling in love. I took very ill to which she slept in my room nursing me back to health. Never ever wanting to drive on the left side of the road, a night of very bad coughing and high fever made her take my car to Beagens and return unscathed. Then a few weeks later, she took quite ill, the severity of which resulted in her spending three days in the hospital. She was very weak. I slept in her room for the three days, helping her, talking to her, buying the prescribe medicine and paying part of the bill with my student money before her discharged. Her family appreciated this very much. They visited her repaying me all the money and could not believe the love and care I showed to their daughter, when we were not even involved. It was there during that time of sickness and a prompting from her mom that we were falling in love, that we confess our love for each other and have been together and still very much in love for the past eight years.

    What made us fall in love was not the curiosity to see the size of my ‘Mandingo’ or her ‘pink pearl’. We were drawn to each other base on compatibility. We simply got along very well and understood each other in spite of the vast differences in our culture and social upbringing. What impressed me about her was how quickly she got to know my likes, dislikes and various mood changes. And what impressed her about me was how gaw darn funny I was even when I was not making a joke. She liked the idea that I could fit into any situation with ease and even in tense, serious conversations, I seemed always to bring a feeling of fun and resolve to the situation. In essence she like the fact that I was a good conversationist.

    I say all of that to say this: the attraction in interracial relationships is not always about the size of the stick or the black man’s curiosity of what it would be like to go with a white woman. I know that this is the held notion but for us, it was not our notion. We both found out that we had alot in common. We also found out that we got along very well together. We also found out that if the time is given to get to know the real person by dedicating some time to study, understand and observe the person, you can know alot about what needs to be done to keep your relationship strong and alive.

    We have had our share of frictions and this comes about mainly from the differences in our culture. However, I must say that our frictions is the sweetest part of our relationship. We always dispute with hands being held or in a hug. Even now we still marvel at the fact that we can be having a friction and still kiss. From the beginning we did everything together and that still is even now.

    When we are in Germany, she meets her very close friends quite often. I am always ask to come along but I always decline because that is her girls night out. We both respect each others time for space which is not too often.

    There were many times we got the stare and disapproval look but that is to be expected. We had one single encounter of racism in Germany, during her pregnancy but other than that many Germans would just stare with curious eyes with many smiling at us. In Barbados, we have had many stares from both blacks and whites but the whites here look at us with disdain in their faces. I am glad that our living is earn through our real estate investments and that she does not have to work for anyone. This is because, and I stand to be corrected that caucausians living in Barbados would have sought to discourage her or persuade her to hook up with one of their own. I said this because she was approached by a white male in Sheraton. When she told the man she is waiting for her boyfriend who so happens to be black he said ” are you kidding, we do not get involve with blacks; they are no good. She scolded him and told him, she did not know because she is not Barbadian but German and that her black man is a real man without prejudice. When the story was relayed, only upon our return to Germany, she kissed me passionly and told me how wonderful and loving a man I am and how lucky she is to have met me.

    Now we have the most beautiful little boy imaginable: golden browish hair, dark brown beautiful eyes and a complexion that is breath taking. Her family absolutely loves me and cannot get enough of their grandchild. I have been totally accepted by her family as she is accepted by mind. Both sides of the family in the beginning stages were sceptical only because of the long distance, the thought of the first encounter and the language barrier. The only problem we have amidst the families now is the language barrier but most her family speak English, not too well but good enough to understand with a little interpretation from my love.

    With respect to the long distance, we too were not sure if it would work, as we both expressed our dissapproval of long distance relationships. But now we know that love transcends any obstacle, colour or race. We should not judge every situation with the same yard stick. Everyones experience will differ. We each have different motives for doing things and all are not always good or bad. Every situation, relationship or circumstance has its merits and demerits.

    We made it work though it was hard at times. Now we are back and forth between Germany and Barbados. She works for a huge company in Germany and I have sorted our back and forth problems by investing in real estate. I quit my job and now live off of my real estate investments. We both are doing quite fine and she is about to quit her big position to join me in Barbados for two years so we can finish our joint project. We are now building a house in Germany to further our real estate net and add further financial security to our humble start. The next step is marriage. We decided not to marry until we both were very sure. Our son has made us sure because we were not during the time of our long distance. Everything that we have done so far we have done it together and though some would say that it is big risk, we took the risk and now we are happy.

