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RIP Nicole Harrison-Watson

The death of 37 year old Nicole Harrison-Watson remains top of the mind for many Barbadians a couple days after she was found murdered at her Ferniehurst, Black Rock, St Michael home. While it does no good to speculate about what motivated her assailant (a suspect is being questioned by Police), it affords the living the opportunity to critically and dispassionately analyse the poor conditions which many Barbadians live under in Barbados and in particular our young women.

BU subscribes to the view that a woman with her unique nurturing quality was created to complement a man. When the two – man and woman – function in harmony, they are able to optimize on their mental, physical, and emotional state. The result is that the society we cohabit becomes a good place in which we can live quality lifes. The challenge of the government, NGOs and civil society at large is how do we manage to achieve the societal equilibrium required with all the competing ideologies at play.

Without fuelling the puerile debate about building a society instead of an economy, how can we pontificate about the success of the Barbados society, if according to the most recentย  Barbados Country Assessment of Living Conditions Report (CALC)ย  โ€œpersons living below the poverty line in Barbados has double, since the last study on living conditions and poverty was undertaken over a decade agoโ€? Pertinent in the report is that 19.3% of Barbadian individuals in 15% ofย  households earn income below the poverty line – 9.1% of individuals 7% of households were living below the indigence line at the time the survey was carried out. An easy conclusion to make, anecdotally though it is, these numbers with the prevailing economic hardships must be trending upward.

A significantย  percentage of individuals and households operating below the poverty line are located in government housing developments โ€“ Deacons, Pine, Silver Hill, St Matthias and other clusters known for low income habitation. Of interest to BU is that a significant of number of individuals operating below the poverty line are women and on p.110 of the report 38% recorded no level of examination passed. One does not have to be a rocket scientist to understand what this current state will breed.

The bigger point is that there is bound to be a positive correlation in the lack of social cohesion and crime in many of these depressed neighbourhoods like Deacons and the Pine and the declining economic condition. It is no secret that Deacon is overridden with drug lords whose stranglehold on the women especially is born out of the over crowding, lack of opportunity, under employment, hunger, lack of education voluminously articulated in the (CALC). How many women existing below the poverty line are abused, rape, beaten because of the infestation of a drug culture in these developments which makes those with money (usually men) the โ€˜bankersโ€™ in community?

In a negative environment accepting the findings in the CALC report what happens to families if the women are victims? Without the woman how will the family survive? Of course some will get a lifeline but many will be sucked into a black hole of poverty and their generations to follow. We have to do better to protect our women to enable them to fulfil their nurturing role. No society can deem to have progressed if we are not protecting our womenfolk, if we are losing our womenfolk.

Barbadians one and all have to agitate to ensure the authorities mobilize an action plan to fight back against the scourge of poverty wrecking havoc on 19.3% of Barbadians (which equates to about 58,000 people) across Barbados. Of importance, let us protect our womenfolk,


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  1. and what about men who if the female makes more money than them think that it is the female who should take on most of the financial burden of the children and used that as an excuse for not supporting the children.

    @ onions

    yuh know i have heard all the same excuses men make not to support their children and high up on the list is the one you mention . but if the man has proof by records that the money giving is not being used to support the children he can always seek relief from the court and ask for custody of the children but however i suspect that he is not going to do so because of the burdensome tasks it takes in rearing a child not to mention the freedoms one has to give up and very few men are willing to give much of anything!


  2. David what you said is absolutely true but again men prefer to wear blinders and act like it is all the woman fault. until men stop seeing women as sexual objects to be used and abused and discarded this problem would continue to exist. however i am hoping that the abused mothers of today would have learned a lesson and emphasis emphatically to their children the importance of having a good education and in so doing it can help to curve this generational cycle of abuse in the household . yes there are good men out there but not enough to fight this cause because most of the time these good hearted men are looked down upon by other men and because they don’t want to frowned upon by other men they remain quiet . therfore it is up to women who have been victimised to keep sounding the alarm and let abusive men know that enough is enough .

