It was only on July 22, 2007 that BU published a piece entitled~The Family Law Council, Long In Coming But Will It Work?For so long so many men have had to raise children who biologically don’t belong to them. For so long the system in Barbados has made it such an onerous exercise for a man to prove paternity. By our estimation it cost approximately $2000.00 dollars (inclusive of lawyer fees) to solicit a paternity test. The process must be managed through a lawyer; there is no escaping the fees to be paid. Can you imagine the large number of men from the low working class who cannot muster that amount of money to get a paternity test? Now we have these women with “dicks” who sit on the Family Law Council who are making pronouncements which bear no relevance to the problem at hand.
There is a saying that any idiot can use statistics to sound good!
The letter below was submitted to BU and the sender requested that we publish it. When we read the letter we felt the pain and frustration of a man’s concern at the way our society has turned its back on those men who are every day being victimized by women and the court system. The old saying that men are dogs appear to be a perception which has become irreversible.
Dear BU
Please make an available list of places or institutions where fathers can go an be tested for the answer to whether or not they are truly the father of a particular child, and not wait on the courts to prove this.
This a deep social issue. Furthermore, they are those men who are supporting children and they have some reasonable doubt in their minds as to whether or not the children are theirs. There are many men out there who are bursting their bellies to support children that have been “jacketed” upon them. This is a fact. Many men are categorized as “dogs” when they win certain pursuits but women are always classed as “victims” as an excuse for their behaviours or demise.
Even some churches have classed men as a reproach and women are embraced as “weaker vessels”. See the reality of it in the MOTHERS DAY church services. When FATHERS DAY come around, the service is a shabby event. Ministry to the TOTAL person means the human race….not re-creating a total woman only or total man only. Some churches need to re-visit their ministry programs and objectives.
What a shame!
I am a divorced person and during that process I came to realized that while women and organizations are making a fanfare about domestic violence and abuse to women, many men are verbally and emotionally abused daily by their female counterparts. I dare not speak of the physical abuse that is hidden because of the “macho-man” image. But there are women who inflict all kinds of blows on men and it is not reported by these men because the police would laugh at them.
So much for a social equality and justice.
This is just my observation and recommendation and plea. Publish the list, please.
Regards
Dr A
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