    I have found a wonderful woman and to me black and white is not the issue. The issue for us is never to stop loving each other the way we do and we both have pledge verbally and in our hearts to keep our love alive and renewed. She is white and I am black but we do not see it, only the non significant others.

    The Postle who is not always a Johnny


  7. @Jonny Postle

    Very genuine!


  8. @Johnny Postle and Yardbroom

    Thanks for sharing such wonderful stories, the BU household deeply appreciate it. Especially to Yardbroom, congrats to you on reaching such a significant milestone. May you live to celebrate many more.


  9. Johnny, I got to tell you that your post brought a tear to my eye. You have very eloquently debunked all the cliches and myths surrounding interracial relationships. It’s easy to see from some of the more negative posts that some people prefer to live in the past and spout old school shite about race. For them it requires less brainpower to simply repeat all those old cliches rather than see PEOPLE for what they are and not “colour” in everything in life. Love knows no colour.


  10. Anonymous wrote on // April 9, 2010 at 10:08 AM …@ Yardbroom…N.B…(This is not to be seen as a disrespectful comment but an observation/realisation)

    Believe me when I first began to read this blog I was very impressed by your words, wisdom and integrity .

    However, when I just read that you are married to someone white it disappointed and HURT ME (as a black woman) to the core!… …….. couldn’t you have found someone who was BLACK AND PROUD for instance like the Pats and Bonny peppas or even J who is really a mouthful but strong and independent.

    I must respectfully decline Anonymous’ offer to retroactively marry me off to Yardbroom. 50 years ago I was just a child and not of marriagable age. Besides good old YB is a mite too conservative for my taste. That said I wish him many more years of happy married life.


  11. There is a time and place for everything. Some people just don’t get it.


  12. J: Your “Hurt” is funny as hell. If you were to read a little about the chemistry of attraction and love, you would see that it has nothing to do with being Black and Proud or strong and independent.


  13. i am sorry that i cant leave an intelligent post to this rank stupidity that i have just read thru, negro man u need jesus , and all of u people balck, white or polk a dot who see color a indicative of a person’s humanity or lack thereof , should be definitely tied to big stones and thrown of batts rock …….. people like u negro man and the other idiots for BLACK women who talk about chosing “us” should never procreate,,,,,THAT ASS FIRST ATTITUDE IS EXACTLY WHY ONE WOULD CHOSE OUTSIDE HIS RACE…BUT i guess u all see that as being strong indepent black women …ass wipes thats what u all are, and a disgrace to MY RACE,

    congrats yard broom, dont mind dese donkeys


  14. @Islander
    To make a point . Is it necessary to call others name . It all adds up to the same level of disdain.


  15. Its nice to hear about you and your German wife. however, I had a friend named Victor who married a German wife and died under mysterious circumstances; we found out a couple months after his so called burial.

    His mother shed many tears and his wife refused to tell us how he died and at one point in time she claimed she didnt even know a Victor.


  16. Islander & Co. I refuse to be in a shouting or insulting contest with your crew!

    I said how I felt and if I offended the crew oh wellllll!

    I have never once thought of YB as less than a human being as mentioned before. I just questioned his choice; it is nice to see persons defending persons however, my stance remains that we the black race are spat on and hated by others. GP in previous blogs have proved this with his comments about seeming to gain a job and then when persons saw the color of his skin he was OWT of the race!

    I know that he would say that he bares no animosity towards them and in the same breath tell us that those persons felt the wrath of his GOD!

    I recently went to Cananda to stay with my husband whilst he studied for his masters. He was promised a scholarship. However, when they saw the color of his skin he got turned around like I don’t know IT WAS FRUSTRATING! I already have my degree in science and maths and showed my qualifications but could only be a telephone operator in order to support my husband and myself. I have neve rfelt racism before so it was a shock. How could people just hate me and my husband because fo the color of our skin.

    That is why I questioned YB because I know in his era it was worst than now! I just cannot imagine YB with smeone white thats allllll and if it works for him kudos to him and all those persons who have found there ‘soul mate’ with another ethnic person!

  17. Innocent Onlooker Avatar
    Innocent Onlooker

    Did Africans in the 14th century see themselves as black people? Did Europeans see themselves as white people?