  3. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    I feel your pain……..it goes back to my opening remarks….Mars and Venus..who gives…who believes should be receiving regardless….the solution…to get both to realize..they both should equally contribute. But we know that is easier said than done…What is a surety is that on attending men discussion forums….not one parenting father went after a mother with “the parenting RIGHT to be paid for the job…do you know why….? They view it differently….my offspring…and not a God given RIGHT to get My support .Enough said.


  4. @ac

    Indeed, the findings of the CALC report should be very disturbing to all. Can you imagine the offspring of that 40% of women who have not gained any examination passes and juxtapose it to the fact many will have absentee fathers? The vulnerability of the woman in this situation is scary.

    It is a simple point which Onions is not grasping for what ever reason.

  5. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    Sign of the changing times (expectations).
    A murder suicide in Antigua….wife stabs her husband….thereafter drinks poison and die…..TWIST…not what (roles) we are accustomed…

  6. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    David
    It is a simple point which Onions is not grasping for what ever reason.
    ++++++++++++++++++
    Wish you would stop dogging Onions…..no sweat , I have grown accustom.
    Why can’t you accept…we have slightly different views….?


  7. @Onions

    People engage on BU so get use to it. If you drop an opinion expect to be challenged sometimes Ok?

  8. The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall Avatar
    The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall

    @BU.David: “People engage on BU so get use to it. If you drop an opinion expect to be challenged sometimes Ok?

    This is why the “cool kids” hang out here….


  9. @ onions

    and you know why woman react in such a way is because most of the time these absentee fathers make promise after promise then the woman gives up and lashes out at all men. but you know something it also does great harm to children because of the woman’s anger towards the man for what he has done the children especially the girls builds up a resentment which they too carry on into adulthood rendering them helpless in maintaining a good relationship and the boys not seeing a father around they too take what they have seen their mother ability to take care of them and relieves it in their relationship with woman so there we have a vicious cycle of hopelessness and a lost generation of broken relationships and broken families, that is why i emphasis that the burden is simply up to the male in helping to discard the victimization of their families and be the man that they were designed to be to help strengthen and renew a spirit of being wanted and appreciated by their household, Woman do what we do best and that is to fight but when all is said and done they will put their family first and men can be included.

  10. The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall Avatar
    The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall

    @ac: “Woman do what we do best and that is to fight but when all is said and done they will put their family first and men can be included.

    Let us please be honest.

    What only human women can do is birth other humans.

    Everything else falls out of that.

    No joke intended.


  11. There is arole for the man and the woman in the raising of a child. In many, too many cases, the woman wants to play both roles and only wants the man to bring the money. I’ve heard of many cases where the man supports the child whether through the court system or privately, but everytime he goes to see the child, he/she is never at home, gone by a aunt, uncle, grandmother. Until both parents realise they have a responsibilty to this child, ther will always be a problem, and both women and men will suffer for raising this child singlehandedly.

  12. The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall Avatar
    The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall

    @The Scout: “Iโ€™ve heard of many cases where the man supports the child whether through the court system or privately, but everytime he goes to see the child, he/she is never at home, gone by a aunt, uncle, grandmother.

    Such data is subjective, and would be rejected by any honest study.

    Do you have any hard data to submit?


  13. Onions
    There is a new breed of woman in Barbados, CAREER WOMEN, who only needs a man to empregnant them, then he can do to HELL. These children come up not knowing who their father is and is mummy’s baby. It is children like this who lashes out and don’t know how to treat a woman because he never had a man to teach him things that women can’t teach them. In many cases these mothers uphold their unruly boys/men, even though they know they are wrong. They usually end up spending thousands of dollars trying to get them out of the arms of the police. These children are rebelling because of the lack of male guidance, no fault of the father.

  14. The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall Avatar
    The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall

    @The Scout: “These children are rebelling because of the lack of male guidance, no fault of the father.

    Have you considered this might be because of other influences?


  15. @ Scout

    Stereo -typing of woman is not the answer. they are real problems that need to be addressed such as abuse of woman which leads to a downward spiral in the stability of families and a childs well being which men have forfeited for a myriad of reasons . the route which men have chosen to addressed the issue has only stifle and made these problems harder to be resolve but has cause division between both male and female , now it is time that all men man up and say that what they have done in the stagnation of their children and relationship is wrong and a new approach and direction is needed.