    Race is colonial construct – an institution contrived for the purpose of subjugation when it was realized that “we can abuse them because they are not Christian” was not going to hold. Natives/Africans could change their faith, but not their appearance – hence race was born.

    When are we going to free ourselves from these colonial chains?

    We are only black or white because the slave master said so…


  18. Anonymous wrote on // April 9, 2010 at 10:08 AM …”@ Yardbroom…N.B…(This is not to be seen as a disrespectful comment but an observation/realisation) …Believe me when I first began to read this blog I was very impressed by your words, wisdom and integrity…However, when I just read that you are married to someone white it disappointed and HURT ME (as a black woman) to the core!… …….. couldn’t you have found someone who was BLACK AND PROUD for instance like the Pats and Bonny peppas or even J who is really a mouthful but strong and independent.”

    J responding to Anonymous’ quotation above writes: “I must respectfully decline Anonymous’ offer to retroactively marry me off to Yardbroom. 50 years ago I was just a child and not at all interested in marrying anybody. 50 years on I am not looking to marry anybody, black or white. Besides good old YB is a mite too conservative for my taste. That said I wish him many more years of happy married life. However please note that I am happy and feel Blessed just as I am.


  19. “Africa is the cradle of humanity. ”-Science Magazine (9/11/87).

    “Africans Have World’s Highest Genetic Diversity .” -Washington Post Friday, May 1, 2009 .

    “..white European people are less genetically diverse, carrying more harmful mutations, than the black Africans .” –Journal of Nature.

    “ The DNA of European-Americans appears to carry proportionately more harmful genetic changes than that of African-Americans, because they emerged from a smaller and less diverse population.” – Telegraph.
    “White Americans are both genetically weaker and less diverse than their black compatriots, a Cornell University-led study finds.” –Fox News 22/2/2008.

    A 1995 study showed that over 80% of humans with red hair or pale skin had a dysfunctional variant of the MC1R gene .

    Melanocortin 1 receptor (MC1R), is one of the key proteins involved in regulating skin and hair colour.
    Activation of MC1R causes the melanocyte to switch from generating the yellow or red phaeomelanin by default to the brown or black eumelanin .

    Redheads are known to have about a five times higher risk of melanoma (deadly form of skin cancer) than people with dark hair. People face a high risk of melanoma if they have fair skin, red hair, blue eyes, freckles, or a tendency to react to sun by burning rather than tanning.

    Oculocutaneous albinism type 2 is caused
    by a mutation of the OCA2 gene. Albinism is characterized by a lack of melanin pigment in the hair, eyes & skin.
    Blue eyes are caused by a mutation of the OCA2 gene. This mutation result in a reduction in melanin production in the iris, leading to blue eyes.


  20. In Negroman’s post of April 8, 2010 at 11:01 AM, he makes the statement:

    “I have a brother who was in a relationship with a White lady.”

    White lady? WHITE LADY??…from Negroman. I am not a psychiatrist, but I am having a field day with the psychological ramifications of that Freudian slip.

    Priceless.


  21. I share my story because I wish not to engage in meaningles debates over the yes or no to interracial relationships. Many of the negative posts are base on past and perceived neo colonalism ideals. My story is not your story, your story is not my story. Every story will be different. Some successful some a failure. Put aside the prejudice and let sound reasoning focus on the transforming power of L.O.V.E (Live, Overcome, Verify, Emerge)

    To black panther, your presentation of research information is intended to do what, justify that Africans are better genetically than white Europeans or Americans.? After you have proven this than what. Are you solving the racial divide or increasing the rift even deeper?

    Can you convince Africans/ West Indians to emerge from their positions of ignorance and mental enslavement to take their rightful place at the seat of progressive intelligence. Can you convince them that since Africa is the cradle of civilisation why are all other races ahead of us and we (blacks) perceived as the weaker of all others. Can you ask all blacks to unite for their own economic cause. If you can answer these questions please enlighten me but do not go down the excuse road of what the whites have done to us. We need to show the whites or any other race how powerful we are intellectually, instead of displaying our ever evolving ignorance. So I ask, what are you hoping to acheive by presenting these so called research facts. I am not interested in rather the skin of whites wrinkle long before mine or not, or if their eyes, hair or nose is a mutation caused by a ‘renegade’ gene That has nothing to do with love.

    To anyonymous, I am not interested in rather a German woman killed her husband or not. I think that your story is fictatious and in your resent of interracial relationships you have conjure up a nice piece of xenophopic discourse. I will forward what you post to my love so she may plan my demise and, at the same time, have a real good laugh. If you think that our end would result in her taking away everything we have built, let me set your mind at ease by stating we have agreed in writing, between the witnesses representing both families legally, that our son or any other child we should have there after, is to inherit the majority of what we have worked long and hard for. The minority will be divided between the two families. But both families stated that though they respect our wishes they are not getting any younger and our son or any other child will inherit our work. They will just be facilitators for the sake of the child(ren) should anything happen to us at an early age.

    I do not intend to set anyones mind at ease by presenting my situation but I think that interracial relationships cannot be always painted with a big -ulterior- motive- big brush. A balance should be struck because as I have said before, there are success stories and bitter stories of failure. But is this not the same for all types of relationships?

    The Postle who like at times to be a Johnny


  22. GOOD !!!

    @ anonymous

    I am happy i prickled some feathers in here with my name calling (apologies @ ac ) but a salmon tot retriever, a common breed dawg, and a canine lacking any consequential breeding is still the same thing, I say that to point out this ; When u call someone white trash, honkey, dem white people , or like negroman really really reeeaaaally get into deep seated insulting of any race outside black it is the same thing as if u said it nicely.

    The thing that really hurts me about our people is that we cannot throw off these colonial constructs of race, and half breed like mulatto and dougla or eckie beckie, do i have to point out why these phrases were invented in the first place ? or what place they serve in society to keep people separated and subjugated ? do i have to really talk u very intelligent and well read people about the reasoning behind divide and conquer ?

    When I come on this blog i see tag names, like ac, J, GP, BU, anon etc, and u know what ?there is no feature on my computer which points out who is a black person, a white person, an indian or even a robot for that matter, thus my opinion of negroman as an idiot is not because i think he is black or white , it is from the verbal diarrhea that he spouts daily, or that i can see ac is an intelligent and very sensitive lady who i tend to tip toe around ? or that GP is actually a fair consistent human being who is open to discussion on anything although he is already cemented in his beliefs ! why judge ? because we were judged ? because our people were raped and pillaged 350 years ago ? are we alone ? wasnt the american indian ravaged into near extinction ? didnt 6 million jews get slaughtered in world war 2 ? did some indigenous tribes of asia get slaughtered into extinction ? dont get me wrong ..I NEVER SAID FORGET ! for that is the prerequisite for these things to re occur

    ALL I AM SAYING IS THIS :

    IT IS WORST FOR A BLACK PERSON OR ANY RACE OF HUMAN BEING WHOSE PEOPLE AND THEMSELVES HAVE SUFFERED AT THE HANDS OF IGNORANCE AND RACISM TO ACTUALLY PERPETUATE IT ON ANOTHER HUMAN AS THEY KNOW THE HURT AND WRATH THAT THIS BEHAVIOR INCITES WITH THEIR HEART, THE PAIN THAT IT INVOKES, IT BORDERS ON GROSS STUPIDITY, AND FOR THOSE WHO CLAIM GOD, ITS IS UNCHRISTAINLIKE (lolol, tell that to the crusaders right ?)


  23. It is now 177 years since the Wilberforce Abolition Act of 1833; 147 years since the American Emancipation Proclamation of 1863 and the 44th years of Barbados’ Independence from British rule and sovereignty since 1966.
    ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

    It was then 148 years before Wilberforce’s Abolition Act of 1833; 180 years before the American Emancipation Proclamation of 1863 and 282 years before Barbados’ Independence from British rule and sovereignty in 1966.

    The year was 1685 and the day was 4th December when in the Parish Register of St. Michael the marriage of Peter Perkins, a negro to Jane Long, a white woman was recorded!!

    Ask for RL1 Page 333 at the Archives.

    The relationship between a man and a woman has never been governed by any Act or Proclamation!!!!

    Also, William Wilberforce is identified with the abolition of the slave trade (1807) and slavery (1833), and rightly so.