  16. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    @ Scout
    Hear, Hear…..You think I minding Lone Ranger ac, and Tonto..?…We my brothers live in the real world…..some of these women ….” only want the seed..” I have heard this with my very own ears…Some these evil ladies..want to live by themselves…with as many men and women they could …they want independence from any man ( but that is their prerogative)…..child but a meal ticket, SUV ticket, clothes ticket…..Yo Scout,.. like you Onions live in the real world…..ac enjoys her schizophrenic role ….When the bell rings …I can see her walking but with a STRONG conviction…of every single twisted view she has put fwd on this blog….
    (bet ac divorced, and born September October )…lol


  17. @ ONIONS

    LOL! another male tactic. women scorned ! divorced! but the month is a new twist how about the Sign.

  18. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    @ ac
    Girl you cud laugh but we men duz got to put up with dis shit.
    Scorpio…?

  19. The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall Avatar
    The entity who used to be known as Chris Halsall

    @OOB: “Girl you cud laugh but we men duz got to put up with dis shit.

    That’s the fundamental problem, isn’t it.

    The girls laugh.

    The boys don’t.

    Who’s having the more fun?


  20. ac
    I’m not saying some men are like angels, but neither are some women, both genders MUST carry some of the blame. However it is this socalled INDEPENDENCE women now project that is causing a big rift between men and women. Thank God there are still many levelheaded men and women out there who are not getting the roles of the two genders criscrossed. You can always tell the ones who thinks they are superior, they write their name Ms Whoever. To me that indicates Man Sometimes. Even them don’t know who or what they are. Many of these women are catching their ROYAL, but try to impress that they are somebody. Some of them need to come back into the REAL WORLD and help improve the standard of living in this country, instead of playing BIGSHOT and flying into MIAMI or PUERTO RICO to buy a dress to wear to a function, while neglecting going to the supermarket to purchase food, just to keep up with the JONES. Can you blame a man for that?


  21. @ Scout
    most woman did not choose to be in dependant but were forced and for several different reason some of which were financial and lack of support from their partners. most women would tell you they hate the rat race of having to work two or three jobs and put up with all the stress that goes along with it, but would rather prefer a committed and fulfilling a relationship however when they chips are down they would do what they have to do to maintain their home and a comfortable lifestyle over a “sorry ass good fuh nutting man who does nothing for them.

  22. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    Talking about Mrs.So n So……Onions reliably informed that the bassa bassa up at NCF by two strong head women had to come to a front sometime….They say the two could not gree from Day 1..Well ya dun kno….Ole time entrenched strong party connections duz hold more play than PhD-ship with a pinch of uncle salt…Talk bout WOMEN….power hungry…ac where do you fit in the sort of things ?….grandad a stalwart or what ?


  23. why am i not surprised that the MEN have not shown any support for abused woman on this blog while others have remained silent /it has been painful reading some of the comments and the way woman are being protrayed.

  24. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    @ ac ..Because
    Women want to eat their cake and have it too…..based on all said ..I know you could figure it out…What I would ask (in contrary) is how come women could be such a hard nose knaving DOBitch..yet fall back to being ..the sweet innocent beings of the past …wanting compassion of..”support for us abused women”…things have changed babies…..Women wanted no diff between men n women…now you got it… please ask us men for no sulking quarters

  25. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    Ladies when you finish with a man, first thing change all the locks on your doors. And in general be very careful who has keys to your house. If the person does not live there they should not have a key. When visitors come let them stand at the door and knock and wait to be invited in.

    And a message to NHC: Write it into the leases that only adults who are listed on the lease, and the children of those adults can have keys. And then ENFORCE, ENFORCE, ENFORCE. That means no keys for boyfriends, ex boyfriends, non-resident husbands or ex-husbands etc.

  26. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    And men you can’t own a woman. Massa day dun de’d. If the woman doesn’t like you anymore

    Walk.

    Fast

  27. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    And everybody:

    It is NEVER right to hit.

    Never right to hit a woman.

    Never right to hit a man.

    Never right to hit a child.

    We all have to stop hitting our children, our girlfriends and wives, our boyfriends and husbands.

    Because massa day dun’ de’d and this hitting, licking, beating, and brutality that we brought forward from slavery has to be thrown away.