    However, while his contribution towards the abolition of the slave trade was pivotal and laid the groundwork for the abolition of slavery, he was not the main mover and shaker where the abolition of slavery was concerned.

    Here is a quote from a website:

    “Some people involved in the anti-slave trade campaign such as Thomas Fowell Buxton, argued that the only way to end the suffering of the slaves was to make slavery illegal.

    Wilberforce disagreed, he believed that at this time slaves were not ready to be granted their freedom. He pointed out in a pamphlet that he wrote in 1807 that: “It would be wrong to emancipate (the slaves). To grant freedom to them immediately, would be to insure not only their masters’ ruin, but their own. They must (first) be trained and educated for freedom.”

    In 1823 Thomas Fowell Buxton formed the Society for the Mitigation and Gradual Abolition of Slavery. Buxton eventually persuaded Wilberforce to join his campaign but as he had retired from the House of Commons in 1825, he did not play an important part in persuading Parliament to bring an end to slavery.

    William Wilberforce died on 29th July, 1833. One month later, Parliament passed the Slavery Abolition Act that gave all slaves in the British Empire their freedom.”

    http://www.spartacus.schoolnet.co.uk/REwilberforce.htm

    As is apparent from this reference, it was the Quakers, Society of Friends, who were the real movers …. and shakers.


  24. Relax, just cool it. In Barbados, crypto-race baiting is one of our most popular pastimes. Come Monday morning, it’s back to work, paying bills and getting the children to school.


  25. Good to see you back John


  26. Inkwell wrote // April 10, 2010 at 9:29 AM…In Negroman’s post of April 8, 2010 at 11:01 AM, he makes the statement:…“I have a brother who was in a relationship with a White lady.” ..White lady? WHITE LADY??…from Negroman. I am not a psychiatrist, but I am having a field day with the psychological ramifications of that Freudian slip…Priceless.”

    I thought the same, especially as Negroman then went on to describe a sister in law who abused her husband and inlaws and whose actions were anything but ladylike.

    Reminds me of a court case a few years ago where a man in describing his two female partners to the court consistently referred to his black partner a a woman and his white partner as a lady.

    My question to the BU family.

    What does a black woman have to do in order for black men (and other men) to automatically refer to her as a lady?

    In other words if a black woman is an excellent daughter, sister, wife, mother, daughter in law, worker, entrepreneur, member of her church etc. does that make her a lady in the eyes of black men (and other men) or does she have to grow a white skin first?


  27. This race-baiting and backlash against black women is quite silly and immature. Only boys whine, make excuses and blame woman for his personal choices.


  28. @Anonymous
    Apologies accepted.
    Some people scars go to the bone and they really have a very hard time dealing with them. Personnally I think that negroman can be very insensitive when he speaks about people of different races. However he seems to recall literally the injustices to the Black
    race as if it is now. I can’t criticise him for what he feels. Maybe in time and only time his wounds would heal. It is not easy to forget such injustices.The past have given such a voice to NM rather we agree with him or not .The past is to blame and his way of lashing out.


  29. @BU FAM*

    June Willis suggests to all the SISTAZ* out there – “Sistas if you still desire the attention of every black man in a room, show up with a white one!

    Read more: http://www.essence.com/relationships/commentary_3/black_women_arent_the_only_ones_looking.php


  30. I FOUND THIS ARTICLE AMONGST THE “wordpress”BLOGSPHERE AND IT SHOWS ANOTHER SLANT ON THIS BLACK/WHITE DEBATE!!!

    ANGY WHITE MEN… OR IS IT BLACK WOMEN?

    May 19, 2009 by guywhite

    One of the claims repeated by the Left, especially in universities, is the anger of the white men over losing white women to blacks.

    I’ve mentioned before that the quality of women who date blacks isn’t particularly high. Other than an occasional hippy trying to upset her parents, these normally are women who are very low-class or not physically desirable. (Lisa Lamponelli: “As you know, I date blacks. Not by choice, I just haven’t lost enough weight to get a white guy.”)

    But this is a subjective judgment that blacks will never admit to. There is, however, a simple mathematical way of counting and proving that it is not the white men who are mad, but black women.

    Blacks are a minority. Outnumbered by more than 5 to 1 by whites, intermarriage between white women and black men means that black women are losing 5 times more potential mates than white men.