  28. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    And everybody when you see something bad happening say something, do something.

    Don’t pretend that if you act like it isn’t happening it will go away.

    It will not go away.

    It will get worse, and worse, and worse like a life sore.

    Do something.

  29. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    And the authorities, you have to take reports of spankings, beatings, slappings, burnings, kickings seriously.

    I guarantee you that this is not the first act of violence that Nicole has endured. I bet that she was licked at home and at school as a child. I bet that this is not the first time this man hit her.

    Long ago way back in the 1960’s the Alexandra school did not lick any of the students for anything and the school turned our fine women.

    Who reintroduced licks to the Alexandra school?

    Is it you?

    You should be ashamed of yourself.

  30. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    And men, talk to your sons.

    Love your sons.

    Support them.

    Don’t engage in this ignorant pretense that if you give some money and see them every other weekend that you are being a good father. You are NOT being a good father.

    And bad, neglectful fathers raise bad, neglectful, angry or violent sons.

    And stop this nonsense of separating children form their mothers. What is the matter with you that you can’t be a loving step-father to the children of those women who are already mothers?

    What is the matter with you?

    If you don’t like women with children, then WALK and find a childless woman. There are billions of them around.

  31. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    When last did a Bajan woman kill her boyfriend or husband?

    Being a Bajan boyfriend or husband is to be in a very safe place.

  32. Random Thoughts Avatar
    Random Thoughts

    Quoting old onions May 1 at 7:38 a.m. “Are you aware that a gentleman raising his own son or daughter is unable to have a child support order issued in the Lower Courtโ€ฆsince there is no provision at this level to entertain his request ?. however a female can. Laws need to be changed”

    I agree.

    Get your male buddies who occupy 90% of the seats in the house to work on it TODAY.


  33. what you guys seem to be avoiding is the missing link which contributes to poverty that being of absentee fathers one that should be of real concern and should be adressed .


  34. @Scout

    I am notsaying that there are no built in problems in any relationship with or without children. However some of these problems should not be used as an excuse to make the children suffer. also you mention 50 /50 partnersship however when one parent is absent that in itself becomes a bone of contention by the one who is absent by way of admitting that all other responsibilty other than taking financial care of the children becomes void and the rest should be taken care by the one with custody . which begs the questions do men really understand their responsibilties and duty and care to their children inrespect to all the blame they have cast on women who stays for the long haul wether men give them any kind of help or not.

  35. islandgal246 Avatar

    Random thoughts…Glad to read your contributions.

    AC….You are on a roll keep it up.

    To all the career women HATERS….it is because of insecurity and inferiority you HATE successful women. Women have become successful and have managed to juggle well and effectively. If you really look at the ratio of successful women and unsuccessful men you will see that more and more women are ahead. By successful I mean who own their own homes and cars, who are bringing up children on their own. Many of these children are well behaved and well adjusted children so I don’t know where you all get this idea that the successful women have lawless children. That is a myth. Look at the socioeconomic background of many of the incarcerated youth. Many if not most of them come from depressed neighbourhoods where their mothers have to scrunt to get a dollar or do not work at all. The only thing these women have in common with successful women is that they are single parents. Women must educate themselves and to strive to make a better life for themselves before they embark on having children. That does not always work out that way BUT start the thought process from school. Women MUST learn to choose their men very carefully, and learn to steer clear of the garbage that crowd our streets. It is better to be alone and unhappy than to be with someone and unhappy. A woman MUST NOT depend on someone else for her happiness.

  36. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    Maybe some of us have not fully understood what was put fwd by Scout and yours truly….that a lot of these career women…though they want no male around… want the male’s child ..for the money… By not having the male role model around….raises a problem child ..if a son.. @ loss for role father..if daughter …wants to copy the misfit mother…catch 22 all over again.Let’s face it ac ..it’s not the father not giving money to support the family in all cases…but a selfish self opinionated DOB..who cares a rat’s ass about society or its problems(as long as she gets what she wants)….and would sit there …brooding like a cat…..about “those men are the problem”… and not willing to move a wink from that stance ,,,even if seen the light..It is this type of individual…that a man will avoid..and or seperate from…. for fear that the spirit of God may not always dwell in man.
    You see as long as these new wanna be independents…want to enforce their wonderful new creme le creme rules……we got problems… for not all men get on their knees like puppies………but entrenched fighters like pitbulls to the end.There lies our violence problem.