    If 10% of white women marry black men, the majority of black women will have lost their partner, while 90% of white men will still have a white woman. Even if 4-5% of white women marry black men, the loss of potential husbands for black women is devastatingly large.

    But wait, there’s more…

    White women who marry blacks are “replaced” by Asian women who prefer whites. Steve Sailer recently discussed an article that said that while black and white women show a strong preference for their own race (men don’t show a strong preference), Asian women do not.

    The result from a purely math viewpoint is that Asians make up for the lost white women. I am not suggesting that it’s better or just as good or whatever. The point merely is that white men, on the whole, do not suffer from a woman shortage. (One of the topics I’ve been meaning to address for a while now, which I will delay to let some of the passions from the immigration debate cool off, is that some men use anti-feminism to attack women in general because they individually can’t get a woman or have wife problems, and choose to blame it on “The Women”.)

    Some white men don’t want Asian women. But some do. Overall, the number of available women for white men is roughly what is needed.

    Now look at black women. They don’t get any “replacements” and the toll that white woman-black man relationships take is 5+ times higher.

    As a matter of simple math, black women lack partners. A black woman could do everything right and still wind up with no spouse.

    But wait, there’s more…

    The law of supply and demand dictates than when supply drops and demand remains stable, the price of the commodity increases. You may say that we, white men, shouldn’t date Asian women. But it’s nice to have the option so that there are enough women for all the men and avoid a disequilibrium that results in one side being much more “valuable” than the other.

    Black women are faced with that very disequilibrium. There’s much more demand for black men than there’s supply, and black men know it. Anyone who knows the law of supply and demand realizes that it means that black men can abuse black women. This abuse need not necessarily be in the form of beatings – it could be abandoning the mother of your child, sleeping with women for whom you are unwilling to do anything and from whom you will steal.

    Black women are facing a penis shortage, for a lack of better term. They can’t “trap their man” and force him to “buy the cow” because they know that another woman will be willing to take him just for the sex, or just to have a child with someone.

    Black men, thus, need not be fathers, husbands or even boyfriends. This naturally upsets women who want a husband and a father for their children.

    But wait, there’s more …

    There are a lot of studies that show that women are feel worse about themselves after one-night stands (while men feel better). This is not “just our society”. There’s a reason behind it.

    Everyone’s unconscious goal in life is to reproduce. Men don’t carry children and can, therefore, have children with many women. If you share your genes with a woman who has bad genes, it’s not a problem because you can move on to another. Ultimately, the more women you impregnate, the higher the odds of your genes surviving.

    But a woman has to carry a child and is limited by that. If she has a child from a father with bad genes, she is stuck with that child and the odds of her genes surviving aren’t great.

    If a woman sleeps around, she’s risking the survival of her DNA.

    Furthermore, men will stick with a woman if they believe it ultimately helps them. If she has good genes (and is a good life partner), it makes sense to “invest” more into her children than to move on to the next woman who may have inferior genes.

    Thus, when you have a one-night stand with a woman, you are basically saying, “you aren’t worth it; I’m better off spreading my seed to a bunch of broads like you than to invest in you because you are kinda crappy.”

    Since a woman doesn’t have the option to “spread her seed”, she doesn’t make the same statement to the man. Instead, she says, “you are so great, I am willing to have my limited number of offspring with you even though you won’t help me keep them alive.” That’s quite a compliment, if you ask me.

    None of this is done consciously. But that is how things work. You can deny this (only if you know nothing about psychology and the unconscious), but you can’t deny that not having a man and having to sleep around is not something that raises women’s self-esteem.

    The math works in such way that black women are forced to compete for the scarce black men. This competition is necessarily degrading. But they can’t blame the very black men they are trying to attract (though they do plenty of that too).

    So they have to blame whites, the women in particular. They sit there mad.

    Mad that they have nobody to have sex with, nobody to take care of their children, nobody to pay the bills, nobody to put a nail in the wall or change a tire.

    And so they get mad.

    We white men aren’t the ones going mad from sexual frustration, as liberals claim. We have enough potential partners.

    Instead, it is black women who lack potential partners and have to tolerate degradation as a result.

    The professors are right in their general theory. They are just wrong about the target.


  31. Terence M. Blackett quotes guywhite as saying “Blacks are a minority. ”

    So Terence can you tell me how guywhite’s argument works when blacks are a majority as in Barbados?


  32. @ J
    “So Terence can you tell me how guywhite’s argument works when blacks are a majority as in Barbados?”

    It maybe easy to draw strands of parallel between how BLACK women in my country have been the object of hurt, pain, hardship and victimology due to a culture of patriarchy by men who due to certain AFRO-centric, tribal customs have perpetuated an ongoing anthropological -mythological narrative quite similar to that outlined by “GUYWHITE”…

    One of the difficulties we have as a people is recognizing our own failures, incongruences and inconsistencies where matters of Black culture is involved – hence therefore as a NATION* of peoples, LIBERATION* from the shackles which BOB MARLEY and others have so clearly elucidated remains lost in the mist of primordiality.

    So AFRICA* & its daughters remain chained to a wall of circumstances which after 400 years seems almost inconceivable to break FREE* of – no matter how educated a PEOPLE* we have become!!!

    The issues has always surrounded THE BLACK FAMILY* and will continue whether the sociology is within the BARBADIAN setting, AFRICA* or in the RAINBOW* nations of the world where we are deemed in the minority – ( but please let us be careful with the use of the word “MINORITY” as the connotation is much more subliminal than we would currently accept…)

    I am always intrigued by the “white man’s” perception (especially when he tries to purport an honest, analytical evaluation of the facts – I am often suspect of his motives (but sadly, GOD* is the only ONE* who reads the heart).

    Nevertheless, we must give folks the benefit of the doubt until they reveal anything different…


  33. @JOHN

    We appreciate the role of the QUAKERS in the historical exodus and demise of slavery as an “ILLEGALLY” enforced institution upon the 40 million AFRICANS who were forcefully removed, tortured, incarcerated, bought & SOLD* and MURDERED* to either prop up the fragile walls of Western Capitalism based on Max Weber’s “Protestant Ethic” and who unlike ASKENAZI JEWS* – still await REPARATIONS*, COMPENSATION & AMELIORATION for the diabolically-inspired travesties and injustices of the past…

    Until Black folks speak with “ONE” voice – someone else (other than us) will continue to write and assume responsibility for our history (past & present)!!!


  34. Some people have got books to sell and testing grounds to cultivate.


  35. Terence M. Blackett // April 9, 2010 at 9:52 AM

    The video above is one of the most stupidest videos ever and even if you want to suggest that white equates to ‘leprosy’ – they are still more beautiful to look at. Do you think that by creating a video suggest that white skin is leprous that all of a sudden we would view the whites as ugly? they are naturally pretty. get a life


  36. @ A QUEEN

    Before you go slinging “MUD” my way – I was asking a pivotal question based on the following:-

    “@ANONYMOUS

    “The mutation responsible for pale skin occurred approx. 5,500-6,000 yr ago.”

    I then proceeded to ask the unanswered (thus far) of ANONYMOUS:-

    “IS THE BELOW VIDEO YOUR REASONING & LOGIC BEHIND YOUR THESIS???”

    I was not insinuating, implying, muliciously intentioning, salaciously importing or mendaciously denoting anything that you are trying to infer…

    ALL I DID WAS ASK FOR A POSITION!!!

    Clearly the objectification of your prejudices is alarming apparent….

    Try being a bit more studious by paying attention in class!!!


  37. @ Anonymous

    The fascinating thing about the publishing world – is our rites to publish under a pseudonym in the same folks BLOG* under the cloak anonymity…

    As least, folks know who I am – and I frankly don’t give a SHITE* who references my work as a means of political or religious censure, backlash or FATWA* – be it ACADEMIC, SOCIOECONOMIC, RELIGIOUS or otherwise…

    The most dangerous man in the world is the man who has nothing to lose – and is ONLY accountable to HIS GOD!!!


  38. Dear Terence M. Blackett yyou wrote “It maybe easy to draw strands of parallel between how BLACK women in my country have been the object of hurt, pain, hardship and victimology due to a culture of patriarchy by men who due to certain AFRO-centric, tribal customs have perpetuated an ongoing anthropological -mythological narrative quite similar to that outlined by “GUYWHITE”…”

    Did you (and guywhite) mean to say that if men behave badly it hurts their women and their children?