  37. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    @IsGal
    That is a myth. Look at the socioeconomic background of many of the incarcerated youth. Many if not most of them come from depressed neighbourhoods where their mothers have to scrunt to make a living
    ****************
    Really now…..did you watch CBC 7.00PM news last night?

  38. islandgal246 Avatar

    Ole Onions…I didn’t watch the news. What happened?

  39. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    Come now….we not that daff


  40. The only ones seems to be brooding is onions and scout and when it comes right down to it like most men they feel threatened by the womans independence and there lost of control of a womans/actions


  41. It is all about POWER itmust be hard formen to lose can you imagine the russick which men caused when womAn were giving the RIGHT TO VOTE the same accusary accusations were heaped on woman . then imagine when woman learend to drive i could only imAgine the debate of “too much freedom ” women have heard it all and nothing has stop us in our desire to fight for our RIGHTS

  42. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    Look umman doan B a pantii…lose power when a woman gone. ?..You a moojan…remember the days of Harry’s on Bay st …or you too young ?


  43. So you were a frequent patron of Harry’s Nitery nuh ? Yuh ole wutless ting a ling!

  44. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    @ ac
    The amount of ladies of the night have quadrupled in recent months……are we saying according to this article ….its the fault of stingy and they should be blamed ?
    If we pass by Bush Hill nowadays at 10.30…..lower Bay St. as well there by the Family Planning….the ladies are doing a brisker than ever trade….
    How do we assume these things ? Are they the results of the impoverished female left to support alone her kin ? Or is this the results of a fractured and over taxed and disenfranchised people in a society and not an economy ? Tell me acIslandGal which one is it ?


  45. @ onions

    there is an article which might enlighten your mixed up and confuse brain on the plight of the single woman and its effect on poverty
    you can google
    http://www.the grio.com/sin
    http://www.the grio.com/…/single-mothers-need=pathway=out-of-poverty


  46. @ onions typical male mentality always lurking behind the bushes for unsuspecting ladies of the night. man yuh too ole fuh dat behave yuhself nuh yuh time has come and gone not enuff viagra to save the day fuh you.keep dat up yuh soon hav a heart attack

  47. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    You are so wrong…….Onions.got to feed the BEAST….when she hungers…her name is python and she no friend of Lady Viagra..nor Cialias.
    The only bushes she is accustomed to are the airy’ bushes. Besides in case you didn’t know ….Onions is but a Spring Buck…and shall not see retirement till another 15-20 yrs of sowing the needed seed …lol


  48. Wait onions de only seed you be planting is de ones dat yuh might be planting in yuh backyard. .

    Anyhow as for planting too many men plant seed and never look back to see how they grow then one day that sprout becomes a giant and all of a sudden the planter decides that he was the rightful owner of the seed you see the seed he never took care of is now some thing worthwhile and the planter sees that owership is all worthwhile.


  49. Had hoped when this blog was posted we could share about how the number below the poverty line has double and the implications for wider society. Particularly the impact on young uneducated women who have to be the mother/father of families. What does it portend for Barbados? We know that women caught in this vicious cycle of poverty become vulnerable. There must be long term implications right?

  50. old onion bags Avatar
    old onion bags

    @ David
    What you had hoped for was an exercise in being a statistical suggester and not in pursuit of reality.You, like others, had hoped that the sad state of things hinged to the backs of poor disenfranchised young men. What was put fwd was actual experiences of the mostly down trodden…often wrongly blame…conveniently called to be in crisis…. (sometimes rightly so)… of being kicked to the curb by an outdated judicial system. Those left behind( womenchildren) can only see the end result >..”.it is because of men impregnating us… that this is our ordeal…. AND NOT …”it is the system….whereby we being the disenfranchised, and poor…. will always be so… the global way of things … ever since the days of the Bible..we constantly subjected to measures (LIME) to enable us to remain poor to enable the rich to be rich “. Our men… fight they must… also en roped.

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