    Then why didn’t you just say so?


  39. @ J

    “if men behave badly it hurts their women and their children?”

    Is that an understatement or what?


  40. Not only are Black Men in the hands of white women, they have found refuge in ‘the warm, tender, loving, caressing arms’ of white males… their gay lords, the same arms which once hung them from trees, shot them like dogs in the street, fire-bombed their homes and churches………..

    Is there another group of people on this planet that are so filled with self-hatred?

    We suffer from a case of the perpetual stockholm syndrome.

    @Negroman……How you doing? I too share your sentiments on the overdue elimination of that beastly boer. If the two young men who committed this heroic act are an indication of the coming generation we have a bright future ahead of us. This is not the generation that will holler and bawl in the streets …’we shall overcome’ or the generation that will sit at the oppressors’ table and cut deals with him while sacrificing his people on the altar of ‘equality’ like the scummy politicians in Barbados or the Boule Blacks in the US or like Nelson Mandela ..this is a generation of doers. NM make no mistake this was not an assassination. Most would love to tar and feather your hide while genuflecting to the real beast, but stay strong, because most bajans are nothing more than a bunch of mealy mouthed cowards who talk under their breath but would sell you out in a minute. Work on your children, like I do with mine. Its the children who can make this monumental difference.


  41. Blessed Are the ????? for they will inherit the earth.


  42. For they will continually be despised, dispossessed, disinherited and crushed to the earth.


  43. When I was at University, one of my professors and now my good friend ask me what the heck did I wrote in one of my projects. I said what did he mean. He outlined that my sentences were wordy with many big words and unnecessary phrases that he just did not know what it was I wanted to say. He then simplified my sentences. I was shocked to see that what took me two paragraphs he wrote in five lines. Terrence Blackett’s superfluity of words makes his sentences very complex and hard to read. Keep it simple and less wordy and it becomes a pleasure to read. I hardly read any of what you write because most of it, not all, just turns me off. I hope that you can accept constructive criticism and write simple sentences.


  44. Since the subject of the murder of the South African White Supremacist Eugene Terre Blanche has been brought up, look at the following video of a member of his party threatening a female Black activist on live TV in South Africa a few days ago.

    It is off topic, but I wanted to put it out there because I have been noticing that some non Black foreigners have been getting quite uppity in Barbados lately. This video shows what Black folks in Barbados might have to endure in the future if we are not careful.

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/04/09/white-supremacist-black-a_n_531621.html


  45. Last November T M Blackett writing under the pseudonym ( Dreamstarworld) said he tried to provide economic advice to the PM and it was rejected. He promised to provide that advice to David (and only David in January). Now he has submitted a rambling column which is either about race, interracial relationships or about Blacks in public schools. Gathering from the responses I would surmise that most respondents have zeroed in on the relationship aspect of the article but to this observer it proves two things….

    Blackett knows nothing about economics and even less about relationships….


  46. @Johnny Postle

    Thanks for the criticism – constructive or otherwise!!!

    Thankfully, I am still in the University setting but I also appreciate the school of hard knocks…

    In the current forum, thread or BLOG* – the use of hyperbole, flowery language as you term it or whatever the anachronism used – frankly, it is who I am and I have never danced to the drumbeat of anyone in my life including the good folks on the “hill” who pay for my research work, the publisher who feels my language is too incendiary or the wife who feels I need to calm down…

    Brother, it is what it is!!!

    @Sargeant

    Thanks for throwing a Molotov Cocktail my way…

    By the way, in case you haven’t recognized from simple observational analysis – our wives, mothers and sistas are in the vanguard of those who understand the fundamental calculus of ECONOMICS* and we would do well to take a page out of their books – that said…

    A relationship is NOT a cul de sac as many on the BLOG* would have you believe – actually what goes around comes around – if you give it enough time!!!

    So while you are busy lobbing Molotov cocktails – remember folks who lives in straw houses shouldn’t play with FIRE*…


  47. @TM Blackett

    In your submission there are many references to US statistics and sources, why don’t you tell us about the state of interracial relationships in your native Britain? Last time I checked a high percentage of Black families had members (both male and female) involved in these relationships.

    Let’s hear about the issues of race, education and social interaction in your backyard

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